Wedding getting closer

westernlass

And I want to do less and less planning. It's like if I do it'll come around too quickly and then it will be over. Or maybe I'm just exhausted and sick of it all and have no energy left for it.

I'm starting to realise we have so much to do even though I thought we were very much on top of things. Is this normal from past brides or am I being irrational? I have about three months left to go and I am in the middle of sorting out invitations, I have to plan out baking a cake and finishing gathering up all the DIY bits before we start making everything.

In the new year I don't think I'll have any time to myself.

whiskeyman

3 months to go and panic can hit in.
Make a list and keep reviewing it / crossing off as you go.
You may need to 'descope' items along the way.
You mention 'DIY' and 'making' stuff... are you taking on too much here? Perhaps ask friends and family for help?
It'll all come together - once the big stuff is sorted, you'll wonder why you worried about some of the smaller stuff.

fits

As far as I know, almost everyone has this panicky moment. I deliberately set out to organise the most low-stress wedding I possibly could and I still had a panic about one month before.

You will get there, and if like me, you will look back on the organisation as well as the day itself with fond memories.

SecretBride

I was sick of planning my last wedding a couple of months beforehand....when I look back now though I realize that I wanted to do everything myself and was sweating over the small stuff.

We now have 33 and 38 days to go and other than the fact that I have no dress in my hands (despite having ordered two!!!) I'm very, very calm about things. The lesson I learnt from the last time? Involve people, they love helping and will feel more of a part of your day, and don't worry about the small stuff....people won't notice if your napkins don't match the bridesmaids!

Gatica

In my previous experience, we didn't get less busy at all, if anything it seemed to get more and more busy. Definitely try to delegate as much as you can. We decided to do own invites and had the BIL and his family helping, and even so, it took 2-3 late nights to print everything right and send... It was quite stressful.
I also did place-cards and translated the menus, all a big job. And the flower centre pieces which took longer than expected too... plus putting aside money for the different suppliers. I paid as many as I could through online banking.

westernlass

Yeah I have used online banking continuously. It's my way of keeping track of everything as I have a google doc that updates very easily when needed.

lolly28

3 months is plenty of time to sort everything out. If you feel like you are on top of it you probably are. The final 2 months I had no spare time and was always doing something for the wedding. Well worth it in the end. Enjoy the time!

Milly33

Ah you will have time next month enjoy Crhistmas.. Just maybe set out a schedule to do these things.. I was fairly on top of things but let one or two till the end and I wish I had done them earlier.

I think loosing interest is normally with a kinda long engagement... We were a year and a half ish or there abouts planning and I wish we hadn't waited so long. I wish we had just gone and done it a few months after.... At the end I was like so bored of it all, sounds mean I know but it was like like right o new subject please

An Bhanríon

That all sounds pretty normal westernlass. It does get very busy! So it's important to take time out from wedding stuff and make sure it's not the only thing you are talking to your fiancé about too. If you're not careful every conversation can turn into a conversation about the wedding. We ended up having to organise 'wedding meetings' because before that my husband would arrive home from work and would be met with a barrage of 'oh I got this done today' and 'what do you think about that?' and 'have you got that done yet?'!!! Hopefully, you will not get like that, but it is something to watch out for.

One other thing that occurs to me is just to be ready to let a few things go if it all gets a bit much. With three months to go I would say you have plenty of time to do all the stuff you want to do. But maybe just have a little think about things that are really important, things that you could get others to do (if you have people to help out) and things that could be left out of the plan, if you get a bit too busy or if something unforeseen turns up. I had to leave a few things off my list in the last few days, including a plan I had to leave my fiancé a nice little note that he could read the morning of the wedding. I was kind of feeling bad about it, but then I just finished it after the wedding (it was rather long!) gave it to him next Valentine's Day instead. And he loved it! The only necessary thing for your wedding is that you both turn up and that you have a solemniser and two witnesses. After that it's just the nice extras. Which are very enjoyable, don't get me wrong, but are not necessities.

Best of luck over the next few months. Enjoy the preparations. It's a very exciting time! And the hard work is worth it too...

snickerpuss

About 6 months before the wedding I got a notebook into which I wrote everything I needed to remember - who had RSVP'D, what I thought of the cakes we tested, dates, to do lists (by week), records of who we'd paid, honeymoon details, ideas for readings etc. It was the best thing I ever did because everything was all in one place. It's also a lovely memento to look back on!

We were very organised but the last few weeks were extremely stressful. Only so much you can do in advance!

Sunny Dayz

Hi OP, unfortunately the 3-4 months before the wedding are the busiest times. At the start of the wedding planning it's all the big things, looking at venues, bands, dresses etc. But when it gets to 3 months to go, it's little small bitty things, like looking for shoes, looking for accessories, writing invites, chasing invites, etc. Coupled with working, hen/stag and also organising the honeymoon, you will unfortunately feel like you haven't a spare minute that isn't wedding related and it's completely normal to feel sick of the wedding!!
As others have suggested make a list. Write down every little thing on it. Write down in detail the DIY things you want to make and get started on those asap and get loads of help. We made our wedding invites, just the two of us, took us ages gluing things together, we were regretting making them as it took so much time but we loved them all the same.

westernlass

Maybe it's not as bad as I thought. The honeymoon is booked. We are 90% there designing invites and they'll be printed so no gluing. I have a list and to be fair I crossed off five more things today.

I need to write out each DIY project as we should get them done over Xmas.