How to show women the real you.

Iron Man 2.0

I'm the kind of guy that goes for a night out hoping to meet a woman that I have a connection with to keep in contact after that night and hopefully build a relationship in if we feel a spark. Sadly no luck yet.

Most of my friends have never had a girlfriend as they are only interested in casual encounters with women.

I would be quite quiet (Not shy) but I never seem to be able to show women the real me which I think most would like.

I would consider myself caring, nurturing, romantic and loving
I try to be a gentleman and I always respect women which not many of my friends do.

Any advice?

Kevin McCloud

Get busy living or get busy dying.

bodice ripper

What is it you are doing when you are not being the real you? Stop doing that.

catbear

I find the easy way for women to see me as I am is to not wear a balaclava.

jungleman

Go out. Make eye contact with a female. When she takes the bait and strikes up a conversation, answer only with "THAT'S A SPICY MEATBALL"

Women find it irresistible.

ardinn

Seriously, bang everything in sight, you'l get no street cred being nice!!

Also bang a pennies employee - Pennies girls talk about that **** - Be good tho!! or you'l be single forever!!

PizzamanIRL

You never really get to show women the real you during the short period of time on a night out. They'll make their assumptions about you there and then and you might not ever get the chance to show them how caring etc. that you are.

It's a shame really.

Wacker The Attacker

Why do you think I'm still single?

Macavity.

I spend my time around women trying to hide the real me.

Miall108

Show her the back of your hand

Sound of Silence

Don't go to Nite-Clubs looking for a Girlfriend. You're wasting your time.

Honestly, if you're looking for a committed relationship, you should try online dating. It's much easier to sort through the masses and find someone who's (A) Interested in you and (B) wants a long term relationship.

waffleman

Show her dick pics when introducing yourself - bitches love dick pic intros

Mesrine65

To thine own self be true....

Seriously...just be yourself.

If you're being honest in your OP, I doubt you'll have any problems.

A few heart breaks down the line, but hey, life's for living & sometimes the best thing will just walk in, whup you upside the heart & the head &....SHAZAM :eek:

Best of luck in your quête de l'amour OP :cool:

enfant terrible

Iron Man 2.0 wrote: »

I'm the kind of guy that goes for a night out hoping to meet a woman that I have a connection with to keep in contact after that night and hopefully build a relationship in if we feel a spark. Sadly no luck yet.

Most of my friends have never had a girlfriend as they are only interested in casual encounters with women.

I would be quite quiet (Not shy) but I never seem to be able to show women the real me which I think most would like.

I would consider myself caring, nurturing, romantic and loving
I try to be a gentleman and I always respect women which not many of my friends do.

Any advice?

Your best best is to expand your social circle so your introduced to new women.

Don't just talk to women on nights out, talk to everyone.

Friend of a friend seems to be how most people hook up.

Wide Load

Just whip it out watch her get weak at the knees. Works a treat.

Iron Man 2.0

Mesrine65 wrote: »

To thine own self be true....

Seriously...just be yourself.

If you're being honest in your OP, I doubt you'll have any problems.

A few heart breaks down the line, but hey, life's for living & sometimes the best thing will just walk in, whup you upside the heart & the head &....SHAZAM :eek:

Best of luck in your quête de l'amour OP :cool:

Thank You

The Backwards Man

Most of us dudes are spending our lives trying to hide the real us OP.

Just tell them you're a pilot and wing it from there.

Tigger

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Te-jTA8g8Ys

or there is a Who version if you don'y love the 80's

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pohhMx9EdNc

you need to take your life in your own hands and be bold in your actions
so look at where the type of woman you want to meet would be comfy in and go be comfy there.

Edit: i mean like ice skating rinks not peoples sitting rooms.

Heckler

I just lob the lad out. Women love a good laugh.

Wabbit Ears

I'm pretty good at the old chat up and can usually get them to come home with me but when it comes to explaining the duct tape and bags of quick lime I get coy and shy and mumble a lot. This turns them off so Ive never really has a lasting relationship, I mean they rarely survive more than 5 mins tops.

Mesrine65

Kevin McCloud wrote: »

Get busy living or get busy dying.

catbear wrote: »

I find the easy way for women to see me as I am is to not wear a balaclava.

jungleman wrote: »

Go out. Make eye contact with a female. When she takes the bait and strikes up a conversation, answer only with "THAT'S A SPICY MEATBALL"

Women find it irresistible.

ardinn wrote: »

Seriously, bang everything in sight, you'l get no street cred being nice!!

Also bang a pennies employee - Pennies girls talk about that **** - Be good tho!! or you'l be single forever!!

Miall108 wrote: »

Show her the back of your hand

waffleman wrote: »

Show her dick pics when introducing yourself - bitches love dick pic intros

Wide Load wrote: »

Just whip it out watch her get weak at the knees. Works a treat.

Heckler wrote: »

I just lob the lad out. Women love a good laugh.

Wabbit Ears wrote: »

I'm pretty good at the old chat up and can usually get them to come home with me but when it comes to explaining the duct tape and bags of quick lime I get coy and shy and mumble a lot. This turns them off so Ive never really has a lasting relationship, I mean they rarely survive more than 5 mins tops.

Gotta love AH

WE TAKE NO PRISONERS :eek: :eek:

Strangely that came out in my head as Gerard Butler in 300 :pac::pac::pac:

Littlekittylou

Iron Man 2.0 wrote: »

I'm the kind of guy that goes for a night out hoping to meet a woman that I have a connection with to keep in contact after that night and hopefully build a relationship in if we feel a spark. Sadly no luck yet.

Most of my friends have never had a girlfriend as they are only interested in casual encounters with women.

I would be quite quiet (Not shy) but I never seem to be able to show women the real me which I think most would like.

I would consider myself caring, nurturing, romantic and loving
I try to be a gentleman and I always respect women which not many of my friends do.

Any advice?

Date me.

The Diabolical Monocle

Littlekittylou wrote: »

Date me.

omg omg omg

*claps hands, hops up and down*

Heckler

Iron Man 2.0 wrote: »

I'm the kind of guy that goes for a night out hoping to meet a woman that I have a connection with to keep in contact after that night and hopefully build a relationship in if we feel a spark. Sadly no luck yet.

Most of my friends have never had a girlfriend as they are only interested in casual encounters with women.

I would be quite quiet (Not shy) but I never seem to be able to show women the real me which I think most would like.

I would consider myself caring, nurturing, romantic and loving
I try to be a gentleman and I always respect women which not many of my friends do.

Any advice?

Just don't regard yourself as better than your friends. Slight whiff of white knight from your post. "Why do the women go for the bastards. If only they could see how great I am". Not saying thats your case just don't be a doormat either. Trying to show someone you don't know that you're caring and romantic doesn't work. They realise that in time having gotten to know you.

The Diabolical Monocle

OP - seriously now, dont show her your inner emo.

less dawsons creek, more macho man randy savage.

Littlekittylou

The Diabolical Monocle wrote: »

OP - seriously now, dont show her your inner emo.

less dawsons creek, more macho man randy savage.

His wife seems nice.

http://s671.photobucket.com/user/marchbunny27/media/Extra%20Stuff/Miss-Elizabeth.jpg.html

Littlekittylou

The Diabolical Monocle wrote: »

omg omg omg

*claps hands, hops up and down*

Serious he is a prince!

The Diabolical Monocle

Littlekittylou wrote: »

His wife seems nice.

http://s671.photobucket.com/user/marchbunny27/media/Extra%20Stuff/Miss-Elizabeth.jpg.html

Ooooooh yeeah.

Off the top rope.

Littlekittylou

The Diabolical Monocle wrote: »

Ooooooh yeeah.

Off the top rope.

OMG I used to watch WWF as a kid. I remember the undertaker!

And Hogan!

johnny osbourne

tell funny jokes, that usually works

Adamantium

Be caught in the "moment"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T9IZDInBv1M

waffleman

Bitches love tea and toast.

suicide_circus

Just waiting for someone to tell the OP to avoid pubs and clubs and to try sports and special interest clubs or activities to meet women....this is a myth that needs to be challenged... have never in my life heard of a person meeting someone in a sports/activity club...I have heard of many people meeting someone in a pub/club

TheBeardedLady

suicide_circus wrote: »

Just waiting for someone to tell the OP to avoid pubs and clubs and to try sports and special interest clubs or activities to meet women....this is a myth that needs to be challenged... have never in my life heard of a person meeting someone in a sports/activity club...I have heard of many people meeting someone in a pub/club

Top 3 places to meet people:

1) Through someone you know
2)Pubs and bars
3)Online

Not to say you can't meet someone in a knitting group but the above 3 is how every single person I know met their partner, including myself.

Littlekittylou

waffleman wrote: »

Bitches love tea and toast.

God yeah!

Littlekittylou

suicide_circus wrote: »

Just waiting for someone to tell the OP to avoid pubs and clubs and to try sports and special interest clubs or activities to meet women....this is a myth that needs to be challenged... have never in my life heard of a person meeting someone in a sports/activity club...I have heard of many people meeting someone in a pub/club

Old man pubs are best where you can chat.

Karl Stein

Tell her you love her on your first date. Women love that.

NoCrackHaving

suicide_circus wrote: »

Just waiting for someone to tell the OP to avoid pubs and clubs and to try sports and special interest clubs or activities to meet women....this is a myth that needs to be challenged... have never in my life heard of a person meeting someone in a sports/activity club...I have heard of many people meeting someone in a pub/club

I know of at least 10 couples who met through sports clubs and that's just off the top of my head. Granted I don't live in Ireland anymore so maybe it's just a cultural thing.

anncoates

Iron Man 2.0 wrote: »

I'm the kind of guy that goes for a night out hoping to meet a woman that I have a connection with to keep in contact after that night and hopefully build a relationship in if we feel a spark.

Michael Bolton could work magic with these lines.

SEPT 23 1989

TheBeardedLady wrote: »

Top 3 places to meet people:

1) Through someone you know
2)Pubs and bars
3)Online

Not to say you can't meet someone in a knitting group but the above 3 is how every single person I know met their partner, including myself.

and the workplace

PizzamanIRL

Chocrealo wrote: »

What's the real you?

He's the kinda guy the little homies wanna be like
On his knees in the night saying prayers in the streetlight

Santa Cruz

Suggest joining a bondage club to find the real you

Watch Grease 2, it'll teach you all you need to know.

Homer

Whoever you start dating just make sure YOU are the crazy one!

The Corinthian

Iron Man 2.0 wrote: »

I would be quite quiet (Not shy) but I never seem to be able to show women the real me which I think most would like.

I would consider myself caring, nurturing, romantic and loving
I try to be a gentleman and I always respect women which not many of my friends do.

Any advice?

Ask someone else, someone you respect, to describe the 'real' you.

Reality is that when people describe themselves they're more likely to describe who the want to be rather than who they are. Like guys who moan how girls don't go for them because their nice - the reality is they don't go for them because they're boring (maybe even creepy) and always moaning about how girls don't like them.

So ask others, who know you, their assessment of you. They may well also be off the mark, but if you ask a few you'll quickly see a pattern which is who you are, far better than self any assessment.

Santa Cruz

Just tell them not to believe everything that was said in court. A lot of those school girls were overage

Mint Aero

Tell her your boards username. She can read your posts and see the real you.

Pat Mustard

suicide_circus wrote: »

Just waiting for someone to tell the OP to avoid pubs and clubs and to try sports and special interest clubs or activities to meet women....this is a myth that needs to be challenged... have never in my life heard of a person meeting someone in a sports/activity club...I have heard of many people meeting someone in a pub/club

Not saying to avoid pubs and clubs but I know several people who met through common interests in martial arts clubs, hiking/walking groups and even tag rugby. It's reasonably common.

Pumpkinseeds

I'd give pubs and clubs a miss if you're looking for a long term relationship. It's too messy when people are drinking and you don't see the real person. I met my husband at work.

bb1234567

Your personality seems more suited to finding girls in a quieter environment, like maybe through college/work, or a quiet pub, or some activities clubs, I don't know...anyway yeah just not a loud club. Quiet people don't really do well in there seeing as you can't exactly strike up a deep conversation when its too loud to hear what you're saying. If you want to pull in a club you need to be loud, outgoing and funny right front the start with her

Dramatik

My advice is to get a time machine and go back in time, cause I don't think women like that exist any more.