I would really like advice as feeling miserable...

GenGenie

Hello, I need a bit of help as feeling very miserable and incredibly sad.

I just recently (few weeks) moved with my family 3 hours away to live beside my husbands family. My children new started school today and I am so so sad. I totally underestimated how much I would miss home. My parents, the familiarity of it all. I was allowed to keep my job so I am working from home so alone with my thoughts all day.

My husband and kids are really happy so that should keep my happy but I am miserable. We were only renting in our previous county, and had already moved with the kids twice, as houses were being sold. There is a lovely house here belonging to my brother in law that we can rent and eventually buy so we moved really to give the kids security of a home and with me working from home, I will see more of the kids. But now I am wondering did we move for the right reasons?

We have agreed to give it a year but I am already dreaming about moving back home at end of school year (my husband is a teacher) - which would mean moving kids back to their old school.

I am very miserable, not sleeping and probably a nightmare to live with. My parents keep asking am I ok, and I am afraid to say no, I don't want to worry them.

My question is, do you think it would awful to move the kids back to rent again? Do you think we moved for the right reasons?? I really feel I need help.

LLMMML

I think you need to give it more time but also share your feelings with your husband. Bottling it up will just make it worse.

Sunflower 27

Agree with the above, you definitely need to give this a bit more time. The feelings you have at the moment are very raw. Moving home is one of the top stressors in life and there is always a period of readjustment.

Do you have any way of making new friends where you are because that will help ease you through this period.

Try and not dwell on things. If it doesn't work out, you can move back. A year is not a long time. I think you need to give things a chance before you just pack it in.

Chocolate fiend

3 hours is really not that far, but, it might as well be the other side of the world if you don't get out there and get involved in your new area. Working from home won't help with that, but, getting involved with the children and their schools will help at least a little.

Don't give up just yet. I am in Australia and sometimes I am so homesick that I can barely talk, but, I am doing this for my kids and to give them a better life, and there are plenty of times where I am having the time of my life and realise it is good for me as well.

3 hours sounds so minor to me, but, everything is relative.

amdublin

Aww you poor thing op. Please don't bottle it up - talk to you husband or your parents. Or even better your GP. It won't be the only answer but it will help a little by sharing.