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Accommodation/Plan for a seriously alcoholic relative

  • 08-10-2015 3:57pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Need huge help here with ideas with what to do.

    Here's the short version of the story Lets call him John, he is my mother in law's brother and not a nice person at all, even before the drinking happened. John is an alcoholic, he drank so much in a short space of time that he's given himself a number of serious health issues both physically and mentally, which even if he quits drinking these are lifelong problems he will have.

    Last week John got kicked out of the hotel he was living in due to alcohol related issues, because of this he is now staying with on the sofa in the living room. I'm seeing his sister break down on a daily basis over him, he has now even stolen some of her medication.

    Basically... we need him out of here and he won't want to leave. He has been blacklisted in all hotels and we also have 100% control of his funds.

    Ideas with what we can do? We badly need a plan with how to tackle this situation, his sister has been trying to do it all herself but she is exhausted (getting less than 6 hours sleep and she has her own health issues to manage) so we're trying to take it upon ourselves to help her get him out ASAP.


Comments

  • #2
    The Bishop Basher
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,279 ✭✭✭The Bishop Basher


    Kick him out and give his money. What he does from there is his problem.

    Despite you well intentioned efforts, you cant help him till he decides to help himself.

    As difficult as it may seem, you need to cut him loose for everyone else's sanity.

    Best of luck...


  • #3
    Lollipops23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,420 ✭✭✭Lollipops23


    Can you get in touch with his GP and see about a referral for John of God's maybe? It sounds like his needs intense treatment, but it also sounds like he doesn't particularly want to change. If that's the case, you do need to cut him loose. There comes a time in many longterm addictions where it needs to happen.


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