Can't trust my friend

LegacyUser

I really don't know whether I can trust my friend or not. We had a bit of a falling out recently, unfortunately her actions (which were the problem) haven't changed much. But she keeps saying how great we are, and how she wouldn't miss a party i'm having(for example), told my boyfriend that she hopes to be a part of our lives etc. Problem is, she's saying all this to other people connected to me, but has never said a word about it to me!

Is she truly trying to make amends, or is she just trying to make herself look good to my friends and family? I'm finding it hard to trust her, she says all the right things to everyone else, but I'm left in the dark as to what her intentions are.

ABajaninCork

If you feel like that, then why is she still a friend?

Oryx

You dont need to do anything dramatic, no need to cut ties, just keep her at arms length, get on with your own life without worrying about her, and let a bit of time pass. Youll figure out where you stand with her and more importantly, whether you miss more contact.

Est28

If she's not acting like a friend, drop her and walk away.

No fights, no arguments, no dramas, just walk away. Simplest thing for everyone.
Had the exact same thing with 2 lads I knew over the last few years. They just acted horribly to me but every time I'd pull away they'd get all nicey nicey and pull on a few heart strings to get me to come back, then revert to their old ways, every time. It is absolutely draining. Walk away.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies

silverfeather

If there is no trust then here is no friendship. I am so sorry to be blunt. Lord knows why she is telling everyone you are friends etc. I can't figure that out.