No invite

LegacyUser

I'm with family members at the moment.

My mother and sibling were talking about a trip that they're going on later in the year - they've already booked it, a few other family members have been invited too. This is the first time I've hear of it, and it's been booked for weeks. And I just feel hurt. Honestly, it's not because I want to go, because it's really not my sort of holiday. It's the fact that I wasn't even invited or asked. Or even told about it. Almost like it's a secret.

I'm just silently sitting here listening to the details because I don't want to make a hassle with visitors here. I feel really hurt.

I really feel mad. And I feel like I have to say something. I would consider all of us to have a close relationship. Maybe that's why it hurt so much.

Am I overreacting? Or would anyone else feel upset after this?

honey79

Op sorry your feeling that way. I have been in this situation with my family before they don't include me in plans usually like you I only hear of these things afterwards if I ask how am I only hearing about this now I get we didn't think you would be interested

Why do they do it because for a long time I wasn't interested and always said no so in my case it was my own fault I never included myself in their plans either

Could this be what happened being honest when it comes to family you don't need to wait for an invite you just join in and if you want to go just tell them

TimeToShine

Maybe they are aware of the fact that it's not your sort of holiday and chose to spare themselves the rejection?

Rubberchikken

i can see how you'd feel hurt. tbh the least they could have done, even knowing it mightn't be your type of holiday, was ask.

tell your mom how you feel. if you're close, she should be able to see your point of view and understand where you're coming from.

ok, you wouldn't want to go on it, but just being asked is nice. hope you get an answer.

Pawwed Rig

I think you are over reacting. If you would not go anyway then maybe they know this and that is why they didn't think to mention it to you. If you want to go then tell them you want to go and book your seat.
To cause a scene over a thing that you have no interest in where you are otherwise getting on fine with everyone is just attention seeking imho.

iusedtoknow

so you didn't receive an invite to something your didn't want to go to?
Personally I'd be happy enough that my family knew me well enough not to bother. There is no point in causing a scene over this - the end result is they'll feel bad - invite you, and you go (even though you don't want to) and ruin it for the people that did go and wanted to go in the first place.

Count your blessings.

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I would say to the OP that if his/her family have a history of being secretive then yes you are right to feel left out and be upset, I would be. However if this is a one-off from your family then as others have pointed out they probably didn't mean anything by it and as such should be approachable about the whole situation.