Wife wants to leave

redcup342

Edit: Thanks, got the I needed ... She's a boards user so removing this

silverbolt

Let her go.

She's cheated on you thrice (that you know of) and the way you found out the first time was despicably cruel and has said she doesnt want to be with you.

Let her go. you cant hold on to someone who doesnt want to be there. Life is too short, get out and be happy again. You deserve better

ceadaoin.

Honestly, just let her go. You can't work on the relationship if she isn't willing to.

I'm sorry that she put you through all that, it sounds very tough. From what you've put here, splitting up would be the best course of action. Yes it will be painful in the short term but you will get over it and find someone who actually wants to be with you and doesn't treat you like crap.

All that wanting to find out who she is stuff is most likely rubbish. She will probably be with the other guy within weeks if she isn't already.

See a lawyer and get advice about the financial side of things.

TallGlass

OP. I am not married nor anywhere near it. But I am surprised to hear this type of messing in a marriage, your best to part on this one.

Why? Well if this is how it is now can you imagine what it will be like down the line.

frostyjacks

Get rid of her. She sounds like an absolutely horrible piece of work.

silverharp

she sounds like a very immature person anyone that would have an affair based on some imagined infidelity isnt playing with a full deck, honestly you deserve better

Nervous Wreck

I agree. Also, no ones said this yet so I feel like I should... Take all the money out of the accounts. This is important. If it's in a joint account, she has every legal right to take every penny and leave. You need to do this first (I only advocate this because you're the one who earned it.) If you want to split it, go ahead but do NOT leave all your money in one place that she has full access to.

sadie1502

Why would she think you cheated?

PLL

You deserve better. No matter how much you love her and you're hurting, you deserve better, and it will come.

Edit: I suffer from depression, moved miles away from everyone I knew with my other half and had a baby, it was fúcking hard but I tried my hardest because I wanted it to work.

Basically what I'm saying is depression or relationship difficulties are NOT an excuse for her behaviour.

whiskeyman

I feel for you man.
You gotta let her go and look after yourself.
As said above, you deserve better.
Best of luck

Roger Hassenforder

She's cheated on you, and doesn't want to try and save the relationship.
Yet she's purporting to be the victim.

Walk away, but do it right.
Move on, you deserve better.
You'll do better too.

jimmycrackcorm

Take all the money out of the joint account and put it in your own. Let the guys she is with provide for her instead.

Dr Turk Turkelton

sadie1502 wrote: »

Why would she think you cheated?

I would say lying on the couch naked with his friend just after having sex with him probably gave it away.
I'm not Sherlock Holmes though.

Op as has been said before put your money beyond her reach as soon as possible. I'm sure this is hard to hear but you really need to get as far away from that woman as possible. She has no respect for you and will treat you like a doormat especially when you keep forgiving her.
Best of luck.

Conor Bourke

Dr Turk Turkelton wrote: »

I would say lying on the couch naked with his friend just after having sex with him probably gave it away.
I'm not Sherlock Holmes though

Clearly you're not. If you read it again, the question that Sadie1502 asked was "why would she think that the OP cheated on her" ie, she justified her being found on the couch naked with his friend because she claimed she thought the OP had cheated on her first. OP didn't expand on why she thought that though.