Talk too much when nervous

LegacyUser

I get this thing sometimes where I talk a lot when nervous or not relaxed, especially if it's around a guy I like. Today we were having lunch in a group. I was chatting away with him and others, talking fast and responding to things people said in silly or jokey kind of way that I probably would not normally. I think back now and realise I might have come across to him a bit funny and maybe pushed him away with this behaviour, although I did not realise it at the time. He is more on the quiet side. Maybe I didn't want him to feel he had to make conversation as I can talk more easily, even though a lot of what I was saying was nerves and could have been annoying.

If you're a guy do you think you'd be put off by this or would you know if it was nerves?

The next time I see him I'll be more relaxed and myself as I'm fairly sure now that he likes me, or he did like me but who knows after today.

Littlekittylou

unreg0001 wrote: »

I get this thing sometimes where I talk a lot when nervous or not relaxed, especially if it's around a guy I like. Today we were having lunch in a group. I was chatting away with him and others, talking fast and responding to things people said in silly or jokey kind of way that I probably would not normally. I think back now and realise I might have come across to him a bit funny and maybe pushed him away with this behaviour, although I did not realise it at the time. He is more on the quiet side. Maybe I didn't want him to feel he had to make conversation as I can talk more easily, even though a lot of what I was saying was nerves and could have been annoying.

If you're a guy do you think you'd be put off by this or would you know if it was nerves?

The next time I see him I'll be more relaxed and myself as I'm fairly sure now that he likes me, or he did like me but who knows after today.

I do it too. Or I constantly seek reassurance that i am not boring someone.

I have quick mind though and a quick wit. I always think 'they should hear what I DON'T SAY'.

Maybe you get his quietness and he will get you. And he won't find you annoying. Maybe he will just like you the way you are?

JAMES VI

If I was him and I liked you, I would find it completely endearing. You were just BEING. In the moment, and exuding your happiness in the form of chatter and general excitedness. You're grand!

skallywag

unreg0001 wrote: »

If you're a guy do you think you'd be put off by this ... ?

I would personally certainly be put off by someone who babbled on and on. Some of my friends other halves do it repetitively and it drives me crazy, I'll duck out of any such conversations at the first possible opportunity. These are people who go on like this regardless of whether they are nervous or not though, they unfortunately just seem to be wired this way.

pookie82

unreg0001 wrote: »

I get this thing sometimes where I talk a lot when nervous or not relaxed, especially if it's around a guy I like. Today we were having lunch in a group. I was chatting away with him and others, talking fast and responding to things people said in silly or jokey kind of way that I probably would not normally. I think back now and realise I might have come across to him a bit funny and maybe pushed him away with this behaviour, although I did not realise it at the time. He is more on the quiet side. Maybe I didn't want him to feel he had to make conversation as I can talk more easily, even though a lot of what I was saying was nerves and could have been annoying.

If you're a guy do you think you'd be put off by this or would you know if it was nerves?

The next time I see him I'll be more relaxed and myself as I'm fairly sure now that he likes me, or he did like me but who knows after today.

Life would be pretty boring if everyone who was quiet or shy went out with someone else who was also quiet and shy.

Maybe you're exactly the antidote to his own reservedness. Opposites attract and all that.

Next time you're in a group with him, stop over-thinking it and try to be yourself.