wtfjusthappened

LegacyUser

I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now. We have had our ups and downs but we both love each other and things have been going great.

I went home to spend the christmas with my parents and he with his. He would ring me every day for a chat.. all good.... then 2 nights ago i woke to 2 text messages on my phone from him.. ranting about how he knows i'm cheating on him and he wants me to pack my bags...

I have never cheated on him ever...he started going on about bruises on my forearms (I have always bruised like a peach, i could have bruises on my arms or legs always) now he is putting them down to having an affair.

I'm not quite sure how to deal with this... i have done nothing wrong but yet he bombarded me with alot of very hurtful comments...

I need advice

Mick Murdock

Tell him you're not and never have cheated and then tell him to get f*cked.

gipi

Any chance he didn't send the texts himself? Someone got to his phone? Have you spoken to him since you got the texts?

degsie

That itch gets awful itchy after seven years. Just sayin'

Ethel

Has he ever accused you of this before?

If you've never given him cause to doubt you, do you think he just wants out and is shifting blame onto you?

Stavro Mueller

Does he take drugs by any chance?

ahnow

He could be cheating himself and trying to divert the blame. Poor you OP, really horrible thing to happen.

Tokyo

At risk of pointing out the obvious, nobody here can give you a definitive answer - you're going to have to talk to him and find out first hand what's going on. Yes, it's possible that he could be trying to deflect blame for something he did while you were away, but it's also possible that somebody has been whispering poison in his ear, saying that they saw you with somebody else, etc. He could also be incredibly insecure and found something that led him to the mistaken conclusion that you cheated on him. Either way, you guys need to talk.

dubstarr

Sounds like hes deflecting the blame.He feels guilty but is blaming you.
Why if you are a couple are you spending Christmas apart especially as you are ltr.Doesnt make sense to me.

John_D80

Mick Murdock wrote: »

Tell him you're not and never have cheated and then tell him to get f*cked.

Yes because that will really put his suspicious mind at ease. :rolleyes:

OP don't just tell him to get f*cked. This will only exacerbate the issue. I'm also flabbergasted that some people automatically assume he is shifting the blame to hide his own guilt. Didn't see anything in your post to suggest this. Bit silly of some to suggest this without ANY basis in what you have posted so far.

My understanding of it is this, ye parted before Christmas to go to yer own families, when he would have been aware Of these bruises. They did not seem to be an issue until two days ago. Something else happened in that timeframe to make him want to accuse you like that. What or indeed whom, could make him think like this?

What have communications, if any, between you two been like since he made the accusation??

Good luck, ****ty situation to be in.

Candy_Girl

Just talk to him and find out where these suspicions have come from, no point in second guessing.

hardCopy

dubstarr wrote: »

Why if you are a couple are you spending Christmas apart especially as you are ltr.Doesnt make sense to me.

At the risk of going off topic, that's pretty normal. I'm 30, engaged and living with my OH for two years. We both go back to our families at Christmas, so do all the non-married couples we are friends with.

Lovely Bloke

hardCopy wrote: »

At the risk of going off topic, that's pretty normal. I'm 30, engaged and living with my OH for two years. We both go back to our families at Christmas, so do all the non-married couples we are friends with.

Actually, I've been married for 2.5 years and this is the first Xmas I've spent with my wife, due to the fact we've a baby now.

We used to spend Xmas eve in the parents, then meet again on the 26th (we are from different counties).

toadfly

dubstarr wrote: »

Why if you are a couple are you spending Christmas apart especially as you are ltr.Doesnt make sense to me.

I've been with my husband 10 years and have only spent Christmas day together twice, once we were out of the country and the second was our first Christmas married. We spend it with our families and it doesn't make sense to me that some couples can't spend a day apart, doesn't scream healthy relationship to me.

OP you guys need to talk this one out, find out where the attack came from.