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Not sure what i'm meant to do!

  • 20-11-2015 8:53pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    It's a Friday night and i'm sitting in my apartment alone again, i'm a 41 year old guy who's life just seems to have stalled, i wake up every morning with hope that today will be the day that something really good will happen but it doesn't. I have a job so i am lucky in that aspect i guess even though it's just minimum wage i can still live a little, outside of work though i just don't seem to have friends - i was a very shy person grown up and it's only recently that i have kinda come into myself, which makes life a little more frustrating because i would like more, more friends i guess just to have a social life and know that other people think and care about you..
    I have joined a number off meet up groups and stuff but nothing really comes from them, even though i preserver with it, so at the moment i just try and take care off myself i suppose, do little things to keep my mental health in check and look after my state off mind, But there has to be more than just working and sleeping and watching Netflix i just don't know what else i'm suppose to do, i just don't want to be sad about it anymore!


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  • #2
    Rachiee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 880 ✭✭✭Rachiee


    Meet up groups are great for getting out more but I too have found that very little else comes from them in terms of outside friendships etc. It's there any hobbies that you would have an interest in trying and can look for a club or society in, eg. Hillwalking, running, chess, drama, choir,boxing,golf. I find these things normally are more conducive to making a big difference in social life because they're not just one off events (like meet up) you end up a part of something and then that leads to specifically organised club events. You also see the same people again and again, (I find with meet up its always different people Or you might only see the same person every two months) this makes it easier to build and form friendships.
    You could also try men's sheds.
    Also voluntary work while not always a great way to meet people can give a real boost and make you feel like you've done something worthwhile. If there's any charities you're passionate about (animal welfare,homelessness etc, there's always someone looking for volunteers) try activelink.ie /community exchange/ volunteering
    or contact your local voluntary board.

    I think it's so great that you have tried meetup and even though it hasn't worked and you're not feeling the best that you are still trying to be proactive and are open the other options there are better times ahead :)


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