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its ok not to be ok???

  • 04-07-2015 4:58am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    To be clear -im not asking for any advice that breaches forum rules. Im just getting something off my chest. I keep seeing adverts telling us "its ok to not be ok". I think the ads are fantastic and it gave me the courage to tell my family that "im not ok". My background, ive been in a crappy place for a year now. I went to doctor, was prescribed anti-depressants almost instantly and without any questions. I also availed of a work scheme that offered me 6 free counselling sessions. However, i then felt i was on my own and so i plucked up the courage to tell family what was going on. They listened, they acknowledged... but 6 months on none of them have mentioned it or asked me about it. I now feel embarrassed and stupid for bringing it up with them. Its as if they dont know know what to do with it or I made them uncomfortable. I think many people have their own crap goin on and they just dont want to hear about my crap. To get to my point, im asking anyone who reads this... if someone comes to you and tells you that they are not ok, please follow up with them. Ask them from time to time how they are doing and if they want to talk. As a society we have definitely removed some of the barriers around depression, but the next step is to teach people how to listen and how to follow up, otherwise its meaningless. Rant over, hopefully this helps someone...


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  • #2
    dublinman101
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18 ✭dublinman101


    Yes. Agree with you. I opened up to people in the past. Some of those people never mentioned it again in any shape or form. It was a big thing for me to open up to them and it made me feel embarrassed having done so.
    I think the problem is many people just don't get it. If you haven't experienced these feelings you probably don't understand the seriousness of the situation. John Kirwan had a documentary on depression a few years ago he said "Tell someone. If they don't get it, tell someone else. Keep telling someone until you meet someone who gets it". He was talking about if someone who was in a crisis.


  • #3
    dublinman101
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18 ✭dublinman101


    Yes. Agree with you. I opened up to people in the past. Some of those people never mentioned it again in any shape or form. It was a big thing for me to open up to them and it made me feel embarrassed having done so.
    I think the problem is many people just don't get it. If you haven't experienced these feelings you probably don't understand the seriousness of the situation. John Kirwan had a documentary on depression a few years ago he said "Tell someone. If they don't get it, tell someone else. Keep telling someone until you meet someone who gets it". He was talking about if someone was in a crisis.


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