Girl with crush on older guy

OlderGuy

An opinion required from the ladies;

I’m a 30 year old guy who has been working from a university library for the past few weeks. Whilst there, a 20- 22 year old student nearby seems to have developed quite a crush on me… All the classic body- language & signs are there… So far, so good…

Yesterday as I left she was waiting strategically for me with one of her friends, maybe hoping I’d say hi, or maybe planning to approach me herself… As I walked past it was quite clear how nervous she was / going bright red / looking quite uncomfortable & panicky, with her friend subtly trying to calm her…

When I saw this it made me kind of uncomfortable… Over the years I've had my heart broken so I know what it feels like… I’ve also broken hearts & it’s not cool to see that pain in someone… However this has always been after actual relationships that grew out of friendship and where “real” emotions were involved (not meant to diminish how this girl feels in any way).. I guess I haven’t experienced a “crush” like this in quite a while..

Maybe I’m getting soft in my old age, but she kind of reminded me of my younger sister (who is very attractive & has been messed around by older guys once or twice) and I don’t want to upset her either way…

She is a good looking girl, but I don’t find myself instantly attracted to her (it’s rare to experience that mutually from the very start).

So, I find myself wondering if I should go and say hi and get to know her (& thereby get her hopes up without necessarily leading to anything) or whether I should just steer clear (& thereby lead to her feeling rejected – she knows I can sense her attraction, it’s quite obvious).

If you were this girl (or her less emotionally involved big sister), what would you want me to do?

pharmaton

you forgot to add the option of moving this thread to personal issues

Lucyfur

MOD

Hi there OP,

Welcome to Boards

Unfortunately, us women aren't of single mind so we can't tell you how she feels.

All the best,

Lucy