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Making decisions then turning on them

  • 21-04-2016 7:33pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    Just looking for some opinions and thoughts on a small (maybe not) problem I have when faced with big (life altering I guess) decisions. Book suggestions also welcome!

    After I have made a decision, let's say regarding a college course, career direction, new house, etc, I seem to to instantly turn on my decision and criticize it with resulting in an inability to make the final decision. I go into overdrive thinking about negative scenarios that won't even happen. I am quite a worrier and am always thinking about the future rather than the now. I sometimes think what the hell is up with my brain, like ''you were on my side a minute ago and now you have turned on me''. I've thought that maybe part of it is being afraid of being happy or thinking it may all go wrong so instead of trying it I'll stick with what I'm doing and I won't suffer any loss.

    The latest is that after 3 years working in finance I decided to go to Australia last November on WHV thinking I would easily get a similar job. I didn't, and probably because of a stupid superiority complex I wouldn't entertain the idea of working in a cafe, shops, etc. I came home after a few months when my money ran out.

    I've been job hunting a while now but there is nothing that interests me (ironic given all I wanted in Australia was a finance job). I'm considering returning to Australia now and work in casual employment (have been in contact with employers) and travel around before coming home after 6 months (as I have 6 months left on WHV). But I just cannot seem to make my final decision. I think what will employers think of this, what will other people think of me working in a shop after going to college, giving up a good job, etc. I shouldn't be thinking like that but I do. I think of the future and what I want, which is to do a masters and get into a separate career area and how I should do this as soon as possible (I'm 27 btw) and not waste time. But then I think I went to Australia for a reason and I should try to get back out there for the experience and freedom really.

    Anyway not exactly a huge ordeal going on for me given all the problems people have these days but a recurring problem all the same - the inability to make the big decisions and stick to them. Any advice welcome and thanks in advance.


Comments

  • #2
    Diziet
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 831 ✭✭✭Diziet


    It's not as if you re signing your life away. If you fancy going to Australia, go. 'What's the worst that can happen' is a very good question to ask. It is ok to change your mind, you are an adult, you are not at school :-).

    Having said all that, it is a pity to lose out on experiences while you try to make the perfect decision. 'Done' is better than 'good', so maybe concentrate on trying different things and go for the experiences and growth.


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