Should I go.for it ??..

catonthewire

Hi,

Myself and my ex broke up earlier this year, I was devastated but respected his decision to end the relationship..
My life has changed since then, I had counselling and am.enjoying new interests and friendships...

I was introduced to a lovely man a few weeks before Christmas, there is a definite mutual attraction and today he suggested me go out on.a date..

The problem is my confidence is a bit shaky after my ex ended our relationship, I am nervous and stupidly even a bit scared , which sounds ridiculous..
Should I explain this to him.or just hope I'm.okay on the night so to speak?

Stavro Mueller

I think you should go on the date and see how it goes. If you feel a bit tense after the first few minutes, just say that that you feel a bit nervous and perhaps make a little joke about it. It's only a date and not the time to tell him how hard your breakup was. Good luck!

December2012

Don't talk about your breakup on the date, but if you are nervous and you're getting on well you could just say "oh it's been so long since I had a first date" in a light hearted smiling way, and get on with enjoying yourself.

As far as I can tell, most people are a little nervous on a first date.

catonthewire

Thanks for both your replies...
No I won't delve into the ex conversation, will just mention as suggested that I'm a bit nervous, am usually a fairly confident woman but don't want to let my nerves get the better of me...

Thanks again...
Will let you know how the date goes...:-)

SATSUMA

Perfectly normal to be nervous on a first date he will be the same! Go and have fun you deserve a new fella! You might feel less nervous if you get a new dress/ lippy/ hair done etc just to boost your confidence! Good luck!

Littlekittylou

I used to try explaining the whole 'i'm nervous' thing usually i found people less than understanding. I think you should let him get to know you first. A lot of the time they don't need to be told they can see.

But i still get out there and my best and good on you for trying. Also if you find a guy who understands and accepts you that's pretty amazing cuz then you don't feel nervous.

When you meet someone you feel nervous when they are really special you don't feel so nervous and that's how to get to know each other.:)

Well done for getting out there!

catonthewire

Update...

Met for lunch yesterday, had a lovely time...
He was as nervous as me.lol...

We chatted for two hours and not one mention of past partners...
Meeting up again for a cinema date next week, thanks once again folks!!