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Male/Female Friendships.

  • 09-01-2015 6:04pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Can you be close friends with someone of the opposite sex and not develop feelings for them or is that bound to happen every time at some point or other? Every close m/f friendship I've had has ended in disaster because either I or the other person developed feelings. Is there any point really?


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  • #2
    catonthewire
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 201 ✭✭catonthewire


    Yes it is possible to have close friends of the opposite sex and not be attracted to them...
    One of my male friends, whom I met late in life is a fantastic friend, we share a lot of common interests ect and have no feelings for eachother...
    Out of curiosity , at any stage before the friendships ended did you both try to iron out the problems?...


  • #3
    iusedtoknow
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,698 ✭✭✭iusedtoknow


    yep, one of my closest friends outside of my marriage is a woman that i've known 15 years (known her since I was 16) and have never had feelings for her

    My wife has a lot of close male friends that have turned into my own friends, all of them either gay or coupled up.

    It is completely possible, and by not having close friends of the opposite gender, you're cutting yourself out of a great part of being human.


  • #4
    Wompa1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,193 ✭✭✭Wompa1


    It's possible but at the same time, my current girlfriend just had a good male friend of hers try his hand. I guess there's more risk involved..maybe


  • #5
    strobe
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,872 ✭✭✭strobe


    ylp wrote: »
    Can you be close friends with someone of the opposite sex and not develop feelings for them or is that bound to happen every time at some point or other? Every close m/f friendship I've had has ended in disaster because either I or the other person developed feelings. Is there any point really?

    Maybe you're just too really, really, ridiculously good looking? I saw a documentary about a woman that had her face eaten by a chimp once. Have you considered buying a chimp and making snide comments about it behind it's back to gossipy people that are likely to repeat them to it?

    Yes of course it's possible. My evidence for this, all the millions of people that manage it perfectly fine.


  • #6
    Tokyo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,656 ✭✭✭✭Tokyo


    strobe - I'm baffled as to what you re trying to say here, but I"m guessing that it's not helpful, nor is it constructive.

    OP, I'm shutting this thread down, as the Personal Issues forum is for specific issues - it's not geared towards general discussion, as your thread seems to be.

    Regards,
    Mike


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