If you found out your partner was a sex worker

Mister Vain

Or if they had slept with sex workers in the past, how would you feel? Would you dump them? I'm not talking about cheating while you're together but if they had done it before you met. If its something you did yourself would you tell your partner?

I'd be afraid to see the bill.

pmasterson95

Thanks for the free rides!

kimokanto

Who's Bill? Must be dominatrix or something?

Harry Palmr

Prostitute you mean?

RichT

It would have to be the end.............. with a 'Happy Ending'

Lights On

Does it make any difference if you found out they have slept with 20 odd people for free?

Son Of A Vidic

Mister Vain wrote: »

If you found out your partner was a sex worker

I'd ask for a discount from what she normally charges me.

corner of hells

Mister Vain wrote: »

Or if they had slept with sex workers in the past, how would you feel? Would you dump them? I'm not talking about cheating while you're together but if they had done it before you met. If its something you did yourself would you tell your partner?

Is there something you want to tell us ?

Did you catch her or did she tell you ?

sonny.knowles

Harry Palmr wrote: »

Prostitute you mean?

More PC BS.

We won't be able to call the children of unmarried couples bastards next. :rolleyes:

LordSutch

I'd be checking 'down there' with a torch, to see what 'if any' damage had been done.

TerrorFirmer

OP, what's your obsession with sex workers? You're always on about it. Is there a particular reason? Are you a sex worker, or someone who's used a lot of sex workers?

kimokanto

LordSutch wrote:

I'd be checking 'down there' with a torch, to see what damage had been done.

& a dentist mirror ;-)

newacc2015

Honestly I dont care what a potential partners occupation is as long as they are happy with it and enjoy. I would care if its was relatively low skilled, low paid job if they enjoyed. There is nothing worse than someone who is a **** job, hates it and has no desire to leave it

If you ignore the BS that female charities talk about. A lot of sex workers enjoy their work. They are their own boss. If they only deal with a select few clients the work is relatively stress free and safe. Despite what you read. Sex workers actually have low levels of STIs if they arent constantly safe and arent substance users ie Australian male sex workers have lower levels of STIs than the general Australian male population.

Turtyturd

TerrorFirmer wrote: »

Are you a sex worker, or someone who's used a lot of sex workers?

A service user?

MadDog76

Mister Vain wrote: »

Or if they had slept with sex workers in the past, how would you feel?

Not happy.

Mister Vain wrote: »

Would you dump them?

Yes.

Mister Vain wrote: »

If its something you did yourself would you tell your partner?

No.

MadDog76

If you're wife/girlfriend tells you how many men she slept with before she met you, double it.

If you're husband/boyfriend tells you how many women he slept with before he met you, quarter it.

Mister Vain

MadDog76 wrote: »

If you're wife/girlfriend tells you how many men she slept with before she met you, double it.

If you're husband/boyfriend tells you how many women he slept with before he met you, quarter it.

So if the man says 7 then is that 1 and half women he has slept with?

emigrate2012

"ffs! Ye worked at what?!? And you won't even let me TRY anal!!! GTFO!"

OwaynOTT

My reaction would be something akin to burning my clothes and cry in the shower, ya know Ace Ventura style.

Neverforgotten

MadDog76 wrote: »

If you're wife/girlfriend tells you how many men she slept with before she met you, double it.

If you're husband/boyfriend tells you how many women he slept with before he met you, quarter it.

Seriously. ..I'm a girl and I have only slept with 2 guys in my life. Why would you double it?

So by your theory, I should tell my next date that I have only slept with one guy....

corner of hells

corner of hells wrote: »

Did you catch her or did she tell you ?

He wants to know how much of a risk it is to tell her about the escorts.

I think it's something she'd want to know, but you may not like how she might react.

Pink Fairy

Mister Vain wrote: »

So if the man says 7 then is that 1 and half women he has slept with?

One woman, one ladyboy?

wakka12

I don't think Id care, I couldn't go out with a current sex worker though

Junkyard Tom

It suddenly dawned on Steve why everyone referred to his missus as 'Pussy Galore' despite her name being Anne Davies.

Hammer89

There is a perception that people who pay for sexual services are the lowest of the low. Are they? Not in my view. I'm bias because I have paid for said services, and you know what, I don't give much of a sh*t. I'm not a bad person because of it. We have this idea that sex workers are being pimped out against their will by men who wear fish-tank pumps and walk around with canes. I'm sure millions of women are in these positions, but I wouldn't pay one of these because it's wrong. There are, however, independent sex workers, who do it because they want to; not because they need to, and that's fair game in my opinion. It's like buying a packet of Rancheros. It's like any other business transaction.

MadDog76

Mister Vain wrote: »

So if the man says 7 then is that 1 and half women he has slept with?

One woman, one midget.

MadDog76

Neverforgotten wrote: »

Seriously. ..I'm a girl and I have only slept with 2 guys in my life. Why would you double it?

So by your theory, I should tell my next date that I have only slept with one guy....

Yep ........ in your case you should say 2 because you've obviously slept with 4 men ......... at least!

It wasn't me!

MadDog76 wrote: »

Not happy.

Yes.

No.

MadDog76 wrote: »

If you're wife/girlfriend tells you how many men she slept with before she met you, double it.

If you're husband/boyfriend tells you how many women he slept with before he met you, quarter it.

So it would be important enough and significant enough to you that you would break up with someone over it, but it wouldn't merit the honesty to tell your partner about it if the roles were reversed? Seems a little hypocritical. Also, your assumptions about men and women and their relative tendency to inflate or deflate the number of people they've slept with seems a bit self-conscious. After all, what's the point in either gender lying about the number? Are people so insecure about telling or hearing the truth? Who does it help?

Savage Tyrant

If I found out my wife is/was a sex worker???
I'd say some people have more money than sense.

GTE

Charge tuition fees. Career progression and all that.

Peregrinus

It wasn't me! wrote: »

So it would be important enough and significant enough to you that you would break up with someone over it, but it wouldn't merit the honesty to tell your partner about it if the roles were reversed? Seems a little hypocritical.

Well, presumably he wouldn't tell his partner because he would expect that she would dump him, and he wouldn't want to be dumped.

Is that hypocritical? No, I don't think not mentioning that he had slept with sex workers would be hypocricital. It might perhaps be criticised in other terms, but it wouldn't be hypocrisy.

But, never mind the telling, I think sleeping with them in the first place must be hypocritical, if you think that having slept with a sex worker is a dumpable offence.

So, Maddog is saying that if he had slept with a sex worker, he would be hypocritical. That doesn't make him a hypocrite, of course (unless he has actually slept with a sex worker, but we have no reason to think he has).

One eyed Jack

Mister Vain wrote: »

Or if they had slept with sex workers in the past, how would you feel? Would you dump them? I'm not talking about cheating while you're together but if they had done it before you met. If its something you did yourself would you tell your partner?

There are some things I need to know, and there are some things I'd rather not know. One of those things I'd rather not know is my partner's previous sexual history. As long as we both tested clean for STI's, what they did, or who they did it with, doesn't concern me. I hold them to that same standard that they don't need to know my previous sexual history as long as I'm clean.

I've found that standard isn't particularly popular, and most people, in my experience at least, would prefer to know. The thing with doing that however is that you may not like the answers you hear. It's one of those things that very much depends upon the individuals involved. I wouldn't encourage anyone either way as everyone is going to have a different answer to that one, amd then there's the reaction and aftermath when you run the risk of hearing something you'd rather not have heard yourself.

A person's past should be left where it belongs IMO, unless there are extenuating circumstances such as if they were carrying an STI, but that would show up in a test, and then their partners would have a right to know. But otherwise, I wouldn't be telling, and I don't want to know.

Spanish Eyes

How did you find out anyway?. Why were you told?

Any amount of previous sexual partners for anyone is no doubt common anyway.

STI clear, that's fine, otherwise until you know this, industrial strength condoms and that applies to any new partner regardless, until the all clear. lol.

eviltwin

I'd like to know if the person I'm sleeping with is sleeping with other people. If they had done it in the past it wouldn't be an issue once they were disease free. I'd have no moral issues with it or judge them for it.

booooring!

Mister Vain wrote: »

Or if they had slept with sex workers in the past, how would you feel? Would you dump them? I'm not talking about cheating while you're together but if they had done it before you met. If its something you did yourself would you tell your partner?

My god! It's not that that big of a deal. It's sex, it's not robbing a bank, stabbing someone or been a psychopath.

Have you talked to your parish priest about this?:rolleyes: if you went to Amsterdam you'd probably have a heart attack.

MadDog76

It wasn't me! wrote: »

So it would be important enough and significant enough to you that you would break up with someone over it, but it wouldn't merit the honesty to tell your partner about it if the roles were reversed? Seems a little hypocritical. Also, your assumptions about men and women and their relative tendency to inflate or deflate the number of people they've slept with seems a bit self-conscious. After all, what's the point in either gender lying about the number? Are people so insecure about telling or hearing the truth? Who does it help?

Sorry, I was just being honest ........... I thought most adults knew that we live in a hypocritical society and that adults lie to eachother about their sexual history even in the closest of relationships ........... I'll have to be more realistic in my future posts.

ardinn

Turtyturd wrote: »

A service user?

Or service provider

It wasn't me!

You know the option does exist to just be honest, right? What's the good in lying?

Pink Fairy

It wasn't me! wrote: »

You know the option does exist to just be honest, right? What's the good in lying?

You can become Taoiseach?

MadDog76

Peregrinus wrote: »

Well, presumably he wouldn't tell his partner because he would expect that she would dump him, and he wouldn't want to be dumped.

Is that hypocritical? No, I don't think not mentioning that he had slept with sex workers would be hypocricital. It might perhaps be criticised in other terms, but it wouldn't be hypocrisy.

But, never mind the telling, I think sleeping with them in the first place must be hypocritical, if you think that having slept with a sex worker is a dumpable offence.

So, Maddog is saying that if he had slept with a sex worker, he would be hypocritical. That doesn't make him a hypocrite, of course (unless he has actually slept with a sex worker, but we have no reason to think he has).

Thank you ........... I actually haven't .......... unless of course I have and I choose not to disclose that I have for a variety of reasons ......... those reasons being redundant because I haven't ever actually slept with a sex worker and/or paid for sex.

Wibbs

One eyed Jack wrote: »

There are some things I need to know, and there are some things I'd rather not know. One of those things I'd rather not know is my partner's previous sexual history. As long as we both tested clean for STI's, what they did, or who they did it with, doesn't concern me. I hold them to that same standard that they don't need to know my previous sexual history as long as I'm clean.

Would this apply if they'd been a prostitute? You'd be only worried about a possible dose of the clap? Eh… I'd be more concerned about the long term mental health aspect of being an ex whore. No one needs that level of crazy. If that's judgemental of me then so be it, colour me judgemental. And before the knickers start to bunch that goes for both sexes. An ex rent boy is more likely to not be a shining example of unblemished sanity either. Life is hard enough without inviting extra crazy into your life. As for those who use hookers? That's another days work and it's not about the exploitation of the women/men involved(save for some cases).

SEPT 23 1989

As long as she doesn't bring her work home with her

booooring!

I probably rode your missus OP

If someone I was seeing admitted to using sex workers, it would be the end of the relationship.

On a very basic level that doesn't respond to the various arguments defending a persons right to sell their body, and another persons right to buy the use of it. I just find it sleazy and distasteful and I would think less of anyone involved in that transaction, unfair as that may sound. Like I say, it's a gut reaction and it's not something I could talk myself out of.

Whitewinged

Wibbs wrote: »

Would this apply if they'd been a prostitute? You'd be only worried about a possible dose of the clap? Eh… I'd be more concerned about the long term mental health aspect of being an ex whore. No one needs that level of crazy. If that's judgemental of me then so be it, colour me judgemental. And before the knickers start to bunch that goes for both sexes. An ex rent boy is more likely to not be a shining example of unblemished sanity either. Life is hard enough without inviting extra crazy into your life. As for those who use hookers? That's another days work and it's not about the exploitation of the women/men involved(save for some cases).

I was thinking a bit along the lines you were thinking but not in the same way. If my oh did come to me and say that he was a male escort in the past before we met then I would assume that he was trying to be honest with me but also confide in me as it may be something that is having a negative effect on him in the present. I wouldn't walk away but i suppose it depends really how long and solid the relationship is before someone decides to share something from their past.

OneOfThem

I'm not particularly interested in knowing a partners previous sexual history. But wouldn't have a problem hearing about it if it came up. No there's no chance I'd dump them over it as long as it was all consensual and all that. No particular interest in telling a partner about my previous sexual history either. May or may not divulge things if they asked specific questions.

Leading on from that, I'd consider having been a sex worker, or having used sex workers, to be part of sexual history, and the above applies.

One eyed Jack

Wibbs wrote: »

Would this apply if they'd been a prostitute? You'd be only worried about a possible dose of the clap? Eh… I'd be more concerned about the long term mental health aspect of being an ex whore. No one needs that level of crazy. If that's judgemental of me then so be it, colour me judgemental. And before the knickers start to bunch that goes for both sexes. An ex rent boy is more likely to not be a shining example of unblemished sanity either. Life is hard enough without inviting extra crazy into your life. As for those who use hookers? That's another days work and it's not about the exploitation of the women/men involved(save for some cases).

I know what you mean and all Wibbs, but yeah, it would, and I wouldn't think anyone was being judgemental or any of the rest of it for thinking the way they do. I'd completely understand where they're coming from because I'd be the same myself, but for different reasons, and that makes me a judgemental hypocrite, so I can hardly throw stones

Pink Fairy

booooring! wrote: »

I probably rode your missus OP

Think we all have tbf

Penny Tration

I went out with someone who disclosed that he'd paid for sex. I didn't dump him. I was angry that he'd lied to me (he'd told me he was a virgin, we were young). I didn't think too much about the prostitute part.

If someone I'm with has paid for sex in the past, I don't care too much once they're happy to have STI testing.

As for going out with a former sex worker? No, I wouldn't. Mainly for the things Wibbs touched upon. I know some sex workers and none of them are very stable and all have unhealthy views of relationships and I don't need or want those kind of issues in a relationship.

Mister Vain

One eyed Jack wrote: »

There are some things I need to know, and there are some things I'd rather not know. One of those things I'd rather not know is my partner's previous sexual history. As long as we both tested clean for STI's, what they did, or who they did it with, doesn't concern me. I hold them to that same standard that they don't need to know my previous sexual history as long as I'm clean.

I've found that standard isn't particularly popular, and most people, in my experience at least, would prefer to know. The thing with doing that however is that you may not like the answers you hear. It's one of those things that very much depends upon the individuals involved. I wouldn't encourage anyone either way as everyone is going to have a different answer to that one, amd then there's the reaction and aftermath when you run the risk of hearing something you'd rather not have heard yourself.

A person's past should be left where it belongs IMO, unless there are extenuating circumstances such as if they were carrying an STI, but that would show up in a test, and then their partners would have a right to know. But otherwise, I wouldn't be telling, and I don't want to know.

I'd be the same as yourself. Leave the past in the past. It wouldn't bother me as long as the person has been tested and is clean.

booooring! wrote: »

My god! It's not that that big of a deal. It's sex, it's not robbing a bank, stabbing someone or been a psychopath.

Have you talked to your parish priest about this?:rolleyes: if you went to Amsterdam you'd probably have a heart attack.

Relax there buddy. I never said it was a big deal, in fact its far from it IMO but it is for some people which is why I asked.

And I have been to Amsterdam. I didn't think much of it TBH.