My boyfriend never makes the first move in bed

Cheekynandos

So I've been with him for almost a year now, he is fairly shy around lots of people but not so much me, and he is very quiet. Don't get me wrong I really like him! The only problem is is that he never makes the first move? It's as if he has no sex initiative? Once I get him in the mood and start things off the sex is great but for once I'd like him to be the dominant one, the thought of being dominated really turns me on! Any ideas on how I can make him more confident in bed?

Witcher

You've come to the right place anyway:pac:

Have yourself ready on the bed for him whenever he gets home.

Fleawuss

I'm sure you will get a lot of offers to "help" you. Hands on training, so to speak.

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identer

It simple, get him in bed flip open your laptop and find a really good porn. Tell him what you want. Their are lot of domination porn out their. Just find a mild one.

You want him to be dominant, but the truth is that it might not be in him. He can try, but someone who is naturally submissive might struggle to be dominant.

Here's an idea; ask him to look up something new to try on you, be it porn or advice websites, and ask him to initiate with it when you're having sex next.

It'll give him the confidence in himself to start, the new abilities, and introduce an aspect of submissive dominant.

blatantrereg

Just tell him directly.
Be passive yourself and try to coax him out.

Typer Monkey

At the risk of pointing out the obvious, have you ever just told him what you'd like? He can't read your mind

Emsloe

Do you actually give him the chance to initiate it? I tend not to be very patient and then get a bit put out that I had to start things when in reality he was gearing up to, albeit rather slowly