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Time off work for death of parent

  • 25-02-2015 10:30pm
    #1
    culabula99
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7 ✭


    My Dad has just died and I am his only surviving relative. My mother died 15 years ago. I am quite young and will have to deal with the estate. We were extremely close, he practically reared me on his own and I am grieving a lot. I work in the civil service and my managers have been very supportive and said take as much time as you need. I took a week before his death to care for him and the doctor gave me a cert for another three weeks. Is this too much? I never take time off and would be a well regarded employee who works very hard, giving extra hours a lot. Would like to take the time off as I could get a lot of paperwork done and take some time to myself. How much time off have people taken for a close family/next of kin bereavement in your workplace?


Comments

  • #2
    Charlie19
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,817 ✭✭✭✭Charlie19


    Sorry for your loss OP.

    It's down to yourself and when you feel that you'd be able to return yo work.

    People will deal this type of bereavement in different ways and while some may take a few weeks, others may return after a couple of days.


  • #3
    vicwatson
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,404 ✭✭✭✭vicwatson


    Boardsies are here for ya op.


  • #4
    Kelly06
    Closed Accounts Posts: 509 ✭✭✭Kelly06


    Hi op, sorry for your loss x

    You might be entitled to force majeure leave for some of the days before your fathers passing. The entitlement is a max of 3 days in any one year and 5 days over 3 years. You should take this leave if you can. You will also usually be entitled to compassionate leave of 3 days for the death of a parent in civil/public service.

    Everyone deals with grief in their own way so dont use other people as a yard stick to measure yourself with. Go easy on yourself x


  • #5
    Mrs OBumble
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,286 ✭✭✭✭Mrs OBumble


    culabula99 wrote: »
    ... and the doctor gave me a cert for another three weeks. Is this too much?

    Sorry for your loss OP - it's extra hard when you're quite young, and most of your peer group haven't had to deal with these issues before.

    If your doctor has issued a professional opinion that you need three weeks, then you definitely need to take three weeks. You actually don't have a choice about it: once the certificate is issued, no manager should allow you anywhere near the workplace.

    Take the time, and use it as well as you can. First priority is to look after yourself, and do what you need to do. And if you don't feel able to face work after three weeks, go back and see your doctor again.

    The bad news is that you probably won't get much paperwork finalised in that time, but you will be able to get thing started.


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