In a new job, kissed a work colleague then realised he is not single..

LegacyUser

Hi all,

hoping you can help, or at least help me feel better about this.

So, we had a work night out last night and I ended up kissing a work colleague, I've seen him around but it's a big company and I didn't know him at all, I did fancy him though. They were fairly insignificant kisses to be fair; secretly, on 3 separate occasions during the night. we were part of a small group that went back to someone's house and he started moaning to everyone that his partner was giving out to him for staying out all night. Then I realised he also has a 4 year old child with her. It seemed to be common knowledge and we never were on our own together again for me to say it to him, or not say it to him?

I feel horrible now, I hate the thoughts of that poor girl wondering where he was while he was doing that. Also, he's really popular in the company and I'm worried now that if people find out they'll see me as some kind of home-wrecker, although, I can't imagine he's going to be broadcasting it. I'm just wondering if I should just go back to work and keep my head down pretend it didn't happen?

I told one girl that I have become friendly with, she also didn't know he had a partner and I had told her I thought he was nice a few weeks ago... I know she won't tell anyone

iusedtoknow

Is this your first job?

For one thing...kissing someone from the office and then telling someone else about a work kiss is a bad idea. People talk. A lot. You're new in the job and don't want any reputation thrown your way.

Secondly. While kissing a colleague is never a good idea, you did nothing wrong - he is the one that has a partner and child and didn't tell you.

Go back to work, keep your head down and try and remember that even on a work night out, you are still with colleagues and not your friends. Things that happen on work nights can have professional consequences - whether officially or unofficially.

Laoislion8383

The fact he was moaning that his partner was questioning where he was makes me think she has trust issues when it comes to him being out on his own, it was also up to him to tell you he had a partner and child which he didn't makes me also question his morals.

Like the OP said be very careful who you tell anything personal to in work friendships and alliances change rapidly in the work place, keep the head down do your job and say nothing is prob the best bet for the mean time

CaraMay

Op is this your first job? The best advice you will ever get is not to mix business and pleasure especially so publicaly. It wasn't a great idea to tell a colleague either. So best thing is just to go back to work, keep your head down and your slate clean.

If he asks for a repeat performance just say no and you don't appreciate him kissing you with a partner and child at home.

Rubberchikken

keep work professional. tbh this guy sounds like trouble. any man with a partner and kid who's going around kissing some person who works in the same company is not worth the bother.
you've done nothing wrong. forget him and it.

Stavro Mueller

There's a phrase that goes "Don't get your honey where you get your money". It's well worth bearing in mind in my opinion. Lay off the drink at future work dos and don't even think about locking lips with anyone else from your job.

All you can do is hope nobody else knows about this. If they do, you can't do anything about it anyway. What's done is done. You can control the future though. Be as professional as you can and don't get yourself into a situation like this again. Memories will fade.

FizzleSticks

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