Wedding Stress Vent - Less than 4 weeks to go...

Mimojo

I badly need to vent, so here goes!

Our wedding is less than a month away now, and can I just say at the start that I am very much looking forward to it. Its been a long road, originally had booked it for August but serious issues with the original hotel forced us to cancel and rebook with another hotel. All worked out fine thankfully and all on track for the new date. New hotel is amazing, got a great package, and think its is guna be just what we wanted.

I moved job 2 months ago, to a far more stressful, longer commute job, so my time was seriously curtailed. Don't get me wrong love the new job and its great for my career, suppose just added a bit more stress into the mix.

I just find that EVERY waking minute at the moment is something to do with the wedding! Is this normal?! I just counted and the last 8 weekends there has been some fitting, shopping, trial, tasting etc for the day, and so many more weekends before that, I feel like I am out every weekend buying something else for it too! I don't have time for much else if I am honest, sports, gym, running…all gone out the window, even catching up with friends is hard to fit in.

We originally wanted something really small and simple, and decided on a small wedding, 70 people. After MUCH discussion with my family in particular we decided on a civil ceremony, and people have final come around to the idea. My dad then really wanted to invite a lot more, so gave in somewhat and numbers when up to 90. We didn't invite any first cousins at all, to try and keep the numbers done.

I guess what I have realised than even if you have a small wedding, you still have to do all the stuff that does with a wedding, dress, bridesmaids, reception, photographer, flowers, hair, make up etc etc. So even though at the start I figured 'this will be a doodle' I can now see that even a small wedding takes a lot of organising! My whole life at the moment is spreadsheets and lists, I am a very organised person, but this has been a juggling act at times!

I think I have let the stress get to me now, ever evening and weekend I seem to be thinking about it, at this stage I just want it to come around already!

Would just like to hear from others….is this what it is like closing in towards the day??! I know I am very organised and have pretty much everyone covered at this point, but still seems to be always more to do!

Does it come to a point where you just say "F it, I can't do any more now!" !!!

whiskeyman

Yep, it's a busy time alright!
All those lists and spreadsheet really do help... especially in the last weeks.
You will get there, and I guess when the big day comes, you can enjoy it knowing the amount of work that you both put in to it and seeing all your loved ones there to celebrate with you.

There some a point the day of so beforehand you really need to say 'right, that's it! I can't do any more... I've done lots of prep and paid a lot of people (hotel etc...) to do their job... I shouldn't worry any more'.
That point really helps, and try and have a very relaxing honeymoon to look forward to a few days afterwards. You'll both need it!!


Just another thing - I feel if you are the type of person who organises things and is a planner, you'll always get caught up in this as you want the best for everyone.
I've known some people to book stuff and do little or nothing and just breeze up to their wedding days!


Best of luck!!

Rave.ef

It's normal. Got married last week decided to do wedding abroad tot it might be easier maybe 15 20 people.... Ended up over 50. Twelve weeks had been wedding wedding wedding and stressed to our eyeballs but everything worked out on the day. So try( I know easier said den done ) relax and enjoy because the day itself will fly.

ladyella

Very normal to be feeling that way, you'll get to the point where you'll even utter the words 'can't wait for it to be over'
But then it IS over and you'll look at it with rose tinted glasses. It's so stressful but make your lists and follow them. Your day will be here soon enough now and by then it'll be too late to change anything or stress over anything so you'll do nothing but enjoy it

fits

Pfft. EVERYBODY has a meltdown in the last few weeks. Soon it will be over and you will find you miss the buzz of planning and you're still looking at wedding forums...try to enjoy it because its a wonderful time.

michellie

Oh I love lists and organisation. Were not getting married until July and I can see this happening. I have got all the big things sorted and I'm making my way through the little things gradually because I don't want to be rushing around before it. There is so much involved!!

Milly33

Let it Out!! Vent and vent and believe me it is all normal and yes I think there is a point you will hit where you will say feck it and just relax and love this moment when it happens..

Just after our own now and have to say I am still a bit gutted at how it went, I let things get away from myself, well just for me now no one else noticed but then no one else had been thinking of it constantly for the last 2 years, so it was much harder on my side..

I would say when organising things make sure and have two people there who know exactly what you want on the day and at what times you want them to happen to make sure all the things you have thought about and want for the day happen. Too many cooks in the kitchen causes mayhem... And also with himself make sure he knows what you want to as he may forgot, not in a bad way but men get swept up in the day too..

Other than that everything that you are feeling is quite normal. I would say grab a good friend and head out for dinner somewhere and just relax.. Youll more than likely end up talking about the wedding but sure that's what happens.

Pistachios & cream

Married nearly 8 weeks and while i loved the wedding and enjoyed the planning i'm delighted it's over. I like having my life back.

Weddings tend to consume any free time you previously had, add in the emotion around it and the pressure for everything to be perfect and i'm surprised more people don't have a melt down.

If it helps take a look at all your lists and prioritise them by what is essential to you to have a good day. Anything else put it in a mental, nice to have box so if it doesn't get done you won't be unhappy. It is amazing how small things can consume a huge amount of your head space. I look back now at things i did and realised that no one would have noticed if they weren't done.

rainbow kirby

ahayes84 wrote: »

i loved the wedding and enjoyed the planning i'm delighted it's over. I like having my life back.

+10000

Relief was definitely a major emotion afterwards - the preparation is stressful no matter what way you look at it.

ElleEm

Is it completely naive of me to think this is not gonna happen with me? We are getting married in Spring and so far are taking everything so handy. Although we have yet to tell people, which probably helps!

fits

Yep! I took on feck all in the way of diy jobs. Just had to show up really and the last month was still crazy. But I enjoyed so much too. Have great memories.

Malari

ElleEm wrote: »

Is it completely naive of me to think this is not gonna happen with me? We are getting married in Spring and so far are taking everything so handy. Although we have yet to tell people, which probably helps!

It doesn't happen to everyone! Bar a couple of hiccups with 'you're not inviting X???' everything is fine. I have a couple of months to go. I mean when you think about what's the worse thing that could happen, there's very little to actually worry about. :-)

pooch90

The month before is very stressful and you don't seem to have a wedding free moment. It will be worth it in the end. Just keep your to-do lists up to date and delegate the crap out of it! The one thing I wish I'd done was allocate things to people for the actual day- ie someone to pay the band, someone to take the MRF away and keep it safe etc. Make sure you get copies of readings to readers ahead of time.
The pure exhaustion once the wedding was like nothing I'd ever experienced (until I got pregnant!!) but it's an amazing weight off your shoulders, coupled with the pure elation of having gotten married and having a wonderful day. You'll get there. Just try and sleep lots for next 3 weeks as the final week can be manic.
Best of luck!

Smartguy

Weddings are only as stressful as you make them to be. It is all self imposed and easily avoided if you want to.

Mimojo

whiskeyman wrote: »

Yep, it's a busy time alright!
All those lists and spreadsheet really do help... especially in the last weeks.
You will get there, and I guess when the big day comes, you can enjoy it knowing the amount of work that you both put in to it and seeing all your loved ones there to celebrate with you.

There some a point the day of so beforehand you really need to say 'right, that's it! I can't do any more... I've done lots of prep and paid a lot of people (hotel etc...) to do their job... I shouldn't worry any more'.
That point really helps, and try and have a very relaxing honeymoon to look forward to a few days afterwards. You'll both need it!!


Just another thing - I feel if you are the type of person who organises things and is a planner, you'll always get caught up in this as you want the best for everyone.
I've known some people to book stuff and do little or nothing and just breeze up to their wedding days!


Best of luck!!

Cheers. Ya everything at the moment seems to be a list of something or other to do. I fee like I am coming to a point where I can't do much more, I am hoping to enjoy the last few weeks and keep them relatively stress free leading into the day itself. I don't want to get to the day and be stressed out of my mind over it!!

I just booked our mini-moon this morning to a gorgeous spa hotel, just want to get away afterwards for a few days and completely switch off ,I think we are going to need it.

I wish I was someone who could just book something and walk away, but I am def a very organised person so I think I was always going to be up to my eyes in it! On the other hand though I am not fussy, I decide on something and thats it, I don't need to see a million versions before I make a decision!

Rave.ef wrote: »

It's normal. Got married last week decided to do wedding abroad tot it might be easier maybe 15 20 people.... Ended up over 50. Twelve weeks had been wedding wedding wedding and stressed to our eyeballs but everything worked out on the day. So try( I know easier said den done ) relax and enjoy because the day itself will fly.

Sounds like this is normal so! I don't generally get very stressed as I am organised, I just feel like it is never ending the stuff to be done, and its wedding wedding wedding ALL the time lately!

ladyella wrote: »

Very normal to be feeling that way, you'll get to the point where you'll even utter the words 'can't wait for it to be over'
But then it IS over and you'll look at it with rose tinted glasses. It's so stressful but make your lists and follow them. Your day will be here soon enough now and by then it'll be too late to change anything or stress over anything so you'll do nothing but enjoy it

I actually uttered those words at the weekend!!! I know what you mean, I will look back and forget all the hassle, and think it was all rosy!

fits wrote: »

Pfft. EVERYBODY has a meltdown in the last few weeks. Soon it will be over and you will find you miss the buzz of planning and you're still looking at wedding forums...try to enjoy it because its a wonderful time.

I am looking forward to having my life back, but yes Im sure it is weird afterwards not to have to do wedding stuff all the time anymore! Im sure I will miss it, in a really weird way! I am looking forward to get back to normal stuff though, and having more free time again!

michellie wrote: »

Oh I love lists and organisation. Were not getting married until July and I can see this happening. I have got all the big things sorted and I'm making my way through the little things gradually because I don't want to be rushing around before it. There is so much involved!!

Absolutely, and I was ultra organised coming up to this, had a lot of stuff done way ahead of time. But there are some things that you just can't go until nearer the time, and you will find that a lot of time is taken up in the weeks leading up to it, dress fittings, make up and hair trials, tastings etc.

Milly33 wrote: »

Let it Out!! Vent and vent and believe me it is all normal and yes I think there is a point you will hit where you will say feck it and just relax and love this moment when it happens..

Just after our own now and have to say I am still a bit gutted at how it went, I let things get away from myself, well just for me now no one else noticed but then no one else had been thinking of it constantly for the last 2 years, so it was much harder on my side..

I would say when organising things make sure and have two people there who know exactly what you want on the day and at what times you want them to happen to make sure all the things you have thought about and want for the day happen. Too many cooks in the kitchen causes mayhem... And also with himself make sure he knows what you want to as he may forgot, not in a bad way but men get swept up in the day too..

Other than that everything that you are feeling is quite normal. I would say grab a good friend and head out for dinner somewhere and just relax.. Youll more than likely end up talking about the wedding but sure that's what happens.

Great to hear a point will come when I will just relax! Ya I hate that things are getting to me now, I know it is partly I am pretty tired and there is a lot to do, but normal me would never have gotten so bothered about these little things! It really is such a constant, and gets more intense as the day draws near, I guess you just have to realise you are the only one feeling like this, everyone has their own lives going on!

Thanks for the tip on having people organised on the day for what to do, another few lists to be made there!

Took your advise and grabbed my sister and bent her ear last night, but good to talk it through. Hen is this weekend so that should be good to get away from it for the weekend.

ahayes84 wrote: »

Married nearly 8 weeks and while i loved the wedding and enjoyed the planning i'm delighted it's over. I like having my life back.

Weddings tend to consume any free time you previously had, add in the emotion around it and the pressure for everything to be perfect and i'm surprised more people don't have a melt down.

If it helps take a look at all your lists and prioritise them by what is essential to you to have a good day. Anything else put it in a mental, nice to have box so if it doesn't get done you won't be unhappy. It is amazing how small things can consume a huge amount of your head space. I look back now at things i did and realised that no one would have noticed if they weren't done.

I think I am going to feel the same when it is all over. Ever free second at the moment is consumed with it, and the little things seem to roll into big things.

I think I have a lot of stuff done now, and you are right, people only notice the big stuff, no point stressing over tiny details that only you will see anyhow.

rainbow kirby wrote: »

+10000

Relief was definitely a major emotion afterwards - the preparation is stressful no matter what way you look at it.

Totally agree. No matter how organised you are, there is still a lot to do, and stress does happen, however hard you try to avoid it

ElleEm wrote: »

Is it completely naive of me to think this is not gonna happen with me? We are getting married in Spring and so far are taking everything so handy. Although we have yet to tell people, which probably helps!

Just be as organised as possible, and make plenty of lists! As I said above there are some things you cant do until the end. For the most part everything went very smoothly. Just in the last 2-3 months before hand you will find that ever weekend is spent doing wedding related stuff, and there are a lot of small bits to finalise. But it is nice, for the most part anyhow!!

fits wrote: »

Yep! I took on feck all in the way of diy jobs. Just had to show up really and the last month was still crazy. But I enjoyed so much too. Have great memories.

Me too, hotel are doing a huge amount thankfully, didnt sign up to do too much DIY stuff at all, but like that last month has been crazy! Defo a mix of enjoying it, and getting sick of it!

Malari wrote: »

It doesn't happen to everyone! Bar a couple of hiccups with 'you're not inviting X???' everything is fine. I have a couple of months to go. I mean when you think about what's the worse thing that could happen, there's very little to actually worry about. :-)

Ya you are dead right, most stuff people wont even notice anyhow!

pooch90 wrote: »

The month before is very stressful and you don't seem to have a wedding free moment. It will be worth it in the end. Just keep your to-do lists up to date and delegate the crap out of it! The one thing I wish I'd done was allocate things to people for the actual day- ie someone to pay the band, someone to take the MRF away and keep it safe etc. Make sure you get copies of readings to readers ahead of time.
The pure exhaustion once the wedding was like nothing I'd ever experienced (until I got pregnant!!) but it's an amazing weight off your shoulders, coupled with the pure elation of having gotten married and having a wonderful day. You'll get there. Just try and sleep lots for next 3 weeks as the final week can be manic.
Best of luck!

I need to get on to delegating some more stuff so! Def need to make of list for the wedding party, and print out the readings.

We have just booked a few days away afterwards as our honeymoon is not till early next year. SO looking forward to it now, don't want to do a thing bar sleep and eat, oh and the odd glass of wine!

Thanks for the tip, pushed to get a lot of stuff done so the 2 weekends before the wedding would be relatively free so could take it easy, hope it works out that way now!!

Smartguy wrote: »

Weddings are only as stressful as you make them to be. It is all self imposed and easily avoided if you want to.

I dont agree, they are stressful as there is a hell of a lot to do!

Milly33

Glad to hear you are feeling better about it... Ah tis all part and parcel of it.. I really hated that I got so bothered in the end about the whole thing as I am very well organised I must say but it was when others started at me I was like AHHHHHHHH im going up my tower and going to throw stones....

Just try and enjoy it as much as you can as it does fly by so fast...

pooch90

We got married up the country where I'm from and then came home for a few days on our own before heading off on honeymoon. I almost enjoyed those few days with the gate locked as much as the honeymoon to be honest!!

stickybookmark

I was doing stuff right up to and including the morning of the wedding, but we only had 4 months from getting engaged to the wedding so it was a pretty unique case I guess. I had several jobs to do on the morning of the wedding which involved driving around the place as well.
And don't get me started on the day before the wedding or the day before that - crazy hectic, stressful 2 days & late nights.

summer_chic

It is a very stressful time. I was relatively well organised but personal circumstances meant that all organisation came to a halt 4 months before the wedding, and didn't resume until 6 weeks before. Luckily I had the majority if it done before Christmas ! The photographer gave me the best advice actually - he said that I had to surrender on the day and let myself be told what to do, and just be in the moment. I drew a line at 5pm the day before my wedding , at the rehearsal, and said if it wasn't done by then, it wasn't getting done ! All of my family travelled to be there and I wanted to enjoy them. It's the best thing I did, and the best advice I can give ! Well, also the fact that 90% of the stuff you will be stressing about is completely unimportant on the day, and nobody but you will notice it !! It's very easy to forget what the day is about , so try to relax and enjoy !

sanna

I got married last June, and heading towards the Jan of last year I was that hacked off with all of the stress and families we looked into getting married on the quiet in March.

Ended up we didnt, as much as I had an amazing day its not a day i want to do again! Couldnt be bothered! So much snipping from people, folk couldnt be bothered making an effort - list goes on!

I had spent the best part of a year leading upto the day doing wedding related things, that when it came to after the wedding my wkds were empty, still trying to work out how it consumed so much of my time.

You just need to make time for you both and take plenty of deep breaths, its one day granted a fabulous one but still one day!

All the best!

ronjo

Smartguy wrote: »

Weddings are only as stressful as you make them to be. It is all self imposed and easily avoided if you want to.

Fully agree with this.

Yes, there is quite a bit to do but to me it seems that it only takes over your life fully if thats what you want.

CorkClaire82

ronjo wrote: »

Fully agree with this.

Yes, there is quite a bit to do but to me it seems that it only takes over your life fully if thats what you want.

I agree somewhat but in the last month there is literally nothing you can do to avoid the wedding. You're talking about it at home, at work,when people ring/visit. All the rsvps are coming back so you're updating the list daily. I would've hoped to be one of those couples where we weren't all about it but even we couldn't stop talking or thinking about it.

However, the week before I'd a wonderful time. The day just before was a little stressful but then again i got married over 2 hours from my home place and we'd to do some decorating. Even that was enjoyable, i was just wrecked.

Hopefully it'll turn for you too but this stress,i think, is totally normal.

CorkClaire82

ronjo wrote: »

Fully agree with this.

Yes, there is quite a bit to do but to me it seems that it only takes over your life fully if thats what you want.

I agree somewhat but in the last month there is literally nothing you can do to avoid the wedding. You're talking about it at home, at work,when people ring/visit. All the rsvps are coming back so you're updating the list daily. I would've hoped to be one of those couples where we weren't all about it but even we couldn't stop talking or thinking about it.

However, the week before I'd a wonderful time. The day just before was a little stressful but then again i got married over 2 hours from my home place and we'd to do some decorating. Even that was enjoyable, i was just wrecked.

Hopefully it'll turn for you too but this stress,i think, is totally normal.

Mimojo

Milly33 wrote: »

Glad to hear you are feeling better about it... Ah tis all part and parcel of it.. I really hated that I got so bothered in the end about the whole thing as I am very well organised I must say but it was when others started at me I was like AHHHHHHHH im going up my tower and going to throw stones....

Just try and enjoy it as much as you can as it does fly by so fast...

Know the feeling, I think at the moment though I am extra sensitive or something, and totally wrecked, so everything is annoying me, whereas I think in normal circumstances I wouldnt let it get to me so much

pooch90 wrote: »

We got married up the country where I'm from and then came home for a few days on our own before heading off on honeymoon. I almost enjoyed those few days with the gate locked as much as the honeymoon to be honest!!

I CANT WAIT to get away after the wedding for a few days, really looking forward to that nearly more than the day itself at this stage lol!

stickybookmark wrote: »

I was doing stuff right up to and including the morning of the wedding, but we only had 4 months from getting engaged to the wedding so it was a pretty unique case I guess. I had several jobs to do on the morning of the wedding which involved driving around the place as well.
And don't get me started on the day before the wedding or the day before that - crazy hectic, stressful 2 days & late nights.

I am really hoping I wont be too stressed out on those days. But I dont have much annual leave to take (due to job change mid year) so I am off the 2 days before the wedding only, and already the list has started of things to get done on those days. I would really like to hope that the day before I can take it easy and rest up a bit, but will see how it goes!

summer_chic wrote: »

It is a very stressful time. I was relatively well organised but personal circumstances meant that all organisation came to a halt 4 months before the wedding, and didn't resume until 6 weeks before. Luckily I had the majority if it done before Christmas ! The photographer gave me the best advice actually - he said that I had to surrender on the day and let myself be told what to do, and just be in the moment. I drew a line at 5pm the day before my wedding , at the rehearsal, and said if it wasn't done by then, it wasn't getting done ! All of my family travelled to be there and I wanted to enjoy them. It's the best thing I did, and the best advice I can give ! Well, also the fact that 90% of the stuff you will be stressing about is completely unimportant on the day, and nobody but you will notice it !! It's very easy to forget what the day is about , so try to relax and enjoy !

Thanks for the advice, I am going to try and remember that and chant it on the day! It really is easy to forget what the day is about, it just seems like stress and 'to-do' lists at the moment! I want to enjoy it, its one of the single times in your life you will have all your friends and family in one room together wishing you well, I want to talk to everyone and enjoy the day, rather than worrying about the little things!

sanna wrote: »

I got married last June, and heading towards the Jan of last year I was that hacked off with all of the stress and families we looked into getting married on the quiet in March.

Ended up we didnt, as much as I had an amazing day its not a day i want to do again! Couldnt be bothered! So much snipping from people, folk couldnt be bothered making an effort - list goes on!

I had spent the best part of a year leading upto the day doing wedding related things, that when it came to after the wedding my wkds were empty, still trying to work out how it consumed so much of my time.

You just need to make time for you both and take plenty of deep breaths, its one day granted a fabulous one but still one day!

All the best!

I could write your post. I actually feel like the whole of 2015 has been nothing but weddings. And I am hoping that it will be an amazing day, but as you said it is just one day, and life goes on after it. Im the same, I said I wouldnt get stressed, we are not going any of the extra bits, its only a small wedding and the hotel are doing a lot of stuff, but yet seem to have a never ending list!

I cant wait to have my weekends back I have to say, have let a lot of things slide lately so want to get back to normal life again!

ronjo wrote: »

Fully agree with this.

Yes, there is quite a bit to do but to me it seems that it only takes over your life fully if thats what you want.

I def dont want it to take over my life, I am not a fussy person one bit, just seems like a hell of a lot to do and taking up all of my time!

CorkClaire82 wrote: »

I agree somewhat but in the last month there is literally nothing you can do to avoid the wedding. You're talking about it at home, at work,when people ring/visit. All the rsvps are coming back so you're updating the list daily. I would've hoped to be one of those couples where we weren't all about it but even we couldn't stop talking or thinking about it.

However, the week before I'd a wonderful time. The day just before was a little stressful but then again i got married over 2 hours from my home place and we'd to do some decorating. Even that was enjoyable, i was just wrecked.

Hopefully it'll turn for you too but this stress,i think, is totally normal.

Totally agree, everyone is talking about the wedding ever corner you turn, and while it is lovely, it is quite intense. And like that once the invites go out the rsvps are a constant update. We were the same, dont want to be consumed, but it does become a constant alright.

I am hoping the majority will be done so that the week before I can relax and enjoy it, and of course the day itself!

Mimojo

Just a quick update!

Our wedding was a week and a half ago now, and just wanted to pop up a quick post. I can hand on heart say it was the best day of my life. I know people say that all the time, and I didn't really believe it would be to be honest, but it really was amazing.

I ended up taking 2 extra days off work, so had the full week off before the wedding, and it was the best thing I could have done. I had pretty much everything done at that stage, so spend the Monday and Tuesday just chilling out and resting, and I was so glad I did. Went home on the Wednesday and from them on it was all go, between family coming home, people calling, appointments etc, it was all really enjoyable, but quite busy and the 2 days before the wedding seems to go so quickly. The night before the wedding was really chilled, took it handy all evening and had an early night.

The day itself was incredible, just brilliant. It really did fly by, everyone before hand said it would, and it really did. From advice on here I woke up that morning and said "Right, that is it all organised, now to enjoy it" and I really did, ever single second. I didn't bother stressing about anything, all the hard work was done at that stage, and I didn't want to look back and regret worrying about stuff, I just let go and enjoyed it. So just just went with the flow, and took in every single second. It is a very surreal day I found, meeting so many people, so many things going on at once,but what a brilliant feeling!

The thing that struck me most is people, the people that have made the journey to come to your wedding and be with you on the day, not to mind their incredible generosity which in itself was so overwhelming, that is what makes a wedding. Not table plans, centre pieces, blah blah blah, its your brilliant family and friends, all there together on the day to wish you well, it was the most brilliant feeling in the world.I honestly felt like the luckiest person in the world on the day, having everyone around us to celebrate with us.

When I look back on the posts here I defo was stressed, there was a hell of a lot of work that went into it, but I would do every bit of it again, 10 times over, if I could relive the day again, it was out of this world!

And yes 90% of the stuff that you stress about is so totally unimportant on the day, you hardly notice that stuff, let alone anyone else!

Rose35

Oh What a lovely post Mimojo. I have six months to go and stress is unbelievable i so want to enjoy the day but get so jealous of people who have their day over (I want to be them!!!). I will relax and enjoy and think of your post to help relax me!!!! Congrats by the way.

Mimojo

Rose35 wrote: »

Oh What a lovely post Mimojo. I have six months to go and stress is unbelievable i so want to enjoy the day but get so jealous of people who have their day over (I want to be them!!!). I will relax and enjoy and think of your post to help relax me!!!! Congrats by the way.

Lol Rose, now I am jealous of those that haven't had their wedding yet, as I know how much fun it is going to be!!

I felt that EXACT same as you, its a very intense process, and as much and you said you are not going to get sucked in, it really does take over everything in your life, especially the closer you get. When I think back on some of the stuff I worried about, it was pure daft!

I just couldn't get over how brilliantly amazing firstly my own family were, and then extended family and friends, it was just brilliant!

Another word of advice, I didnt realise before the day, you spend a lot of time on the day with the photographer, so make sure you are happy with who you have chosen and comfie with them, def do up a list of shots that you have to have. Doesn't have to be a huge list, but on the day it is so busy that it is easy to forget. We are waiting for our professional shots to be sent to us, and are so excited to see them, they are what you will have to look back on in years to come to make sure you get the ones you want!

Best of luck with everything, I swear it will all be worth it!

LynnGrace

Lovely update, OP, and congrats.
Delighted to hear it was such a great day.

adub

Thanks so much for the update, we've 3 weeks left and iv a permanent tension headache! Latest is that the Ireland football match is on at 7:45 on the night of our wedding so we could either show it and delay the band by a while or we lose half the wedding guests to the hotels bar... Decisions, decisions

pooch90

Ah God that's a pain! To be honest, I'd show it because we were at a wedding at the weekend when the rugby was on and the dinner was called before the end of the Wales match, nobody budged, including bride's brothers. During the speeches, everyone was checking the France score on their phone. They were matches that Ireland weren't playing!

Mimojo

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Thanks so much for the update, we've 3 weeks left and iv a permanent tension headache! Latest is that the Ireland football match is on at 7:45 on the night of our wedding so we could either show it and delay the band by a while or we lose half the wedding guests to the hotels bar... Decisions, decisions

pooch90 wrote: »

Ah God that's a pain! To be honest, I'd show it because we were at a wedding at the weekend when the rugby was on and the dinner was called before the end of the Wales match, nobody budged, including bride's brothers. During the speeches, everyone was checking the France score on their phone. They were matches that Ireland weren't playing!

That is a pain, I know that happened at a wedding my sister went to, it was an all-ireland replay and brides county were playing, so they did show it as otherwise there would have been war! But that was earlier in the day, so showed it before the meal and just pushed it back a bit.

The meal will likely still be going on at 7.45? Any chance you could show it on a big screen in the room maybe so that all can see, but with volume down, then start the band anyhow. Are your guest huge soccer fans, or is it for a select few?