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making decision about future

  • 28-01-2015 11:43am
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    power pants
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  • #2
    skallywag
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    If you do not take said risk will you be able to live at peace with yourself or of you think it will always be gnawing away at you?


  • #3
    castaway_lady
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    You cant afford to keep living in Dublin longterm! That's the bottom line. You now have an opportunity to solidify a better future at a point in time when it can be done. There are potential costs to this, as there always are with decisions. But what's the cost of the alternative...poverty? Wondering?
    Do the next stage of homework if you have not already done it. How fast can you get a job after training in your new field? Talk to recruitment agencies and search the internet. Four months is a short time spell for a potentially large reward and better lifestyle.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
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    power pants wrote: »
    I have been living in Dublin over 16 years now and really love the city and people. I consider here home.
    --If it was not for the savings in my bank, my salary would not cover the costs each month of my outgoings.
    --Once I pass this, I will be located within a mile of my parents with a good job and family support.
    --I have no family whatsoever in Ireland and no chance of buying a house for stability when im paying so much in rent and other costs . Move back and I will be able to buy a house easily enough too.
    No contest, OP. You MUST pass this training, for your future& your daughters.
    If you work hard& stay focused, there will be no risk.
    Explain to your daughter that it's short-term separation, for longterm happiness


  • #5
    power pants
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  • #6
    Shrap
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    I'd go for it! From what I can see, you want to but the thought of disrupting your child's world even for 4 days is upsetting you. Think about this - you can say this to your parents, give them a heads up that she will be missing her school friends and I'm sure they'll pull out all the stops to spoil her and entertain her. She probably won't want to leave them! Make a plan with them so your mind is at ease.

    One thing though that rang an alarm bell for me. She seems a little upset about the four days apart. If it were me, I'd not be asking her if she's ok with it, I'd be telling her what a great time she's going to have on an adventure at Gran/Granda's house. Also, I wouldn't indicate that I was upset at all. They take every cue from us to know how to react, so a) if you're seeming unsure, she will be too and b) if you ask her if it's ok, that's nearly the same as telling her you don't know if it's ok. Be cool, and go for it. Kids are extremely adaptable - it's not like you're leaving her with people she doesn't like, right?!


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