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Hard on myself, or mine own fault?

  • 21-01-2015 2:26am
    #1
    Nynaeve
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 62 ✭✭


    I met him online three and a half years ago. Perfect at first. but I was unemployed and I didn't like the idea of him paying for everything.

    Eventually, (2 years in) I got a job. I got a job near where he was living so we could live together. I moved in and it was brilliant! We shared everything. We did the place up, from a bachelors pad to a couples apartment at least. Furniture, lamps, candles etc etc

    I hated the job though, proper hated it. It made me an awful person, truly I was a bitch. A year in I was coming home and just screaming at him, just because I needed to scream and he was there.

    The week before Christmas he told me to just quit. We discussed it, If I quit my horrible job that was making me a horrible person, we could concentrate more on our relationship, which was going to the dogs. we could financially survive together (as we had in the early days).

    I did. I gave my notice, and that night he broke up with me.

    I don't even really know what I want here. I'm in shock, and I'm suddenly unemployed. I'm heartbroken.

    Practical advice though? I've been putting off collecting my stuff. When I moved in it was only a car load. But the nature of building a home with someone means it might be 2/3 car loads. Also, we bought the george forman/ toaster etc. etc. together, whose entitled to that stuff? pillows/duvets etc.

    Long post, I'm sorry. But if anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it


Comments

  • #2
    Rubberchikken
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,093 ✭✭✭Rubberchikken


    no wonder you're in shock. that a lot to deal with so suddenly.

    i, personally, would never argue over with someone over a duvet, grill or pillow, for that matter, so relax about those things.

    concentrate instead on where you're going to live and start looking for work etc.

    focus on your life and what you want and remember your independence.

    take care


  • #3
    Dutchess
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 385 ✭✭Dutchess


    Wow, I am really sorry Nynaeve. It's really not cool of your partner to suggest to you to do something for the sake of your relationship and them break up with you the same day...

    I would suggest really focussing on self care. Take a bit of time to get over this, I assume you have a place to stay/live? Make a list, maybe with someone's help of the things you need to do now, like contact Social Protection, updating your CV but don't rush yourself too much.

    Good luck!


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