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Afraid of moving/not moving abroad

  • 24-05-2015 9:20am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all,
    Im a 23 year old who just graduated this week from architecture in UL. At the moment, I have nothing lined up job-wise. When I was in college, I always had it in my head that I'd move to the UK to get a job, since things here weren't great. Now that I'm finished there are actually some jobs here and there in Ireland, but I still have it in my head to go to England.

    I don't have a huge amount of friends in Ireland, and I suppose part of me was hoping for a fresh start in the UK where I could build a life for myself. My family are saying I'd be stupid to go, and to at least work here for a year to get experience. They think that working for the first time in my career which would be stressful, plus moving would be too much for me. I am not the most outgoing person so I'm afraid I wont make friends, I know how hard it can be post college.

    I dont like the idea of not going because of fear, but I also dont wanna be really lonely over there.
    Anyone got any advice please? thanks


Comments

  • #2
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    You don't have to prove anything to anyone op. I'm sure finishing your course was stressful enough and you don't have to prove anything by heading off when you are not ready. Why not listen to your family's advice and head off in a couple of years when you have experience and a few € under your belt.


  • #3
    loalae
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 547 ✭✭✭loalae


    Of course you should go! You want to go so do it!

    Of course it'll be difficult - the first year after graduation is difficult regardless of where you are. I moved to the UK to work and it has been a great decision for me. Staying at home out of fear of being lonely may sound safer now but going away and proving to yourself that you can do it is fantastic for your self-esteem. Life is for living and enjoying - you already know what life is like in Ireland so why not branch out and try different things? And so what if it doesn't work out? You have a qualification if you go to England and work for a year you'll also have experience. It doesn't matter if you get your experience in England or Ireland.

    If you want to do something and you have nothing holding you back except fear I think you should face the fear and go! If you make a conscious effort to fully engage in life abroad you will meet people and have a social life.


  • #4
    Stavro Mueller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,673 ✭✭✭Stavro Mueller


    If you had to move away to a different part of Ireland you'd find yourself facing into some of the same issues. Any time anyone moves away you have to start again to a certain extent. I think you should go but also put some thought into how you'll go about meeting people over there. Maybe try to get a job in a place where there are young people your age? A house share with people your own age can be a really good start too, though that really depends on who you share with. Are you into football or other sports? Again, a social outlet and a way to meet people. I think you get the gist.


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