Ex contacted me

Maturin75

Hi all, I have a question for you. My ex and I broke up in February this year after a long distance relationship. It was a pretty rough break up and I'm honestly only starting to feel back to myself now. We haven't been in contact apart from once or twice. Yesterday he messaged me on facebook and asked if I was seeing this new guy (who is just a friend of mine) who I'm pictured with quite a lot. I didn't reply and today I saw a message from him that was just "...".

I don't know why this has gotten to me so much but I am really put out by it and don't really know how to respond - was hoping some of you could help me out.

Thanks

Tilly

Tell him it's none of his business.

Exclamation Marc

Considering it was a rough break up and you haven't been in contact, it's absolutely none of his business as Tilly says.

I'd just ignore the message and don't reply. There'll be nothing to be gained from your point of view in replying or getting into a conversation about it (which will inevitably happen if you respond) and as you're only starting to feel back to yourself now, it might open old wounds and you might get hurt or into an argument. You don't deserve that.

I'd ignore it altogether and delete the conversation from your list of messages on FB, so it's out of mind and you don't see it again

Jotunheim

Unless you want to always be only just moving on from that relationship, he shouldn't even be able to see your Facebook page. Check your privacy settings, unfriend him and block him, no need for the two of you to keep in touch at all. If he doesn't like that, well that's just too bad.

fancy pigeon

Do not reply to him. What you do is your business. By the sounds of things he still thinks there is a hope of another relationship; he hasn't moved on from you.

The more you contact him, the harder it will be for you to move on

OneOfThem

Maturin75 wrote: »

today I saw a message from him that was just "...".

Yeah... don't mind that sh1t. Ignore it.

CaraMay

He said 'I hope some of you'. Who exactly is he asking? Block and ignore

DaDoRonRonRon

Definitely don't answer, delete the thread and block him. You have to prevent him butting into your life whenever he feels like it.

Arrow in the Knee

All the previous posts have been to block him but the OP never said that she doesn't want to contact him.

Does the OP want to communicate with him or forget about him?

road_high

Who dumped who or was it a mutual thing? That would be pretty important to know where either party is coming from.

Idle Passerby

I think it's cheeky of him to think its any of his business whether or not your seeing someone, particularly when there's been little contact since the break up.

The "..." would really irritate me. You're not obliged to tell him anything but that kind of passive aggressive crap isn't even worth responding to. Makes it seem like hes standing there tapping his foot, impatiently waiting for your answer. I wouldn't engage with that.

If your happy not to be in contact with him, make sure he cant see your actions on facebook. You needn't block him if you'd rather not, but change your security settings so he cant nose around on what your doing.

Maturin75

Hi everyone, just wanted to say thank you so much for all the responses. I thought about it a lot and decided that blocking him was the right thing to do - I don't want to feel like he can reappear in my life suddenly and without warning whenever he has questions like that. Strangely enough I feel a lot better after it.

Thanks again to all of you for taking the time to respond