School Debs

TheBiz

So m and this girl were chatting for about 4 months.. Time came to get asking to the grad and I kept putting it off, she handed me it on a silver platter and I still didn't take the opportunity.
When it came around to asking I asked 'are you bringing anyone to the grad?' As a way to move the conversation that way. Turns out she was. She said 'yeah I just wanted to get it over and done with instead of waiting'

So now I feel like ****, I've never truly experienced a moment that I wish I could change, I see her and I think '****'.

I still need a date so I was thinking of asking another girl I'm friendly with. I was going to do it tonight (having not done it in school).. She asked someone this evening.

Now I know it's only the grad but taking into account how many chances I've missed with the first girl in those 4 months.. I could not feel any worse. What adds insult to injury is the fact that I've basically done the exact same thing again.. And I'm still without a date.

Ryan Mac Sweeney

Hi there
I am so sorry to hear that. I know its terrible that she did that but at least there are plenty of other girls out there that you can ask. Is there any girl in your year that you can ask to your grads but its still early days yet. It is only March and debs and grads wont be till August or September. Are there any girls in your area who you could ask out? Maybe she would be interested in attending your grads.
Take Care

PinkLemonade

Ryan Mac Sweeney wrote: »

Hi there
I am so sorry to hear that. I know its terrible that she did that but at least there are plenty of other girls out there that you can ask. Is there any girl in your year that you can ask to your grads but its still early days yet. It is only March and debs and grads wont be till August or September. Are there any girls in your area who you could ask out? Maybe she would be interested in attending your grads.
Take Care

The OP only has themselves to blame.

You've learnt a life lesson, people don't just wait around, don't let opportunities slip in the future, and don't focus on things you can't change.

OP, there's no reason why you can't ask either of these girls out in a date if your interested in them. The debs is over rated, it's just one night

armaghlad

Ask a boy. It might not be as #awks

SarahMollie

Yeah OP you need to take responsibility for this yourself and also get a bit of perspective.

Firstly, people arent going to wait around in life for you to get your act in order. You've actually just seen this happen twice. If you continue to live life on the fence, this will continue to happen. Fortune favors the brave. Life lesson.

Secondly, debs/grad is not the end of the world. If you like this girl, just ask her out for some other time regardless. Do you know if the guy she's going with is a proper date or just a guy friend?

LegacyUser

PinkLemonade wrote: »

The OP only has themselves to blame.

"Yeah OP you need to take responsibility for this yourself and also get a bit of perspective."

You can't have read the OP properly if you think the OP doesn't already know it's their responsibility. There is no denial of that in the post and how they feel right now is because they recognise that.

OP, everybody has missed chances in life, absolutely everybody. In time, you hardly remember them, or look back on the with a rueful smile and no more. This will be one of those things.

In the short term, first ask yourself if you "need" a date for whatever event you have coming up. Your title says debs, your post says grad and for the most part they are two different things, one of which generally doesn't need a date. Second, make sure you want to go. Lots of people don't and they couldn't care less, lots of people go without thinking about it and have a miserable time.
Lastly, if you're sure you need and want a date, it doesn't have to be the love of your life. I've know people to bring siblings, cousins, best friends, siblings of best friends and yadda yadda. Someone who'll be good craic and relaxing company for the night is far more use to you than someone you fancy who brings a bit of pressure and anxiety with them.

Whatever you decide, don't sweat it, you'll be fine no matter what.

TheBiz

I'm completely aware I've no one to blame but myself.
He's just a friend afaik, but I know the guy, he did his LC last year.

Weirdly enough before I asked we were walking out after a class and I asked 'what question are you on?' And then it turned out that I was behind her and she said 'your always so slow it's so cute' so that gave me the courage to ask..
Then I was saying how I don't know who I'll be bringing and she goes 'just ask a girl from town, you'll have no problem getting date'
We're still chatting now, it hasn't left much of a dent in her,,probably because I never directly asked but nothing's changed..

I was thinking of bringing a friend from a different school, I went to National school with her and just recently started talking to her again but she said she'd love to go to our grad

fineso.mom

I was thinking of bringing a friend from a different school, I went to National school with her and just recently started talking to her again but she said she'd love to go to our grad[/quote]

Ask her now, this minute. ! Enjoy your debs.

TheBiz

I asked, she said she'd love to go.