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Can we be friends?

  • 05-07-2015 5:17pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So I met a girl a while back. Things were going great. We had so much in common. We even had a weekend away together and it was great. She is one of the most amazing girls I've ever met.

    Well a week ago I asked her where she'd like things to go. She said she liked me but didn't feel there was anything there that could turn into a relationship. Needless to say I was heartbroken.

    Anyway she asked if we could stay friends. I kind of brushed it off because in my experience staying friends with a girl is usually something that fizzles out after a while. Well it seems she genuinely wants to be. I'd like to be but I just feel very let down by things not working out.

    I'd like to know what people think


Comments

  • #2
    beks101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,802 ✭✭✭beks101


    I think that was probably a line just to keep things friendly or to prevent her from feeling so bad about letting you down.

    I don't think trying to maintain any kind of friendship would be a good idea for you as you clearly want more. I think it would be an exercise in frustration for you and ego boost for her.

    I'd advise a clean break, cut all contact and if she's someone that's meant to be in your life in that way then it will happen down the line once your feelings have dissipated. Doubtful though I'd say.


  • #3
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    You're setting yourself up for a world of hurt by going down that route. Just picture in your head the first time you see her with another guy. Not nice is it.

    Cut all contact, period. Maybe a year down the road you can be friends.


  • #4
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    Hell no. I've had my heart broken once and he asked if we could be friends. How insulting! He never heard from me again eventhough there were many failed attempts at contact from him. Why should anyone have the pleasure of your society but doesn't want you as a boyfriend? Two reasons. To soften the blow for the dumpee or for the dumper to hedge ones bets. My advice is to sever ties completely and utterly, don't build a faux friendship based on tenuous foundations. She's either with you or not.


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