How to meet people

LegacyUser

Hi,
Short question, How on earth do I meet girls ? I am 30, live at home due to my job, no idea how attractive I am, dont drink and really do not enjoy the "going to the pub" thing, or bluntly any large group activitves. I just honestly enjoy my own company.

Is my personality not compatible with ever meeting girls ? Never even kissed a girl, and honestly its starting to prey on my mind at this stage.

Any advice?

DUB0207-old

Have you tried internet dating?

Aseth

Maybe try meetups? They are great since you can meet people interested in the same things you are. It might make it easier to meet girls that way.

LegacyUser

It's interesting that your post title says "how to meet people", but your OP asks how to meet "girls". You're 30. You don't want to meet girls, you want to meet women.

You need to see women not as some other species, but as human beings. Women are people, and you should try not to think of all women as "potential mates". If you can do this, then you might be able to speak to women you meet with respect, not in a pub or club, but in your day-to-day life.

Not all women will want to be in a relationship with you, but eventually some woman might, if you can get to know her and treat her with respect.

micar

join a club e,g. running or triathlon......

I'm in a club and there are plenty of fit girls. Pity is that I'm a fairly decent runner and I train with guys.

There are actually more girls than guys in the club.

If you are not into sport then join a club that you have a hobby in particularly if it's a mixed gender hobby. Make sure it's something that you'll get to converse with people. See if they do nights out.

I've always wanted to join amateur drama group .



The interest dating this is hard. I;ve been on a few dates and nothing has come from it.

B.A._Baracus

coldanddamp wrote: »

It's interesting that your post title says "how to meet people", but your OP asks how to meet "girls". You're 30. You don't want to meet girls, you want to meet women.

You need to see women not as some other species, but as human beings. Women are people, and you should try not to think of all women as "potential mates". If you can do this, then you might be able to speak to women you meet with respect, not in a pub or club, but in your day-to-day life.

Not all women will want to be in a relationship with you, but eventually some woman might, if you can get to know her and treat her with respect.

That is one of the most condescending posts I have ever read on boards.ie
The OP was simply using slang. You know... girls, women, birds (insert other slang here) etc.
But rather than listening to the problem and give advice, you went on some tirade about how YOU had a problem with the words they used. FFS like!!!!

shyandprivate wrote: »

Hi,
Short question, How on earth do I meet girls ? I am 30, live at home due to my job, no idea how attractive I am, dont drink and really do not enjoy the "going to the pub" thing, or bluntly any large group activitves. I just honestly enjoy my own company.

Is my personality not compatible with ever meeting girls ? Never even kissed a girl, and honestly its starting to prey on my mind at this stage.

Any advice?

Hi shyandprivate,
Dating is about putting yourself out there. It's just simple logic and it can be classed as a numbers game. The more girls you interact with, the more chance you have of entering a relationship.

Try online dating. Yes, there are so many pitfalls to doing so, but by reading this you can be putting yourself out there within 10 minutes by setting up a profile.