Things That Embitter You

zcorpian88

As the title says, it's January now, the blues are in the air already and you're getting out of bed after the Christmas break (if you had one) and bitterly saying to yourself "hate getting out of bed...f**kin freezing, dark, cold and raining out bah"

My bitter fact of the moment, my ex who I was heavily invested in for 2 years, where I had to (really didn't want to) break it off due to her and I wanting different things for the future (children) and she would barely spend any time with me (including my own birthday) due to her doing a phD, plus she had a heap of personal problems including a body shaming issue, self loathing, her being adopted, her brother's early death from suicide, beating herself up over trivial things. The list goes on, and basically I sacrificed a lot of things I wanted or was offered to keep that relationship going and then I'm forced to end it, that embitters me.

It gets worse, found out a while back she brought a new guy here for a comedy festival a while back (she lived in another county and only really came to my locality when it suited her, usually when there is a few mediocre comedians in town might I add) she brought the new guy down and hung out with MY friends all weekend, she wouldn't even make the journey down for her own boyfriend's birthday but for a few ****ty comedians that'll charge 30 odd euro for the privilege of seeing 3 comedians with 15 minutes of material each and not even decent material! Most Irish comedians use the same material for 2 and 3 tours it's ridiculous.

My friends didn't like her new boyfriend which I was delighted to hear, apparently he's the opposite to me, apparently he's an unhealthy looking, reclusive and withdrawn and a smoker. Which I think he isn't right for her as she's an academic type, stylish, intelligent and kind of classy, doesn't drink or smoke or take anything that is bad for her and isn't really into the pub scene or socializing in large volumes, she recently turned vegan due to her self loathing and body issues which was all in her head among other things.

Only recently found out the new guy's name and I found him on Facebook, the most culchie looking dude imaginable with a rollie hanging out of his mouth, also shared videos on his page of some barman making a 10 foot row of Jagerbombs, what a classy guy! (Not!) He'll dump her in a week, I get the whole "small village imbecile" vibe out of his page.

Bitter? Yes I am!

So what embitters you on this cold January evening?

Barry Badrinath

Fcuking hell OP.

Life is too short to be getting wound up over stuff.

Just say "Fcuk It" and look for the happy things.

If there are no happy things, say "Fcuk it" and make some happy things.

Best of luck you poor bastard!

Stheno

zcorpian88 wrote: »

So what embitters you on this cold January evening?

The two minutes I just lost reading your rant.

fineso.mom

OP, you need to watch Frozen and learn the song. Seriously Let It Go !!!

Turtyturd

Your ex had a lucky escape OP.

biko

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1MogQ41Y8vw

Ciderswigger

What the bejesus....?!!

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

Oh, tell someone who cares. I lost the will half way through that. Nothing good ever comes from being bitter. Lord help her. She's better out.

Mr. Incognito

This should really be in PI or ranting and raving.

Junkyard Tom

Bitterness is psychological self-harming. I'm not dismissing that people can be bitter - just that they should let it go if they possibly can.

MilesMorales1

Young people.
Old people.
In the middle age group people.
Smiling.
Laughing.
People having fun.
People getting enjoyment from things I don't.
People getting enjoyment from thing I do.
Sunshine.
Politicians.
Politics.
Food I don't like.
Various tones of voice.


I'm a bitter bitter man.

Barry Badrinath

Have you considered letting a bit of Jesus into your life?

Ciderswigger

Wolf Hanssen wrote: »

Have you considered letting a bit of Jesus into your life?

Which bit!!!?

EazyD

Liana Wooden Postage wrote: »

Oh, tell someone who cares. I lost the will half way through that. Nothing good ever comes from being bitter. Lord help her. She's better out.

In fairness in some circumstances, bitterness is inevitable. I personally lost out on a lot due to other people's actions, took me up to a year to pull myself together and move on and better myself. I'd be lying if I were to say I don't hold a shred of bitterness towards those people but I don't let it consume me or any part of my life.

That_Guy

But you're clearly over her right OP?

Barry Badrinath

Ciderswigger wrote: »

Which bit!!!?

Ha! Ya creep.

zcorpian88

zcorpian88 wrote: »

As the title says, it's January now, the blues are in the air already and you're getting out of bed after the Christmas break (if you had one) and bitterly saying to yourself "hate getting out of bed...f**kin freezing, dark, cold and raining out bah"

My bitter fact of the moment, my ex who I was heavily invested in for 2 years, where I had to (really didn't want to) break it off due to her and I wanting different things for the future (children) and she would barely spend any time with me (including my own birthday) due to her doing a phD, plus she had a heap of personal problems including a body shaming issue, self loathing, her being adopted, her brother's early death from suicide, beating herself up over trivial things. The list goes on, and basically I sacrificed a lot of things I wanted or was offered to keep that relationship going and then I'm forced to end it, that embitters me.

It gets worse, found out a while back she brought a new guy here for a comedy festival a while back (she lived in another county and only really came to my locality when it suited her, usually when there is a few mediocre comedians in town might I add) she brought the new guy down and hung out with MY friends all weekend, she wouldn't even make the journey down for her own boyfriend's birthday but for a few ****ty comedians that'll charge 30 odd euro for the privilege of seeing 3 comedians with 15 minutes of material each and not even decent material! Most Irish comedians use the same material for 2 and 3 tours it's ridiculous.

My friends didn't like her new boyfriend which I was delighted to hear, apparently he's the opposite to me, apparently he's an unhealthy looking, reclusive and withdrawn and a smoker. Which I think he isn't right for her as she's an academic type, stylish, intelligent and kind of classy, doesn't drink or smoke or take anything that is bad for her and isn't really into the pub scene or socializing in large volumes, she recently turned vegan due to her self loathing and body issues which was all in her head among other things.

Only recently found out the new guy's name and I found him on Facebook, the most culchie looking dude imaginable with a rollie hanging out of his mouth, also shared videos on his page of some barman making a 10 foot row of Jagerbombs, what a classy guy! (Not!) He'll dump her in a week, I get the whole "small village imbecile" vibe out of his page.

Bitter? Yes I am!

So what embitters you on this cold January evening?

You broke it off with her. You now see fit to comment about her new boyfriend, what they do, you have stalked him on Facebook etc. etc.?

It's her decision. It's not your business any more really. Getting fixated with her isn't going to help you or her.

Mr. CooL ICE

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Hi OP,

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