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Social anxiety and public speaking meetups

  • 03-04-2016 1:15pm
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    Registered Users Posts: 17 red_barn


    Hi All

    I am a 26 year old male that has suffered with social anxiety for as long as i can remember. I have done lots of things to try and overcome it including public speaking courses, meditation, hypnotherapy and medication. It ranges from mild discomfort to fairly extreme panic attacks in certain situations

    I have decided enough is enough and I am going to do everything I can to finally overcome it naturally. I think that means actively seeking out as many situations as possible to feel really uncomfortable and just be comfortable with feeling uncomfortable.

    What I think would be great is if we could get a small group of like minded people to maybe meet up weekly / bi weekly and maybe practise speaking on chosen topics for 2 - 3 minutes at a time in a comfortable, informal setting until such point that we no longer have this mind boggling fear.

    My life would be so much better if I didn't have this. Please let me know if there are other people that would be interested in these meetups?

    I live in Dublin 6

    Thanks guys


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,108 ✭✭✭ Jellybaby1


    I hope you get some replies as you don't really want to end up like myself, in my 60's and still nervy about public speaking. I've tried to enrol in courses only to find they don't start due to a 'lack of interest'. I don't think its so much a lack of interest as the fact that people just lose their nerve at the last minute and just can't take that step.


  • Registered Users Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭ eviltwin


    Step Out run social anxiety groups in Dublin http://www.stepoutireland.com/

    If you want further information just ask.


  • Registered Users Posts: 8 Connoc24


    Hi I would be interested in meet up also.

    From like-minded social anxiety sufferer


  • Registered Users Posts: 83 ✭✭ outland1985


    Would be definitely be interested in this


  • Registered Users Posts: 17 red_barn


    Hi guys


    Thanks vey much for your replies.
    So it seems we have a few interested people which is great. I would be hoping to get these started as soon as possible.

    Does anyone have any suggestions for locations? I live in Rathmines but am flexible in terms of meet up places.

    What would be ideal is somewhere that was free and would be private so that we could practise in a comfortable environment. I can't think of anywhere specific at the moment. Even if there were rehearsal rooms we could rent out for a small fee for a few hours? And we could divide the price between us? I would be hoping for a small group of just 3 - 5 people max, so that it wouldn't be a daunting experience and even just talking to like minded people would probably be a great help...

    Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I think this could be a really positive experience as we could all help each other

    All the best


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  • Registered Users Posts: 2,122 ✭✭✭ c montgomery


    Is there a thing called toastmasters or something? I think it's a group that helps with public speaking. An old friend did it years ago but that's all I know of it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,108 ✭✭✭ Jellybaby1


    Is there a thing called toastmasters or something? I think it's a group that helps with public speaking. An old friend did it years ago but that's all I know of it.

    Some people get on all right with Toastmasters. I've been a few times over the years but was never comfortable with their style. They don't train you, but they definitely give you plenty of encouragement to get up and just do it, and all the speeches get critiqued afterwards, helpful of course. Also, it was a bit expensive for my budget.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1 cocololo2012


    Hi, I'm a 26 year old Masters student and would be really interested in meeting up as have come to a stage where my fear is holding me back career-wise! Have you guys met up yet? Maybe if we get in touch with Step Out they might offer us a place to meet?


  • Registered Users Posts: 20 loolloo78


    Hi there

    Was a group ever set up? I suffer with social anxiety mainly in the work place for as long as I can remember and I can't go on like this any more. My main issue at the moment is anxiety making and taking calls when colleagues can hear which is every day as my Job involves a lot of phone calls in an open plan office. If any of you have managed to ease/overcome your anxiety can you please contact me with advice/suggestions on how to do it. I am also very interested in a group meet up.


  • Registered Users Posts: 17 red_barn


    Hi Loolloo

    thanks for getting in touch. Sorry to hear about the anxiety you are going through

    Yes the group was set up. I run it with 2 of my friends. We have a weekly class for 90 minutes, 7 - 8.30 PM every Thursday. This is held in the Carmichael centre at 4 Brunswick St N, Arran Quay, Dublin

    This group is for people, exactly like yourself that possible are not comfortable in public speaking, social or phone call situations etc..

    There are generally between 5 - 12 people at our group and we run through different exercises for the duration of the class. these would include introducing yourself, reading from a book, job interview situations, speaking about a random topic for under a minute and prepared speeches / presentations. You can also practice anything you wish such as making phone calls in front of people etc..
    You can take part in all / some or none of the exercises, it is completely up to you and what you are comfortable with.
    The whole idea of this group is that all of us suffer from social anxiety or a fear of public speaking in some form. But we just practice in this group in a real positive and friendly environment where it doesn't matter if we get nervous or make mistakes as we are all in the same boat..

    Personally I have found this group to be extremely beneficial as I have always struggled with social things (including making work phone calls) but found that practising in this group made a huge difference.

    We just ask that people contribute 5 euro if they attend a class and this is just to pay for the room as unfortunately it is not free.

    Feel free to PM me if you want any further information.. the next class is tomorrow and you would be more than welcome to join

    All the best


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  • Registered Users Posts: 20 loolloo78


    Thank you so much for the quick and very detailed response. Much appreciated.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭ Lady is a tramp


    I've been to a couple of different Toastmasters meetings recently, they really are so very lovely and understanding! I'm still not quite sure that it's for me - that it's something I'd actually enjoy doing. But they were extremely welcoming and made sure that I felt really comfortable there, that I'd someone to talk to all of the time and to introduce me to people, they were just so good and kind and lovely, without being over-the-top! I get the impression that many of their members come from a background of social anxiety and you certainly wouldn't be alone in that. It feels like a very "safe" environment to get to know new people. Well worth looking into.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,108 ✭✭✭ Jellybaby1


    I've been to a couple of different Toastmasters meetings recently, they really are so very lovely and understanding! I'm still not quite sure that it's for me - that it's something I'd actually enjoy doing. But they were extremely welcoming and made sure that I felt really comfortable there, that I'd someone to talk to all of the time and to introduce me to people, they were just so good and kind and lovely, without being over-the-top! I get the impression that many of their members come from a background of social anxiety and you certainly wouldn't be alone in that. It feels like a very "safe" environment to get to know new people. Well worth looking into.

    Yes, that's exactly what I experienced. Everyone is lovely. I still don't think its for me either. Another problem for me, as well as the cost, is that when a group becomes popular you eventually end up giving a speech to a larger number of people than you ever anticipated, and that scares me to death.:eek::o As I do each year, I wait to see the September evening classes with fingers crossed I'll find something there.


  • Registered Users Posts: 20 loolloo78


    I actually went to a group in the Carmichael centre about a year ago and I did find it very good but sadly that location is not good for me. If anyone is interested in starting a group in the Wicklow area please let me know.


  • Registered Users Posts: 64 ✭✭ Mua


    Hi, is this group In dublin still running?
    Like many on here, I too have trouble speaking in front of people!!


  • Registered Users Posts: 17 red_barn


    Hi Mua.

    Yes the group runs twice a week in 2 different locations.
    Every Monday at 7 in the carmichael centre in Smithfield. Every Wednesday at 7 in wesley house, leeson park dublin 6.

    Hope to see you there


  • Registered Users Posts: 2 Bernie Grant


    The Peoples College in Parnell Square run a great Public Speaking class (reasonable price) and they also have a Debating Society that has is really down to earth that do great exercises in building confidence - they eet every 2nd Wednesday and no charge for visitors


  • Registered Users Posts: 501 ✭✭✭ cazzer22


    red_barn wrote: »
    Hi Mua.

    Yes the group runs twice a week in 2 different locations.
    Every Monday at 7 in the carmichael centre in Smithfield. Every Wednesday at 7 in wesley house, leeson park dublin 6.

    Hope to see you there


    Hi there,
    Is it possible to come with a friend (who is also interested in this)?
    I might pop along next Wednesday.
    C.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1 Ste1981


    Hi Red barn,

    Are these meetups still happening? I would be very interested in going some week.


  • Registered Users Posts: 4 LambChop1


    Hi folks, anybody know if these meet ups are still happening? Or if there's anything mid week during the day lunchtime around the city? My fear is seriously holding me back.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 17 red_barn


    Hi LambChop1

    The groups happen twice a week. There is a Monday group at 7 pm in the Carmichael centre in smithfield and a Wednesday group at 7pm in Wesley house, leeson Park in ranelagh. I have been attending these groups regularly since their inception which is almost 4 years ago. As you can see from the thread I was the person that was initially desperate for these groups to commence and can gladly say they have changed my life

    Hope to see you at a group some time

    Colin


  • Registered Users Posts: 7 DaithiN


    I had the same problem so had the terrible plan to study this not so sexy topic for 8 years. I never got over a fear of public speaking but I did learn to manage it, and ended up with a talk featured on TED.com, recording a standup comedy special and getting regularly paid to speak. Long story! Happy to answer any questions here and I have tone of tips and resources around this topic if anyone could do with a hand. Please ask me anything.


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