Might be crude to some. Question about laws surrounding sexual assault in Ireland.

Bidd22

Just wanted to ask this question for further info as I'm not sure where to go. Recently while sleeping I had a man enter the room and attempt to force oral sex on me.

At the time I didn't react as I have been sexually abused as a child and have in a sad way normalised that behaviour. However, as the days have passed I can't stop reliving it and thinking about it. He said it was because I flirted with him and led him on but should a woman's flirting ever ask for that?. I had flirted with him in the past but that particular night I barely spoke to him. I don't feel he had any right to do it but I'm wondering is it even worth my while going to the gards?

Any help is appreciated. Sorry if this is considered too vulgar to post here I just really don't know what to do.

You didn't ask him to do it, you didn't give him permission to do it. It was against your will.
It's an offence. Whether you want to go to the guards or not is your decision. Maybe talk it through with a close friend, or even a counselor.

JoseJones

That is totally not normal and yes you should go to the Gardai. I doubt there is any normal person out there who will tell you otherwise!

Bidd22

JoseJones wrote: »

That is totally not normal and yes you should go to the Gardai. I doubt there is any normal person out there who will tell you otherwise!

Thanks for the reply, I just dont know if it is illegal in Ireland sadly. I read online it is only if it is homosexual not heterosexual. I'm going to go to the gardi anyways there's no harm in having a report of it.

Afroshack

Please do go to the gards. This is certainly a form of sexual assault - whether you flirted with him is irrelevant if you didn't give consent. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Please don't be afraid of reporting this.

Little CuChulainn

Nobody here can tell you whether a crime was committed because we don't have all the facts. Your description of events would indicate an attempted rape or sexual assault. But that's not for you to worry about. If you feel what was done to you was wrong then you have every right to report it to the Gardaí. Let the Gardaí and DPP worry about proving a crime happened. If you feel uncomfortable going to a station then you can ring them and ask them to send someone over.

hullaballoo

OP, unfortunately, this is a request for legal advice and is prohibited by the forum charter.

As others have advised, you should report this to the Gardaí.

If you feel you also need legal advice, please engage a legal professional.

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