why does life hurt so much :(

benjamiiin

All other people are out enjoying summer, going every day on pool or sea and i am all the summer again in my room, like every year. I cant go nowhere, because i have no friends. I am not equal to others, because i didnt have all those things in past (vacations with friends, swimming in pool or sea, trips, sex, friends) that for others are normal. How can i live with this? It hurts too much... And now i cant be on the level of others anymore... people dont realize how happy they can be for all those things they had in youth. I had nothing.

athtrasna

Before other people can like you you have to like yourself. Believe in yourself. There is nothing you can't do, you are the one holding you back.

I don't want to sound harsh but there are no rules that say you can't do these things solo, and in going out you meet people, make friends. I've just come back from a solo holiday abroad, and you know what, I had fun. Exploring, relaxing, recharging.

Also don't look back, you can't change the past. Look forward, set goals, have dreams and then make them reality. You won't be happy if you insist on looking at what didn't happen or what you didn't have. All of that makes you who you are today, uniquely you. Celebrate that

benjamiiin

The statistic and numbers are holding me back. There is nothing i can do anymore...Others are having fun since youth i didnt alive at 29 year nothing. They simply won

EoghanIRL

benjamiiin wrote: »

The statistic and numbers are holding me back. There is nothing i can do anymore...Others are having fun since youth i didnt alive at 29 year nothing. They simply won

That's the thing about statistics, they can be interpreted in different ways!
They are only numbers and shouldn't hold you back or stop you from being happy.
You need to conquer your defeatist attitude. Life isn't fair but you have to make the best out of what you have.
You seem quite upset. Perhaps you should consider consulting with someone outside of boards (parents,councillor etc..).

benjamiiin

Numbers define your worth. What you alive. If you can compete with others. This is todays society. People always enjoyed their youth, i didnt, so i simply cant be equal anymore to others. I am too far behind. Its pointless to live with this...

EoghanIRL

benjamiiin wrote: »

Numbers define your worth.

Only if you let them.

benjamiiin wrote: »

What you alive. If you can compete with others. This is todays society. People always enjoyed their youth, i didnt, so i simply cant be equal anymore to others. I am too far behind. Its pointless to live with this...

This is unfortunate and I feel for you but you can't let this determine your future.
Live in the present. From now on focus on today and tomorrow. Live your life now and you can still do all the things you missed out on. Work towards a holiday with sun and swimming. Do all the things you always wanted.

The great thing about the past is that it is the past. Don't forget about it but be active and focus on the future so that you will enjoy it.

benjamiiin

EoghanIRL wrote: »

Only if you let them.



This is unfortunate and I feel for you but you can't let this determine your future.
Live in the present. From now on focus on today and tomorrow. Live your life now and you can still do all the things you missed out on. Work towards a holiday with sun and swimming. Do all the things you always wanted.

The great thing about the past is that it is the past. Don't forget about it but be active and focus on the future so that you will enjoy it.

There are things which you cant interprete by yourself how you want. You cant say, you will not let school system define your education. Its clear what you need to finish to identify as finished. Its the same with things in life you need to do. Enjoy youth, do all the things other do. Its unwritten rule.

Past defines you, gives you worth. If its clear you cant be on level of the others, for me there is no point of living. I am not comparing with astrounauts or multimillionares. I am talking about sex, enjoying summer, playing sport with others, swimming on sea, having animal. If you didnt have things like this in youth, its clear you didnt have life.

Roselm

benjamiiin wrote: »

. If its clear you cant be on level of the others, for me there is no point of living.

Remember you can talk to someone if you are struggling www.samaritans.org

EoghanIRL

http://touch.boards.ie/thread/2057178293/1/#post89677352

Hopefully a mod can look into this.

mach1982

You can do anything uou

Tokyo

benjamiiin,

as this thread seems to be going very much in the same direction as your previous thread, I'm going to close it, as I really think that the advice given last time still applies - to contact your GP and get a referral for counsellors in your area. From the tone of your post, you really do need to speak to a professional about this, and leaving this thread open might only expose you to bad advice.

Thread closed,

~Mike