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Strange one

  • 15-05-2015 2:00pm
    #1
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 116 ✭✭


    I have just moved into a temporary room rent. The lady here is lovely. But, she is very very very strange about tea-towels.

    I have posted this here as she has fluoxetine on the top of the cupboards.

    Anyway, the lady must have about 50 teatowels, stacked.

    They are in piles in the kitchen, but I will have only used one and it will be gone. I have no choice but to use another one, 30 mins later.

    She keeps a relatively clean house, the bathroom moreso than anywhere else. She has a cat who sits on the table and countertops. Her washing of dishes leaves a lot to be desired and I always wash everything before I use it.

    I'm just wondering about the teatowel thing!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,831 ✭✭✭Torakx


    I have shared with many different types. Germaphobes tend to have irrational fears about bacteria etc.
    Often the people like this that I have shared with, are OCD about one particular thing that was forcefully and regimentally applied in the house when they were kids.
    They may ignore other dangerous hygene issues and focus all attention on the ones that were drilled into them.
    I would imagine seeing the "issue" pop up, in yor case a tea towel perceived to be wet or whatever, to be in conflict with their unconscious self. That child pops up when triggered and rational thought is not involved.
    The people I shared with often let go of these issues,once they discovered why they do it and that they don't need to do it.But that process often took weeks, months, years. Depending on the person and their past experiences.

    My current housemate used to have issues with cleanlyness in the kitchen. But after sharing with a lot of people, he realised it was just too stressfull, trying to follow them around tidying little bits and pieces.

    I'm not going to offer a solution though. I have always had a way of intuitively bringing those issues out in the person unconsciously and causing them to question it themselves(their idea not mine), at the right time.
    But that requires a lot of trust. Something I build up very fast(self depricating and honest).
    Ok, the one thing I found useful for building good relationships and trust, is to offer your weakness first. After a while it is reciprocated and a bridge is opened(rapport), across this bridge things can be shared and over time, **** just pops out in this safe zone. After it is clear there is no judgment and even more acceptance for offering these things. The person often feels empowered to let go or to see it more clearly for what it is.
    The bonus is that i also get to do this as well. And both people grow.

    Sorry , can't resist saying!
    Your first step might be to genuinely not consider this strange. You reach that by understanding they were trained(or trained themselves) in an army like fashion to function that way. Therefore they are perfectly normal in their actions or fears.

    PS, i was on fluoxitine myself. It's used for anxiety to level out. Terrible with alcohol, otherwise I didn't notice that much difference. My issue was physical though..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18 Lazerwolf


    Maybe she doesn't reuse tea towels due to a fear of contamination and that is why she has so many.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,885 ✭✭✭JuliusCaesar


    Have you asked her? It would seem to be the simplest way of finding out.


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