Worried

afterglow

Hi all

Any advice really appreciated. Mods if this belongs in Accommodation and property feel free to move.
I know I have been seen as a pain by some on here in the past but really need some advice.
Have moved into a new house now in UK, this took a long time to find, and someone did help me look at houses etc and called the landlord of this property for me as she saw the add first.
Here about two weeks now, and everything mostly going well.
I mentioned to this friend the other day that some people are smoking what I think is hash in the house. Now yesterday in a conversation just in passing i mentioned that one of the housemates that lives downstairs started a conversation the day before yesterday by saying that a lot of teaspoons have gone missing.
My friend (should have used the term friend loosely really as i don't know her that well but it's a long story) then instantly jumped to the conclusion that one of the other housemates is using drugs, hard drugs, and tells me i should be locking my door when i go out etc.
So I figure out how to lock the door, and assume that a key that is in the lock of the door is for it, turned out it wasn't and the door had to be broken down yesterday, still on hinges but lock needs replacing now.
My question is, when my friend was talking to me she then took it upon herself to call my landlord, and then mentioned about the spoons and the possible hash in the house. I had explicitly told her not to do either, if I got really bothered i would have said it to landlord myself, what I of course didn't and don't want is him thinking I am a pain and someone who complains about everything etc. This is my first time living in a house share also.
So, how can I ask him just to let this go and explain i didn't want her saying anything etc?
I also think maybe i should pay to get the lock fixed myself as technically it's my fault for listening to her and allowing her to make me nervous, would i be right in thinking it's my responsibility?
Thanks in advance
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athtrasna

If teaspoons are missing it's possible they're smoking heroin and not just cannabis. OP you should only have one priority right now and that's finding another place to live as quickly as possible.

afterglow

athtrasna wrote: »

If teaspoons are missing it's possible they're smoking heroin and not just cannabis. OP you should only have one priority right now and that's finding another place to live as quickly as possible.

Thanks for your quick reply. I thought maybe she was over reacting. I don't smell things all the time I just got nervous when she mentioned the heroin as I have gone out and left my mack, money etc. Nothing has ever been taken though, and others I have mentioned it to think it's ridiculous as they think if someone was doing that they would not being paying their rent.

R.D. aka MR.D

Missing teaspoons don't automatically mean heroin use. Am I the only one who puts a wee spoon in my coffee and then forgets about it and then finds like 5 teaspoons in weird places?

How could your friend call the landlord? That seems very strange. Are they friends?

I would imagine if you broke the lock, then you should replace it but I'm not very familiar with the law in the UK.

afterglow

R.D. aka MR.D wrote: »

Missing teaspoons don't automatically mean heroin use. Am I the only one who puts a wee spoon in my coffee and then forgets about it and then finds like 5 teaspoons in weird places?

How could your friend call the landlord? That seems very strange. Are they friends?

I would imagine if you broke the lock, then you should replace it but I'm not very familiar with the law in the UK.

They are not friends, she just gets involved in things she shouldn't...

MagicMarker

Well the first thing I always assume when a spoon goes missing is that someone is using heroin. Because, you know, that's a logical conclusion, especially when there are weed smokers around, because that's a gateway drug you know.

Op, move out, otherwise you'll get addicted to the residual heroin on the spoons. Get out now before it's too late!!

R.D. aka MR.D

afterglow wrote: »

They are not friends, she just gets involved in things she shouldn't...

How did she get the landlord's phone number?

Rubberchikken

i don't know how your friends decided she should get involved, but maybe in future, don't tell her things unless you actually want her involved.

if you broke the door, then i'd say it's your responsibility to fix it.

if the people you're sharing with are doing drugs, then maybe start looking around for a different place.

things will happen as you're growing and learning, it's part of life. as you get older, and wiser, you'll learn how to handle things differently.

take care