Confused

squashman

Hi guys. I recently went on a date with a lad and it went great. However my problem is that he has not spoke to me since Tuesday. He has a lot going on at the moment. Just wondering if he is still interested or not really and wat would ye do in this situation. like should I just forget about him or should I wait for a while first. Really confused wit this. Any help would be appreciated.

Ten of Swords

Its only friday, calm down! Id casually call or text him and find out if he's doing anything at the weekend, you'll know pretty quick if he's interested or not. Have you tried calling him since the date? He's probably wondering the same thing you are

squashman

ya I called him but got no answer either. I suppose I'm just getting carried away really but I just don't get why he has stopped all means of conversation yano. iv probably been a little possessive as well so I think he might have got sick of me really. Really don't know if I should try and text him again or not.

Ten of Swords

If you had a good time and you'd like to see him again then text him. If he doesn't reply then he's not interested and you just have to move on.

I honestly cannot stand guys that don't have the balls to just say they're not interested but that's the way it is sometimes, if you do text him don't obsess over it if he doesn't reply, especially if you are prone to possessive behavior, it will make things worse for you in the long run. Plenty more guys out there if this doesn't work out or he could just be busy!

Ash885

I always make the rule that if I start getting that feeling of 'Am I texting too much?' then without a doubt I am. Because (a) it's making me feel uncomfortable trying to message them so God knows how they're feeling, and (b) I shouldn't be made feel guilty for doing so in the first place.

I've been in that situation and seriously, there's plenty of better looking, taller and funnier light at the end of that tunnel ^^

floggg

People really over think these sort of things.

Firstly, I'd never call a guy after a first date. I dont call my good friends die chats so it would be weird getting a call from a guy I just met.

Secondly, asking a guy out on a second date shouldn't be such a big deal. If the date goes well, shoot him a text the next day to let him know you enjoyed yourself and you'd be up for doing it again if he's interested...

It clear, unambiguous and yet minimal, and makes things clear for everybody. He knows the ball is his court, and you won't need to try and guess his state of mind. He'll either contact you and make his position clear, or he won't and you will know he's not interested for whatever reason and you can move on quickly, save in the knowledge he wasn't all that if he can't even manage a text to say he's not interested.

hfallada

Ten of Swords wrote: »

I honestly cannot stand guys that don't have the balls to just say they're not interested but that's the way it is sometimes, if you do text him don't obsess over it if he doesn't reply, especially if you are prone to possessive behavior, it will make things worse for you in the long run. Plenty more guys out there if this doesn't work out or he could just be busy!

I don't text them and say it isn't working. 90% of dates I have been on and know it's going no where. I have found the feeling has been mutual and we both dont text each other afterwards. If it's a good first date, they will usually tell you are cute/hot, ask you can they meet again and also lots of eye contact