Should I move

becky1993

So I've been looking for a new place to rent for a long time now.. Right now I'm in a tiny 2 bed apt. With no garden..I've two kids and literally no room for Xmas tree this year.. After no success on daft.ie I posted an ad looking for a landlord who will take rent supplement..I got a phone call offering me a house in Allenwood which Is a good 25 mins from where I am now..my close family are really nearby me now which I love.. Should I take this opportunity just so I can have bigger place for the kids(place is brand new with 3 bed) I have my nanny and 2 auntys living up there but I wouldn't be too comfortable just knocking by..any advice..I love my current area but so so confused.. Is this a fresh start... P.s I drive

Dial Hard

25 *whole* minutes away and you drive?

I think you've answered your own question there OP. Living in/near your ideal area is a privilege, not a right.

Pawwed Rig

Depends on where you are living now.
If in Naas, Celbridge or Maynooth then Allenwood (to be diplomatic) would require some adjustment. If currently in Edenderry, Enfield or one of the many small towns dotted around the Bog of Allen then it should be fine. Wouldn't worry about the drive.

orthsquel

You should ask yourself what is more important in the grand scheme of things: a proper living space that you and your children need and deserve or being close in proximity to close family at any cost? What are your priorities? And is your need to be near your close family a practical need in terms of practical support e.g. help with childminding or emotional support for yourself or just that you have someone nearby you can call on for anything (e.g. for a chat)? Perhaps you should weigh up what that other area offers for you depending on your situation should childminding services or social/community groups be something you need.

IMO your priority should be on providing a decent living space for yourself and your children, within your means while balancing emotional security and familiarity in secure surroundings.

Where you're at now the close family in close proximity is a creature comfort that shouldn't take priority over practical, appropriate living space that fulfils your needs and your children's needs. a 2 bed apartment with 2 children is doable to a point but you have spent a lot of time looking and found nothing, you may have to face up to the reality that you may never or at least, not for a very long time find the sort of accommodation that you want that keeps you in close proximity to your close family.

Perhaps you should also consider pros and cons of the areas and consider which needs exactly you are fulfilling in your current place and what you could fulfil at the 3 bed house you're being offered.

Shrap

Allenwood looks like a nice small town for kids to get to know each other well and for you to find a community that will welcome you with open arms. OP, I'm a lone parent living in a tiny rural community and my relatives are ALL living in Dublin, a 2 1/2 hr drive away. I wouldn't swap now for the life of me as my kids are so settled. 25 mins down here in the sticks is what you'd often drive to visit a friend for coffee. Go for it!

fussyonion

OP, the way I see it, you've been really lucky to even find a landlord willing to accept Rent Allowance.

25 minutes is nothing, especially if you drive.
I live 30 minutes from my friends and family but I think nothing of it as I drive and I'd rather live 30 minutes away rather than an hour and a half, which is the distance I used to live from them some years back.

You know how hard it is for LL's to take RA; you've been offered somewhere, you said yourself your current place is too small...everything is pointing to "yes, take it."

I can't see a legitimate excuse for you not taking it, to be honest, and if you turn it down, how long will you be waiting for another LL to accept RA?