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Advice?

  • 09-01-2015 11:29pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I've been friends with a girl for two years. We started chatting through twitter and then became friends and grew close through similar interests and eventually confiding in one another. We decided to meet up last weekend for a small gig and it went awful. I had never talked to her over the phone or on skype but I didn't expect it to be so awkward! It's not that there's anything wrong with her, it's just that we were both stuck for conversation nearly the entire time. It felt like she was a stranger and she probably thought the same of me. It was so uncomfortable. She looked exactly like her profile pic on Twitter too, it's just things like her accent and mannerisms that made me feel like she was a randomer who I hadn't the first clue of.

    We were texting for a bit on Wednesday but it felt laboured so the conversation petered off. My issue is; is that it? After two years of friendship do we just drift apart..? It seems a waste, but I feel like I don't even know her. If she asked me to meet up again I'd probably dread it, it was that bad.

    Any advice is appreciated, thanks.


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  • #2
    Saralee4
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    When I first started going out with my husband, I met him when I was on a weekend away. I was staying in a hotel with some friends and we met in the nightclub. We texted a lot for about a month and then decided that I would go to his for a date. The only thing was that I would be staying at his place because he lived a good distance away from me.

    He was a total gentleman the whole time but because it was our first proper date it felt that it was too long to be in one another's company. I got a bit homesick actually and I just wanted to go home and after a couple of hours of chatting there were a lot of awkward silences.

    I text him on the way home and said 'look it was really awkward towards the end, so I think we will just leave it'. He kind of agreed.

    About two days later, he text me and said something like 'I really like you, I know it was awkward but do you want to give it another shot and see how it goes'.

    I was resigned to the fact and wasn't that fussed but when he text me and was so honest and upfront and I didn't feel any pressure, and also I felt that he really liked me enough to have the courage to ask again so I gave it another shot and now we are married. the next date went much better and we laughed about the awkwardness of the first date.

    It takes time to get to know each other and sometimes it doesn't come straight away even if you have talked in depth online or text. It depends how you feel since the date. You obviously both have some connection. I think just be honest with her and if you want to meet again then ask her. If not then maybe you should still have an open conversation about it and then cut ties.


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