Is this it??

Candycakes

Ah maybe I'm a moaning Maria but lately I feel like this this it? I'm so bored of life
I'm lucky in a lot of ways I have a great family and a beautiful son but I'm 30 I feel very stuck in a routine
Every day is the same it's like Groundhog Day
I need an adventure or something
I feel trapped in a rut that I can't get out of because I'm a mum and I wouldn't change that for the world but I would love to start having a life instead of existing

Pat Mustard

People get a bit bored of the daily routine, after a while. A nice change can recharge the batteries. Maybe time for a good holiday?

fatknacker

There's nothing like a good dose of routine to make you feel dead inside.
Well, it works for some people but not all people.
Think about something that would be incredibly exciting to do, or something that you've always wanted to do. Then see it as a goal you can work towards. Figure out how to negotiate around the obstacles and they will diminish in time.

fatknacker

You don't have to be like the hipster in this clip but at least he has the right idea.

https://vimeo.com/120206922?ref=fb-share

Dolbert

While I love being on maternity leave, I do need something else as well or I'd go bananas! I'm starting a course in October with a possible career change which I'm excited about, and I gig with my band regularly too. Do you have any hobbies or interests that you could set time aside for?

eviltwin

Doing the same thing day in day out will eventually drive you gaga. In the short-term see if you can take some time off to recharge your batteries. Long term look at what you can do to break up the week, hobbies, places to go. It's hard to be too adventurous during the week if you are working but doing a night course, going running or to a zumba class, even just a trip to the cinema can help.

iwantmydinner

I don't have kids and I have an absolutely just lovely life, really really lucky... But I'm starting to feel a wee bit squished into a routine so I'm planning a big adventure next year.

I can't help feeling really super itchy-footed and antsy, despite all the good things in my life. I think it's pretty natural and normal for a lot of people, OP. Don't feel bad for feeling that way and don't be afraid to explore ways of changing your life.

Tigger99

What hobbies excite you, what have you always wanted to do? If I did nothing but went to work and came home or was working from home minding a baby I would go spare. I need things to aim for, to look forward to.

I've loads of little goals and big goals that I think about and excite me and I take steps towards achieving.

Examples of goals could be learning new recipes, doing another Masters, taking on online volunteer work. reading books on my to do list, listening to Ted talks that inspire me or less lofty goals such as meeting my friends more, start a book club, go on different types of fun dates with a partner, doing a big clear out of my wardrobe, god I could go on for hours.

Now there are evenings when all I want to do is veg in front of the TV, but that's grand too, and feels lovely because of all the other things I'm doing.

Long story short, there's definitely more to life but it's not going to happen unless you think about what interests you.

jimbobaloobob

I think this is the problem of the modern world.

I hope you find a solution to it for yourself. My advice isnt worth typing.

zeffabelli

Get a creative project going.

miamee

Candycakes wrote: »

Ah maybe I'm a moaning Maria but lately I feel like this this it? I'm so bored of life
I'm lucky in a lot of ways I have a great family and a beautiful son but I'm 30 I feel very stuck in a routine
Every day is the same it's like Groundhog Day
I need an adventure or something
I feel trapped in a rut that I can't get out of because I'm a mum and I wouldn't change that for the world but I would love to start having a life instead of existing

You need to start planning ahead. Instead of just taking each day as it comes, plan to meet up with other friends (and their kids) for a coffee or a play date or a trip to the park.

If you feel stuck at home with the little fella a lot, how about organising a few hours to yourself? Ask your partner or your/his parents to mind your son for a couple of hours and take yourself off shopping on Saturday afternoon or to visit a friend you haven't seen for a while or to the cinema or something.

In the longer term, would taking up some sort of class be possible? Or joining a group, even a parent's group? Lots of other mothers in your area probably feel the same way and there are sure to be some sort of meet ups. A friend joined a breastfeeding support group in her area - she has just moved there in the past 18 months and has just had a new baby. It's her third child so she really doesn't need any advice about breast feeding, it was just something that caught her attention as it was local and she needed to a) get out of the house with the kids and b) talk to other adults once in a while

The Corinthian

Candycakes wrote: »

Ah maybe I'm a moaning Maria but lately I feel like this this it?

I think the question "is that it?" is something you ask yourself after you hit a certain target milestone in your life. For some it might be marriage and a family. Others a house. Others a certain point in their career. Others it's retirement.

Personally I think we underestimate how much we need targets to strive for in life because of the purpose they afford us. As such, I think things like holidays or hobbies can be useful temporary distractions to such a feeling, but they don't replace this lack of purpose.

Instead choose some other target in your life to strive for.

Sunny Dayz

I Candycakes, I totally get where you are coming from. There are usually milestones in our lives which we are working towards, once we pass one step, logically you know what the next step is eg in a relationship for a while - think of moving in, buying a property, getting engaged etc. You do come to a point where you have a lot of the milestones ticked off and I do think there is a bit of a lul in life.
I am at that stage myself. I'm 30 too but I look at my friends with jealousy almost that they still have many of life's milestones to reach. I feel that I have reached many of them in my life already, married, house bought, have one kid, good job. The daily routine of work, home, cook, clean etc can do your head in.

SexyCoccyx

zeffabelli wrote: »

Get a creative project going.

I've a couple of hobbies (back studying, book club, I read a lot, travel etc.) but I'd love to get started on something hands-on creative but am stumped for ideas. Any ideas?

lazeedaisy

Do you knit or sew, or crochet, if you do, you could find a local group.

I spend time in my local library every 10 days or so, go through all their books, they have huge creative sections, try cooking, if you are home it's fun to try different things, baking? You have to tap into what interests you and it can take time to see what suits,

Have fun trying

lazeedaisy

Forgot to mention, I see you read and travel, I got into talking Books from the library. Now I always listen to them in the car, worth checking out if interested

fatknacker

How about using your free time to learn a European language and work towards getting a bit of time off next summer to visit the country with your kid and staying with a host family for a wee while or something?

Neyite

SexyCoccyx wrote: »

I've a couple of hobbies (back studying, book club, I read a lot, travel etc.) but I'd love to get started on something hands-on creative but am stumped for ideas. Any ideas?

Sewing? It's pretty easy to find a sewing class in the evenings that would be social and still have a creative element. Plus you learn useful skills. You could learn dressmaking or quilting. Crochet or knitting too. I know someone who makes greeting cards and they are gorgeous.

Pinterest is great for revving up your creativity.

John Mason

Its hard when you have kids. I feel the same, I tried to get back into my bootcamps but it really isn't feasible with young kids at home. by the time kid you get them into bed and do the prep for the next day its time for bed.

they wont be small forever so I guess life is on hold for the next 3 years for me anyway