School Grad (Debs)

TheBiz

So, this isn't too big of an issue but it's a bit messy.
Our school grad is on the 30th of June.
I know this girl,friends but she tried something with me before and I didn't realise..(didn't slapped myself half hard enough afterwards)
Don't think I'm 'friendzoned' but it's iffy, my friends say she likes me, she makes an effort to talk to me, stands close, likes touching (brushing off me, bumping off each other when we walk) etc...

I was thinking of asking her, but I don't know if;
1-it's too early,
2-if she would think it's just as friends or more.
3-if I should 'try something' first and then ask later.
There's a night out after the mocks (soon) and I could try something as more than friends and then ask later.
4-If I should ask, no one is asking within the year (no couples) so we'd be the only two from the year (unless things change) and she said last week how 'they don't really ask within the year unless they are going out or something'..
When we mentioned it most girls agreed that it's fine to ask, as there's not many options but I don't think others are..

HOWEVER! As class was finishing up yesterday I said 'oh I have to ask you something quickly after this'
She started blush and saying aww, what a place to ask, what a way to say it,this is so unexpected'(sarcasm)
And I jokingly (read:stupidly) said 'haha what you do you think this is about?'
She blushed again and said 'oops nevermind hahah'.
We also talked for a good 10-15 minutes after school about the grad and everything only for it to end when I said I needed to go..

I think she wants me to ask, I don't know if its as a friend or more and I don't know when to ask/what order!

Sorry for long post.
Any help from anyone less socially awkward than I am?
Thanks!

Taltos

Sounds like she not only wants to go to the Debs with you but wants to be your significant other right now.

But timing is everything, if you are being friendzoned the longer you leave it the more likely it is that this is where you'll end up.

Why not ask her to the Debs and say something like "I know it's a long time away and only couples would arrange it now so...."

Rubberchikken

hi op
i'm coming at this from a different generation so i'll ask. what do you have to lose if you ask her if she liked to go to the grad with you?
she sounds like she likes you and you like her.

good luck

clairek6

Go for it OP all girls are delighted to be asked!

TheBiz

I don't have anything really to lose bar I could end up going to the grad with someone who only sees me as a friend.. I could live with that but it would still irritate me...
Because sheds in Leaving Cert aswell she would be asking someone too.. Unless she went me with me, I sort of feel like I'd be denying her her choice unless she wanted to go with me anyway!

Should I 'see what happens' on the nightout or just ask her before then?

woodchuck

I really think you're overthinking this; just ask her!! It sounds like she likes you and obviously like her. If you leave it too long, someone else could ask her or she'll get fed up of waiting for you to ask her.

Ursus Horribilis

TheBiz wrote: »

I don't have anything really to lose bar I could end up going to the grad with someone who only sees me as a friend.. I could live with that but it would still irritate me...

Would that really make much of a difference? Once you leave school, you're going to realise what an insignificant event a grad is and you'll wonder what all the fuss was about.

In the meantime, I think you should invite her to the grad. You're not proposing marriage here.

TheBiz

So I should ask now? Or wait and see what happens?
I don't think anyone has asked yet...

bee06

If you like her forget about the grads for now and just ask her out to go to the cinema or something.

TheBiz

Next time we'd be out is a house part/nightclub situation..

Ursus Horribilis

Do you want to go out with this girl or not? Or are you just fretting over someone to have on your arm to go to the grad?

TheBiz

Odus fell down wrote: »

Do you want to go out with this girl or not? Or are you just fretting over someone to have on your arm to go to the grad?

Both really but the going out thing could take awhile

Ursus Horribilis

Why not just invite her to go for a walk or something. Cup of coffee? Cinema? Just the two of you. You really are overthinking this. Is there nowhere you can go/meet up that doesn't involve a house party or bringing your friends along?

TheBiz

Odus fell down wrote: »

Why not just invite her to go for a walk or something. Cup of coffee? Cinema? Just the two of you. You really are overthinking this. Is there nowhere you can go/meet up that doesn't involve a house party or bringing your friends along?

Not really, I live in the country and that tends to only happen with long term couples..
We'd go away from the group anyways at the party, so we'd have some space..
I don't know what would be the best approach, asking to grad first, or 'see what happens' and ask to the grad later..

Ursus Horribilis

Why not just ask her to the grad first and see how that goes?

Turtle_

Wow, this makes me so glad I'm not a teenager any more. From the outside looking in (based on what you've told us) it's clear enough that she likes you... But I guess it's so much more muddled when you're in the situation yourself.

My instinct is that she's definitely into you. As for what you should do... Ask her out, the two of you go somewhere. So what if most people only go to the cinema/for a coffee if they're couples? Just ask her and when she's getting all cosy and touchy then you get cosy back. Try to mirror what she does. If she started to whisper to you during the film then lean in to her, get close. You really should have your answer by how she behaves.

If there's a thing starting between you just see how that develops. If it's going well, ask her to the grad