I want to wear a skirt

LegacyUser

I am a 35 year old man and I have always wanted to wear a skirt instead of trousers, I wear a skirt most of the time at home.
I have been considering going out in public in my skirts and then start wearing skirts all the time .
I wear midi-skirts, my favorite is a beige midi skirt which I wear with socks, shoes, a shirt and a cardigan .
I do not try to look like a women when in skirts, I prefer to present myself as a man in a skirt .
I would like to know what people think or any advice ?

CaraMay

I think if it makes you happy then you should go for it.

seventeen sheep

Well you're free to wear what you want, but do be prepared you'll probably draw some negative attention to yourself (funny looks at least, and quite possibly abuse from immature scumbags.) This shouldn't stop you from doing what you want to do, but you should be aware of it.

As far as I know, there are clubs that host nights out just for crossdressers/transvestites/transgenders etc (although I couldn't tell you where or when!) While you might not identify with any of those "labels", it could be a "safe" place to experiment with wearing a skirt publicly.

racso1975

Anonymous poster wrote: »

I am a 35 year old man and I have always wanted to wear a skirt instead of trousers, I wear a skirt most of the time at home.
I have been considering going out in public in my skirts and then start wearing skirts all the time .
I wear midi-skirts, my favorite is a beige midi skirt which I wear with socks, shoes, a shirt and a cardigan .
I do not try to look like a women when in skirts, I prefer to present myself as a man in a skirt .
I would like to know what people think or any advice ?

Are you strong enough emotionally to withstand any comments that people may make? If so enjoy and do whatever it is you want

Would wearing it into work cause any difficulties?

seventeen sheep

I think it's also worth considering WHY you want to do this?

Is It purely a comfort thing? I'd be physically more comfortable wearing pyjamas all of the time in and out of the house, however the physical comfort wouldn't be worth it for the perceptions people would form of me. So I never would do it.

Is it a case that you want to express your own personal sense of style? I guess you need to consider whether wearing a skirt would be appropriate wherever you work (if you work) ... e.g. people in very corporate environments are expected to wear conservative suits all the time, it mightnt be to their taste, they mightnt feel comfortable, but that's the acceptable dress code so they just have to get on with it.

I can't help but think that a certain part of this might be actually wanting to see how people react? Nothing wrong with that, just so long as you're aware that many reactions will be negative, and be prepared for the fact that you will be drawing attention to yourself - again, is it worth that to you? If so, go for it, no reason not to.

LegacyUser

racso1975 wrote: »

Would wearing it into work cause any difficulties?

I checked last week with my boss and she does not want me to wear any bright skirts in to work but she said she would be ok with me wearing grey, dark green or blue midi skirts to work .

kylith

I would certainly support you doing what ever it is that makes you happy, however as other have said you will have to be prepared for small minded idiots to react badly. If you'd like to wear a skirt but are concerned about people's reactions would you consider a kilt as a compromise?

Rubberchikken

i agree with others.
if you feel strong enough to deal with whatever anyone says/does, and they will sad to say, then go ahead. imo, people should be able to wear what they want.

beks101

Is it just a comfort thing or are there deeper motivations EG you prefer women's clothing and this is just the first step in what may lead to further cross dressing, etc?

Worth figuring that out so you can wrap your head around its meaning to you and whether or not it's worth the risk to you socially, professionally, romantically etc.

Of course it's a free world and one should wear what one wants and all that, but the reality is that it will change a lot of people's perception of you and it may prove to be an obstacle in very many situations.

Aseth

Would wearing a kilt be an option for you? You wouldn't draw that much unwanted attention and your boss might be more comfortable agreeing to it.

LegacyUser

Aseth wrote: »

Would wearing a kilt be an option for you? You wouldn't draw that much unwanted attention and your boss might be more comfortable agreeing to it.

After reading your post I searched for images of men in kilts on the internet and the skirts that I wear do not look a whole lot different from some of the kilts shown on the internet, I mean like a plain kilt and I wear socks with them just like kilt wearers do, so I could easily make a skirt look more like a kilt, although I prefer plain material, I think a plain kilt would appeal to me.

Berserker

I don't know where you are based OP but do you have any contact with people who dress up? Have you considered looking for bars, groups or even cross-dressing meets in your area?

bjork

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Sure half the Dublin are wearing skirts/dresses. ^^
wear it if you want. There might be a odd comment but in general people won't be bothered. Do what makes you happy

BertyytreB

I live in the Pacific and all the men wear Sulu's (in Fiji), Lavalava's (in Samoa), Ta'ovala (in Tonga)

Completely normal and makes more sense. Guys of all ages and sizes, just makes sense out here.

Stavro Mueller

OP not everyone in real life's going to be as tolerant as the people advising you on this thread when it comes to a bloke wearing a skirt in public. Despite Ireland becoming a much more liberal country, there are still quite a few people who will take a dim view of what you're planning to do. They might not say out loud what they're thinking but don't fool yourself into thinking there won't be consequences.

Ireland's a small place so if you try to change jobs or go for a promotion, you could get labelled as a skirt-wearing weirdo. It's a label that is going to be attached to you for life. Even if you only go out for one day in that skirt, people will remember. It's not the societal norm for Irish men to go walking around in a skirt so you are going to attract attention whether you want to or not. You're probably going to get hassled by random strangers and verbally abused. There's always the risk you could be physically assaulted. You didn't say what your relationship status was. If you're in a relationship have you discussed this with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Even if you're single, wearing a skirt is going to have implications too.

You'd need to be very careful about "outing" yourself in public like this. There's no going back from it. Have you thought through all of the repercussions of this? Are there any reasons other than comfort why you want to do this? Think very long and hard before you step outside your four walls. There's no going back from this.

shaymus27

Stavro Mueller wrote: »

OP not everyone in real life's going to be as tolerant as boardsies when it comes to a bloke wearing a skirt in public. Despite Ireland becoming a much more liberal country, there are still quite a few people who will take a dim view of what you're planning to do. They might not say out loud what they're thinking but don't fool yourself into thinking there won't be consequences.

Ireland's a small place so if you try to change jobs or go for a promotion, you could get labelled as a skirt-wearing weirdo. You're probably going to get hassled by random strangers and verbally abused. There's always the risk you could be physically assaulted. You didn't say what your relationship status was. If you're in a relationship have you discussed this with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Even if you're single, wearing a skirt is going to have implications too.

You'd need to be very careful about "outing" yourself in public like this. There's no going back from it. Are there any reasons other than comfort why you want to do this?

OP you need to take heed of Stavro's post.

I am all for not conforming to other people's attitudes and being an individual but sometimes it's not on to do something even if there should be nothing wrong with it.

I don't remember ever seeing a male wearing a skirt unless it was a fancy dress occasion. Whatever feeling of freedom you get initially will be over-taken by other people's negative attitudes.

If you walk in a rough area you will surely get abuse.

Find out how others get to wear skirts but do not go out in public in daylight wearing a skirt. The quote I have included tells you why. You may need to speak to a professional if you feel you can't wear a skirt despite wanting to.

LegacyUser

Hi op i had an ex whose father liked to wear women's clothing he told me before i visited their house i had no issues with he was a lovely man. But he never wore them outside or only to special events. I would have no issues about walking around with friends who cross dress in public. I know that is different from you presenting as male in a skirt.

The things is if you have an excuse to be dramatically confident and sassy like a drag king people have no issue. Or don't approach. But a normal person breaking with convention is seen as a target.

I say do what you feel but protect yourself.

I am non judgmental i am nice to good people. I would go the ends of the earth to protect my friends. If anything happened it would be devastating. That's the only thing that would worry me.

Here is an idea if you have a small group of friends ask them if how they would feel if you wore it to a thing were it's just them a party or something.

As a female i have no issues with guys who do it whatever the reason or full cross dressing etc.

I don't know how the world will act ...i would worry for you. But try doing it around a circle of friends anyway. If you feel on the basis of this more confident the try it.

My own opinion is whatever you wanna do do.

Robsweezie

OP im so sorry if you might feel like you have to conceal this part of your life from public view but I cant help but echo the suggestions that you do just that. im all for expression and being what you want, I personally wouldn't say a word to anyone walking down the street in a skirt, that's their prerogative, but I might stare for a second because its human nature to be drawn to something a little deviating from the norm. its not the norm in Ireland, so while I may not give you hassle over your skirt, there's an abundance of dickheads out there that will. how are you emotionally? strong, resilient? you have to ask yourself that before you brave the outdoors because theres a strong chance you will come up against adversity and intolerance, and you have to be ready for that. I know it sounds stupid and petty, its only a dress, c'mon! but some people could see it as an invitation for abuse and harassment. the world is a ****ty place at times. hate crimes do happen.

perhaps before you make this step to 'out' your cross dressing, you could speak with a trusted friend or better yet a professional who could offer up their viewpoint and teach you techniques and coping mechanisms to deal with any hostility and intolerance you may encounter.

one thing I would hate to see, and this has been referenced above, is you venturing out in your skirt full of confidence and self belief only to be torn down by mean spirited taunts and physical threats barely a minute out the door.you may believe you're strong enough to take it in your stride and carry on, but you never truly know until you're faced with in the moment. you are going to raise some eyebrows over this OP, so have a think. best of luck, health and happiness in whatever you decide.

silverfeather

I think what we are saying is if there is a reason not to wear it then it's because of the world and not because of you. More than likely if you were walking down the street there would be hundreds of people who would say nothing and maybe even think good for you.

But there might be one for every hundred who was what is wrong with the world. And they are what is wrong. If this is a deep need you have to feel acceptance for you start off around your friends more and see how it goes for you.

Be safe.

looksee

I was at a conference last year and there were a few men wearing plain kilts (for no particular reason that I could see, though it must have been some sort of uniform as there were several of them), they looked fine and did not create any comment or adverse reaction at all. For whatever reason kilts look fine with socks and shirt, many other styles of skirt would not, but you seem to have sorted that angle. If you want to wear a skirt because of the female connotations though, a kilt might not be what you are looking for.

LegacyUser

looksee wrote: »

I was at a conference last year and there were a few men wearing plain kilts (for no particular reason that I could see, though it must have been some sort of uniform as there were several of them), they looked fine and did not create any comment or adverse reaction at all. For whatever reason kilts look fine with socks and shirt, many other styles of skirt would not, but you seem to have sorted that angle. If you want to wear a skirt because of the female connotations though, a kilt might not be what you are looking for.

I wore a kilt years ago and I was unhappy with it because it was too short, I prefer a garment that is long enough to cover my knees, unless I could get a longer kilt I would not wear one .
I started wearing a skirt to work last wednesday and there was no problem so I wore it in for the rest of the week as well on thursday and yesterday, I dressed the same as I normally do for work except for wearing a skirt instead of trousers and when I got into work I hardly noticed I was in a skirt and I was more comfortable than when in trousers .
I have decided to wear a skirt most of the time from now on .

shaymus27

Hi OP,

You write that you wore it in for the rest of the week as well on thursday and yesterday, today is Friday so there is no yesterday as well as thursday. Is there any way you are getting confused over the days you wore your skirt?

For anyone thinking of wearing a skirt in public the OP's apparent success in wearing his skirt is, I believe, completely unlikely to be replicated by you wearing a skirt to work or in public. Please seek advice as to the appropriate way in which to cross-dress before even thinking of cross-dressing in public. It is a risky thing to do and you should be very careful.

LegacyUser

shaymus27 wrote: »

Hi OP,

You write that you wore it in for the rest of the week as well on thursday and yesterday, today is Friday so there is no yesterday as well as thursday. Is there any way you are getting confused over the days you wore your skirt?

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Sorry, I finished work on thursday and thought friday was saturday .