Don't want to be a drag at cousin's wedding?

rosedream

Very minor issue, but since it is my first invite to family wedding, I just want some advice on how to enjoy it.

It will be my first ever wedding to be invited to, and I want to look forward to it, but in all honesty I have been dreading it. I have been the most quiet and awkward in the family so I never been the most socially adept in situations like this. I am invited with my family, but another problem is that I am not socially adept even with them. Overall I would be the one most ignored, especially when there is other company.

Now before anyway gets at me, obviously I am not saying I want to be centre of attention at my cousins wedding. But how can one enjoy it (and maybe mingle with others if possible) and not bring the mood down or look like a drag at the wedding afterparty?

Ideas I keep thinking of us just do want I rather do in situations like this and just escape to bed after dinner, but I don't want to look rude and anti-social to others. I don't get out much as it is, so I want to actually enjoy it. Another is to be in the smoking area a lot (where I find you can have the banter with a lot of strangers), but that is out of the question since unless I can find a secret spot, I don't like smoking around my family.

I just would like to be able to do my own thing, and talk to others. More importantly, I want to make a good impression for my cousin.
But while I haven't been to weddings before, I have been to family social events, and it is disheartening how cliquey people can be at these things when your not well known, at family events of all things.

Just any tips or advice would be good. Thanks

Stavro Mueller

You're turning this into a far bigger deal than it should be. With all due respect, you'll be little more than an insignificant guest in the midst of every other insignificant guest there. The good thing about family weddings is that you'll already know quite a few people at them. You've already got familiar faces to chat to. Hang around with the family members you know the best and you can't go wrong. It's up to you whether you choose to mingle with other guests. In my experience, at weddings a lot of the family groups just tend to hang together and don't really mingle with the people they don't know. That's purely anecdotal though.

Ken.

If your a woman DO NOT WEAR WHITE. Beyond that no one will even notice your there.