How do I know if a guy likes me?

madmen2015

I become friends with a guy I met online, we've gone out as friends twice, he's been a proper gentleman, told me loads about himself etc but the last time we were out I text him the next day to thank him for the previous evening as he had cooked for me & just looked after me & he used a shortened version of my online username instead of my real name, was he trying to distance himself or appear more friendly?

CaraMay

Sorry it's impossible to know. Did he mention another date. Who arranged the last one?

madmen2015

It wasn't a date as such, it was arranged originally as a get together for a group but everyone had other commitments & when I asked him was it cancelled he said he was up for a few drinks if I would still go. I think he was seriously hurt in a previous relationship as was I so we're both very cautious. I really wish people would say what was on their minds instead of trying to second guess what they mean...men!!

CaraMay

But you didn't say what you wanted?!?!? Why not ask him out? It's no harm

madmen2015

Yeah, that's very true, he told me loads about himself, good & bad...some of it very personal & I didn't do likewise, I'd never ask him out though, I'd be too shy for that, might get around the subject some way. Thanks for taking the time to reply

kylith

You're giving out about him not saying what he means, then doing the exact same yourself! Just ask the guy if he wants to go on a date. What's the worst that can happen? He says no? It's not the end of the world!

madmen2015

That's true

captainfrost

Ask him out, ask him out, ask him out, ask him out...... I won't stop screaming until you do.
Plus it looks like he's not the shy type and also the short version of username is kind of "petnamic"( not a word) in nature so their is high chance that he likes you. But hes trying not to push thing probably following dating hand book or friend advice, remember "he was hurt previously so he is probably taking his time"
Good luck sister.

Matteroffact

If he was trying to distance himself from you he would not reply at all. How long has it been since you met him?

madmen2015

I met him Saturday night, all these dating "rules" wreck my head, I mean we're not teenagers, we're meant to be mature adults. I really don't think he's going to pursue this any further to b honest now that I've had a little time to mull it over but we'll stay in touch I'm sure. Thanks everyone for your feedback

madmen2015

Btw I like that word "petnamic", it should be a word

Stavro Mueller

madmen2015 wrote: »

I met him Saturday night, all these dating "rules" wreck my head, I mean we're not teenagers, we're meant to be mature adults.

Oh don't get me started on these "rules" :rolleyes: I've seen threads on here from people who've done such a good job of adhering to these rules that they've convinced the person they liked that they're not interested.

From the limited information you've given us here, you could be the person at fault in this. I mean, he cooked for you, he told you about himself, including very personal things. But you held back. He might be thinking you are one cold fish. You're coming across that way to me I have to say.

Why don't you just ask him out and be done with it?

Hombre Lobo

Call him or text him, Thank him for the lovely dinner you had and ask him if you can buy him a drink sometime to say thank you.
If he says no then you'll know he's not interested and you're no worse off.

walkingshadow

Just ask him!

SuperGrover

"How do I know if a guy likes me?"

He goes out with you twice, is a perfect gentleman, and keeps in touch after the event.

No?