How far is too far? (Long Distance Relationships)

The Wallflower

I'm just wondering because im wondering for online dating. Im from Donegal and there aren't that many matches close to my area.
A lot of the cute girls seem to be from Dublin which is 2 and a half hours drive from me.

Is there much of a point trying to get their attention and to make a connection if a long distance relationship won't work?

Thanks

DUB0207-old

If you never try you will never know... is that simple!

You have nothing to lose. Go for it!

Keep the faith and best of luck

unattendedbag

No certainly not too far between Donegal and Dublin. You wouldn't be breaking any distance records. However I will say that where long distance relationships differ from others is the end goal. What is the long term aim? And now is a good time to think about it. Do you want to move in with a partner eventually, would you consider moving to Dublin to make this happen or would you require them to move to Donegal or somewhere I'm between? You should have a general intention so you can steer the relationship in the right direction and avoid future disappointment.

If you were to date someone in Dublin it would require serious commitment and effort. This means constant communication and a plan for regular meet ups and making plans together in the early stages to make it work.

Stinjy

Something to consider; Do you have a car/ access to a car regularly? Donegal can be a pain to get to and especially in the early days when it's just meet ups and stuff you don't want to be confined to a bus schedule. I tried this once with a guy from the North and it made it really difficult that neither of us had access to a car. Thankfully the trains were pretty regular but still a bit of a pain in the ass! Though that's not to say it can't work we had a good 2 years..

Also depending on your (and her) lifestyle/jobs i.e if you both do similar things like Monday to Friday jobs it'll make meeting up and contact much easier than say if you work nights and she works days and weekends or something! No harm in giving it a shot though and see what happens, but I would agree with unattendedbag that you should have a long term idea of what you want (living in Dublin vs Donegal). Work out your priorities and go with it!

Supercell

I'm happily married five years with 2 kids to my wife who I met on holiday in China. It was a couple of years before she could come over here and often 4-6 months between visits over there. Webcams, phone calls and surprise letters in the post though can keep the relationship alive . Its not easy OP , but if you believe she might be the "one", then don't let her slip away! Don't be that old guy who wishes he tried his luck with that girl back in the day..
If it doesnt work out then at least you'll have given it a shot and won't have any regrets.

njs030

It's manageable but as others have said it takes work and there has to be an end goal where someone will move.
You need to be able to talk a lot to make up for the lack of face to face visits, face time/Skype etc are brilliant but both people really do need to want to work at it.

ash23

About the same distance between myself and my partner and we make it work (been together well over a year). It works for us because he has to come to my neck of the woods a couple of times a week for work.
We both have children so at the beginning we didn't see each other for a couple of weeks at a time but as time went on we were able to see each other more. We average 3 to 4 visits a week now. I will say that he does 90% of the traveling because of the way things work out. If he weren't so willing to travel as much as he does, I'm not sure it would have worked out because I'm not really in a position to share the travel because of commitments I have where I live.

So to sum up, it can work but everything kind of has to fall into place and effort is needed. Sometimes various commitments at home mean it might not take off because of the distance but if you can get a decent routine going, it can go perfectly fine.

Loughc

The Wallflower wrote: »

I'm just wondering because im wondering for online dating. Im from Donegal and there aren't that many matches close to my area.
A lot of the cute girls seem to be from Dublin which is 2 and a half hours drive from me.

Is there much of a point trying to get their attention and to make a connection if a long distance relationship won't work?

Thanks

I'm from Tipp and I got chatting to a girl from Dublin, I didn't drive at the time so it was a 4 hour bus journey to get to Dublin or a two hour drive for her.

It can work if both people WANT it to work and want to see each other. We're going out over 3 years now and we're living together and engaged.

Viber & Skype/Facetime are great for when ye are not able to meet face to face.

Long distance can and has work if both parties are willing to put the work in. Just like any relationship. It takes work from both parties and give and take on both sides.

keithclancy

These days you have the Internet, back in the days before the Internet people would either get used to not talking or paying a sheet load of cash every month on phone calls