Constantly on the move

I'm moving house again. I rent, in shared houses. For the last 16 years. I've only been in this place for 18 months. Longest I ever lived in any one place since leaving the family home is two years. It's so hard to get your head around, you settle quickly into a new routine, new bus routes, new shops, when you put down roots, to have to up and leave again. I wonder if it doesn't have a very negative mental effect, whether noticed or not.

It does take time to adjust to leaving one place and starting afresh in another, but to do this ten times in 16 years seems like it must be somehow affecting my ability to settle and relax in any given place - not the same, but in a way, homeless. Always have a roof over my head but never confident enough to call a place home.

Over to you, AH, I'd imagine I'm not the only one who feels this way, lives this way, and experiences the effects of moving constantly!

kneemos

Stop moving then.

Not exactly realistic when renting in houseshares.

The Backwards Man

I'd hate all that upheaval all the time. I only got around to disposing of my Leaving Cert notes last week.

Holsten

I'm the same and I actually enjoy it.

I'd feel trapped if I didn't think I could be completely gone within a few days/weeks/months.

syklops

In 11 years I have lived in about 12 properties. Longest period was for 4 years, in a really nice house in a really nice area.

When I moved into my current place I asked for a 2 year lease for the simple fact that I couldn't face the thought of another house hunt and another move. However, I reckon in the next 9 months or so I will be moving closer to the city. Where we are at the moment, is very far out from town, so commuting is long and arduous.

Rackstar

I don't envy you. I rented for the last few years. Couldn't take it any longer, living with strangers isn't for me.

Moved home and I'm saving every last cent. Hoping to buy a place of my own this year. I don't ever want to go back to living with randomers.

I would love to have the means to rent my own place, so I could actually put down some roots, if the place was ideal! But as it is I move from houseshare to houseshare. This place was perfect for over a year, then a new guy moved in and all hell broke loose, and I can't stand it anymore. It's not just the moving, either - in houseshares there's the constant shift of housemates too.

I agree with an above poster that it can be exciting too. But really, I'm about to turn 34 and I would like to come home to a place and say I'm home. I do believe the moving around has a negative affect on one's mental health too!

Karl Stein

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lgGKSjiw0HQ

the evasion_kid

I've been doing this for years,I'd normally get sick of some were around the two year mark, then pack up my worldly possessions a blender and a fish tank and onto greener pastures

darrcow

im 44 years old and lived in 28 places. longest was 13 years :eek:

boobar

I house shared for many years out of necessity.

He/she seems nice....was usually followed by he/she's a freaking header...

I only ever felt "at home" when I moved in with my girlfriend into our tiny one bed apartment

dmc17

kneemos wrote: »

Stop moving then.

Fran1985

I've house shared for a long time. Currently live with mates and it makes it much easier. previously, i was fairly lucky with no REAL odd balls. Everyone's a bit weird aren't they?

SPM1959

Been doing it for a few years myself.

One bad experience of living with a group of loon balls but that only lasted about 2/3 months before I left.

Lived with a couple for a few years too which although they were grand it brought it's own challenges.

Looking forward to calling some place 'home' in the next few years.

humanji

Karl Stein wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lgGKSjiw0HQ

Please tell me I'm not the only one who gets a little teary eyed when they hear that song?

Lia_lia

I hope you'll never have to fill out a Garda vetting form, op. It's asks for every address you've ever lived in! I lived in 10 places before I turned 7 years of age! Filling that form out was a nightmare.

Son Of A Vidic

darrcow wrote: »

im 44 years old and lived in 28 places. longest was 13 years :eek:

Is that you Lord Lucan?

Mongfinder General

Before I bought my house I lived in some right hovels. Lived with some right dirt birds too. It's an education.

C.K Dexter Haven

this would be a good thread in retro forum :pac:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FuVmT67LELM

TheBeardedLady

Done a good bit of moving places/flats meself. Hometown (Co. Dublin) to Dublin city to hometown to Coolock to hometown to Wolverhampton to hometown to Edinburgh to London to hometown to Dublin City flat to another Dublin City flat to hometown to South America for 1 year where I moved around every week or so to hometown to Madrid where I've moved flat 6 times in 5 and a half years - I've been in this flat for 2 and a half and that's the longest I've lived stayed in one home since 2000.

Dying to move flat/city again tbh.

Karl Stein

humanji wrote: »

Please tell me I'm not the only one who gets a little teary eyed when they hear that song?

He was a heart-breaker that dog. At the end of each episode the people he rescued from various travails wanted to adopt him but he'd walk to the gate, look back one last time, and head off on another adventure.

gctest50

humanji wrote: »

Please tell me I'm not the only one who gets a little teary eyed when they hear that song?

sad enough i suppose, after all that he gets rabies

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FUPMGI8iqH8

Tigger

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I'd hate all that upheaval all the time. I only got around to disposing of my Leaving Cert notes last week.

I threw mine out today
I'm 39

Karl Stein

gctest50 wrote: »

sad enough i suppose, after all that he gets rabies

But he doesn't get rabies. He traps a rabid Raccoon in a shed and saves some kids from it.

Lia_lia

Lia_lia wrote: »

I hope you'll never have to fill out a Garda vetting form, op. It's asks for every address you've ever lived in! I lived in 10 places before I turned 7 years of age! Filling that form out was a nightmare.

Done it. It took twenty minutes. My boss asked what was taking so long.

Badly Drunk Boy

I lived in a flat for a month in 1993, another one for 5 months in 1995, and only 2 other places (one of them being my grandmother's, to keep her company). I live in the house I grew up in, buying it when my parents moved.

R.D. aka MR.D

you know until i saw your post I hadn't thought about the fact that in the last 10 years I haven't lived at the same address for longer than year. I've lived in 4 different countries since then too.

Honestly, I'm also getting a bit sick of moving all my earthy possessions all over the place. I might try to stay in this country 2 years but as of right now I don't see it.

I get too restless.

How does somebody pick a place and say; 'this is it!'.

Tonyandthewhale

Lived in the family home until shortly before my 19th birthday. Since then (now 24) I've lived in 9 different houses/apartments in 3 different countries, 6 different cities and I've been homeless twice. It does get a bit wearisome.

Mesrine65

I travelled round the world for 3 years with a tent & a motorbike...once ye've a tent, ye'll always have a home

DeadHand

If you can take a punch, you could always try to join the Travelling community.

They never go anywhere.

WoollyRedHat

Just get a mobile home and been done with it.

Grayson

plus the older you get the more crap you pick up.

Grayson

Grayson wrote: »

plus the older you get the more crap you pick up.

This, times 100. My mother told me to get all my crap out of the parental home, get out and move out! (I think it was mostly "Are you ever going to settle down?") Now most of my accumulated crap is piled high in my childhood bedroom again, books, odd assorted bits of furniture and a birdcage full of budgies. But I can't get rid of much of it, it's things I've gathered over my whole life, plus plenty my grandmother gave me!

skittles8710

Have lived in 9 different house shares in the last 8 years. Longest was 3 years. Living with strangers is a pain in the hole and hope this will be my last stint.

Tarzana2

Fran1985 wrote: »

Everyone's a bit weird aren't they?

Yup.

Anyone who thinks they're not - sorry, you are.