Home Security Appreciation - Mod note post #4

Roosterreid

I'd be interested to know if other men's partners appear to have a lack of appreciation for even basic home security...

My girlfriend consistently leaves the house without checking doors / windows (frequently left open) - setting the alarm is far beyond her! She leaves her car unlocked and without me checking, would probably have been stolen by now. She's an intelligent girl, but this 'dizziness' drives me up the wall!

Is this common?

And before you ask... no, you cant have my address!

pwurple

Not gender specific.

It's the opposite in our house. My husband is oblivious to leaving downstairs windows and doors open... only remembers the alarm about half the time (luckily it can be set remotely from the phone). And rarely locks vehicles.

It's just fallen to being one of my roles. He does bins, I do lockup.

seamus

No, exact opposite. My wife is paranoid about it. Locks both locks on the front door when she's in the house on her own, religiously checks all of the external doors and windows (including balcony doors on 3rd storey balconies).

I'm usually pretty good about it, but less concerned. I wouldn't double-check that anything is locked and I have been known to forget to lock the car overnight or leave keys in the door once or twice.

ancapailldorcha

Guys, I'm going to leave this open for now. Please avoid lazy generalisations about either gender.

Thanks.

H3llR4iser

It can happen, it has nothing to do with intelligence nor appreciation for "security" - some people are simply absent minded when it comes to what they consider "minial" tasks. I often forget where I put things I had in my hands minutes before, and a couple of times I left all four of my car windows down overnight (in one occasion, getting to work in the morning was...interesting!).

Another factor to consider is that habit might be playing a huge part: is she from a city or from some small town/rural area? If it's the latter, she might be used at not "having" to lock stuff up, as "nobody steals" where she is from (you have to wonder why thieves don't all move to these villages!).

ancapailldorcha

I've been burgled myself so I'm a bit paranoid about making sure that doors are locked. Ironically, the junkie that originally robbed me just kicked the door in.

Calibos

My brothers are the same. I had to use the love of our dogs against them to program them to lock the fcuking door when they came back from the pub. Gentle reminders didn't work. Narky reprimands didn't work. Note reminders placed near door didn't work. What worked in the end was painting a horrific picture for them. ie. That our small dogs would charge down the stairs at the intruders and we couldn't stop them and they'd quickly have their brains splattered across the hall floor from a baseball bat or a knife stuck in them or massive internal injuries from a kick to the ribs. I told them to picture that every time they came home to remind them to lock the fcuking door. It worked. However it annoys the fcuk out of me that I had to resort to that for something so simple and common sense as locking the door at night.

Tokyo

Roosterreid wrote: »

I'd be interested to know if other men's partners appear to have a lack of appreciation for even basic home security...

In another lifetime, I used to work overseas in the field of home automation and home security, and while trying not to generalise, we would certainly have installed far more security systems for single females than single males. And when called in after a burglary had taken place, I would say that the numbers were actually slightly in favour of the women here. Where women tended to be more wary of someone coming into their home at night, a lot of the men I met had more of a 'sure I'm a big guy, who'd dare break into MY home' mentality... until of course it happened.

But as mentioned in the first response, it's far from being a gender specific issue. Where many people presume that women are more at risk because they were deemed to be the 'easier' target, quite often it was men who were targeted because they never entertained the possibility that they could fall victim to an incident.

Wibbs

Since the OP is a sitebanned rereg and it looks like this was only a baiting exercise on his part, thread closed.