What she said in an argument

LegacyUser

My gf and I are going through a rough patch. I have real doubts about the relationship.

I am slightly worried about getting stuck with her due to a broken condom producing a pregnancy so I have been refusing sex for the last two weeks.

This led to an argument between us.

The thing I want to ask about is this - is it normal to say that you had sex with someone else during an argument? She said it was with a younger guy. She further said "what else can I do when you do this?"

Maybe she is just making a threat but she definitely used the past tense.

She now claims that she simply said this in the heat of an argument and it is not true.

She doesn't seem the type to cheat (although she seems suspicious of me). By that I mean she calls often, checks up on me and is with me every weekend.

Any thoughts?

bp

Relationships shouldn't have so much drama....it's not worth it (in my opinion!).

ElleEm

Whether she was telling the truth, or lying to rile you up, It sounds like there are too many doubts and trust issues, regardless of what she said. If you are witholding sex because you don't want to get "stuck with her", why are you continuing the relationship at all?

Merkin

Withholding sex because you 'don't want to get stuck with her' very clearly demonstrates that the relationship isn't right, irrespective of what was or wasn't said during an argument. Definitely time to break up.

pookie82

You're literally refusing sex because you don't want to "get stuck with her".

Within two weeks of this she claims she has sought it elsewhere.

There is nothing to save here.

kylith

Is she pregnant, or was it just a scare? If she's pregnant then you're already 'stuck with her'. If it was a scare and you're now refusing sex then I don't see what there is to salvage in the relationship, regardless of whether she slept with someone else or not. A pregnancy scare should be lead to a reexamination of contraceptives, not a total ban on sex because you dislike her so much you're afraid of being with her long term.

Skoop

Jesus... stay a million miles away from each other, permanently.

Ursus Horribilis

This relationship is toxic. The kindest thing you can do for yourself is end it before you do "get stuck with her".

I wonder why she is so suspicious of you and keeps such a close watch on you? Could it be because she's someone who cheats and assumes other people are like her too?

Why are you still together?

beertons

If you don't want to get stuck with her, move on. Stop wasting her time.

mapaca

I have to agree with other replies here, the fact that you're afraid of being "stuck with her" speaks volumes.

As for what she said during the argument:

If it's true, then she cheated, and your relationship is in trouble.

If it's not true, then it's a mean, spiteful thing to say, and your relationship is in trouble.

allandanyways

The two of you need to call it quits, fast.

You don't trust her, she doesn't trust you, you don't seem particularly nice to each other and playing games like withholding sex and her using you doing so as an excuse to cheat are big red flashing signs of a bad fit for a relationship.

Walk away, both you and her deserve better than what you're doing to each other at the minute.