Why do people want to have Children

dynamited

Obviously the baby making process is fun but seriously who actually wants to have children?

Big Nasty

Need a legitimate reason to get a Scalextric again.

The Moldy Gowl

All babies are needy arseholes.

Until you have your own and then yours are supposedly well behaved, when they are still gowls

jester77

So I can send them across the street to pick me up a few cold ones when the game is on and I run out.

Oink

dynamited wrote: »

Obviously the baby making process is fun but seriously who actually wants to have children?

Your parents, for a start. 'Sup with that?

Darkest Horse

dynamited wrote: »

Obviously the baby making process is fun but seriously who actually wants to have children?

I often think it seems like a good idea at the time to people before they secretly live to regret it. I've no kids and don't plan on having any but my friends who do, whether they realise it or not, constantly complain about the demands of raising kids and are envious of the freedom I have. It's inherently human to want to breed but I think if you weigh the pros and cons of your own unique situation, you may find yourself overriding the compulsion to multiply.

dynamited

Oink wrote: »

Your parents, for a start. 'Sup with that?

LOL i was a mistake, i never even met my Father

Mr. Incognito

Who else is going to make my sneakers?

Oink

dynamited wrote: »

LOL i was a mistake, i never even met my Father

[Nelson] HA HA! Oh... [/Nelson]

King George VI

Who else am I gonna practice card tricks on?

wilhelm roentgen

I sometimes wonder myself why I bothered, mine are currently running around the house at the moment making an awful racket


Shouting things like, "We're fúcking freezing - let us in!"

whisky_galore

*cough* to get a free house?

Sauve

Well.

When a mammy and a daddy love each other very much, they give each other a very special hug. And then the stork comes to visit them and gives them a baby. You can't just go and get one y'know :rolleyes:

Gongoozler

Have to say, from a serious point of view, I've never understood why people actively want to have children. What is there to want? I quite like not having to feed a screaming yoke in the middle of the night, or having to constantly think about feeding it or clothing it, and then there's the personal side of it. I don't know how anybody could be arrogant enough to be sure they'd raise a new person well. Though some don't seem to give that much thought.

But I think what I don't get, equally as much as someone wanting a child, is people who don't mind. It's a life altering thing, so how can you think 'meh' about it. It all baffles me.

Leeleather

Gongoozler wrote: »

Have to say, from a serious point of view, I've never understood why people actively want to have children. What is there to want? I quite like not having to feed a screaming yoke in the middle of the night, or having to constantly think about feeding it or clothing it, and then there's the personal side of it. I don't know how anybody could be arrogant enough to be sure they'd raise a new person well. Though some don't seem to give that much thought.

But I think what I don't get, equally as much as someone wanting a child, is people who don't mind. It's a life altering thing, so how can you think 'meh' about it. It all baffles me.

I have two young kids, One is four and the other is one. Once they hit three I find it becomes a lot easier. Seeing them smile, laugh, learn etc makes it worthwhile for me.

SEPT 23 1989

its what you were put on the Earth to do,when you see your child being born that realisation hits you

biko

You'll find out in your 30s when your biological clock starts ticking OP

Bio Mech

The species depends on it I guess. It the breeders that keep us rolling through the ages not the child fearing types.

One day when you leave school you might find that special girl too, and then who knows?

efb

Human nature

Lucyfur

Cos lego. And cinema clubs. And roller skates

Oink

My daughter is currently sitting on her mammy's lap. After looking at her feet intensely and thinking about it for a while she decided to grab the left one, and now she's smiling at me. It made me happy. Some people like this kind of things. If you don't, that's fine. Some people do.

Gongoozler

Leeleather wrote: »

I have two young kids, One is four and the other is one. Once they hit three I find it becomes a lot easier. Seeing them smile, laugh, learn etc makes it worthwhile for me.

And good for you. But doesn't really address any of the things that I said. What made you want children?

zl1whqvjs75cdy

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

its what you were put on the Earth to do,when you see your child being born that realisation hits you

Bit sad that the sum total of your life ambition is to create a needy replica of yourself.

Leeleather

Gongoozler wrote: »

And good for you. But doesn't really address any of the things that I said. What made you want children?

The first was an accident, I loved the first one so much I had to have a second, and wanted to give her a sibling.

anncoates

To stay relatively sober at Christmas.

eviltwin

dynamited wrote: »

Obviously the baby making process is fun but seriously who actually wants to have children?

Plenty of people want children. Why they want them is another thing. Who knows. I have two and I always knew I wanted kids, why I want them exactly I can't say. Its just a primal need I guess to replicate yourself. Its hard to explain, the parents here will get it. If you don't have kids its more difficult to understand.

AnonoBoy

Darkest Horse wrote: »

I often think it seems like a good idea at the time to people before they secretly live to regret it. I've no kids and don't plan on having any but my friends who do, whether they realise it or not, constantly complain about the demands of raising kids and are envious of the freedom I have.

Yeah but think of all those fresh organs they'll have to harvest when theirs start to pack in.

You'll have to go on a donor list and wait years.

Bellu

Just like baby and be happy to be a mother, from a mother's view.

boardsuser1

Had the first when i was young and stupid with a woman i knew a matter of weeks **shakes head looking back on it ** the rest with Mrs right and still going strong nearly 8 years on

suicide_circus

Because it is a necessary function of existence of the race? Because society and civilisation would collapse without it? Because we need workers for tomorrow to pay our pensions and to take care of us when we're old? Because not everything is about our own personal gratification? Because we might like to create a life and give it a chance of experiencing the world like our parents did? Our most basic biological imperative? Not all of us have daddy issues, OP.

yipeeeee

It kind of is a selfish act when you think about it.

To bring meaning and happiness into their own lives.

To boast of how proud they are when the kid achieve things because they created it.

But it's obviously a special thing or else people would stop after their first one.

Jawgap

Children are great fun......


.......teenagers are tw@ts - can science not develop some treatment so when they hit puberty kids go into hibernation and come out only when they're interesting to talk to again!

That or an app that gives them a shock every time they roll their eyes to heaven:D

dynamited

biko wrote: »

You'll find out in your 30s when your biological clock starts ticking OP

I'm Male not female

dynamited

yipeeeee wrote: »

It kind of is a selfish act when you think about it.

To bring meaning and happiness into their own lives.

To boast of how proud they are when the kid achieve things because they created it.

But it's obviously a special thing or else people would stop after their first one.

My view of people who have kids young is because they have realized they don't have what it takes to amount to anything so they basically pin all their hopes and dreams on their kids

eviltwin

dynamited wrote: »

My view of people who have kids young is because they have realized they don't have what it takes to amount to anything so they basically pin all their hopes and dreams on their kids

I know plenty of young parents who would debunk that idea.

valoren

People can be very short sighted.
They're not babies forever.

They magically grow into children and then into grown adults.

I quite like the idea of raising some respectful, well rounded adults before I snuff it. Life and Death cycle and all that.

Hoop66

The wife informed me that I wanted children. Safer just to play along.

And we'll have an unpaid babysitter in a couple of years...

Jawgap

dynamited wrote: »

I'm Male not female

You think men don't have a biological clock and a latent desire to pass on their DNA?????;)

dynamited

Jawgap wrote: »

You think men don't have a biological clock and a latent desire to pass on their DNA?????;)

Pass on DNA yeah , but not reproduce

dynamited

OSI wrote: »

Because I have awesome memories of being a child, and I want to relive that happiness through a child I bring it to.

So you just want to boss your Child around and try make them live like you did?

dynamited

OSI wrote: »

No, don't project your crap childhood on to everyone else.

I never said mine was crap


Maybe your's was unbearable so you feel you have to go through it again as a new child

L.Jenkins

Sauve wrote: »

Well.

When a mammy and a daddy love each other very much, they give each other a very special hug. And then the stork comes to visit them and gives them a baby. You can't just go and get one y'know :rolleyes:

That would appear to be a very common phase up your end of the Country, as my soon to be wife, says the exact same thing when describing Adult activities.

dynamited

OSI wrote: »

No, don't project your crap childhood on to everyone else.

Someone's failed at life


Pinning all their hopes and dreams on their sprogs is all they have left

Leeleather

yipeeeee wrote: »

It kind of is a selfish act when you think about it.

To bring meaning and happiness into their own lives.

To boast of how proud they are when the kid achieve things because they created it.

But it's obviously a special thing or else people would stop after their first one.

Every act is selfish.

I don't know if this is a serious question or not, but the short answer is that children bring warmth and love into your life.

Of course you can experience those emotions with a partner but with children it's like multiplying it, even if you didn't think that was possible.

They are also fantastic fun (certainly a lot more fun than most of the adults I know, and I include other people's children in that).

They bring a sense of wonder to your world which is refreshing.

Sorry to be such a drip, but that's the answer to your question. Or at least my personal answer, I can only speak for myself.

obriendj

OSI wrote: »

Because I have awesome memories of being a child, and I want to relive that happiness through a child I bring it to.

dynamited wrote: »

Maybe your's was unbearable so you feel you have to go through it again as a new child

maybe read what others say first?

dynamited

dynamited wrote: »

Obviously the baby making process is fun but seriously who actually wants to have children?

We do. I wanted the challenge. I wanted to bring happiness to another set of individuals in the world. I wanted to put a little more of the girls I love in the world. And much more. My reasoning and motivations for it all are very long and I could bore you for hours.

Jawgap wrote: »

.......teenagers are tw@ts - can science not develop some treatment so when they hit puberty kids go into hibernation and come out only when they're interesting to talk to again!

They did. It is called boarding school.

dynamited

Deleted User wrote: »

I don't know if this is a serious question or not, but the short answer is that children bring warmth and love into your life.

Of course you can experience those emotions with a partner but with children it's like multiplying it, even if you didn't think that was possible.

They are also fantastic fun (certainly a lot more fun than most of the adults I know, and I include other people's children in that).

They bring a sense of wonder to your world which is refreshing.

Sorry to be such a drip, but that's the answer to your question. Or at least my personal answer, I can only speak for myself.

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AnonoBoy

Now lots of people don't want children but I think in their teens/twenties people are more likely to say "Oh kids, they ruin everything - people are such fools for having them!" because at that stage in their life it would ruin everything for them and a lot of us are incapable of thinking that our mindset will change on such a big issue.

But change it will for most... the auld biological clock ticks on, they meet the right person, they start getting broody.

It's hard to fight our own biological urges.

Hoop66

OP's posts in this thread come across as the words of someone who is extremely bitter about their childhood.

Sorry to hear that, and I can perhaps understand why you wouldn't be interested in having children. It's probably not a good idea to assume that all other people feel the same way though, or that your own experience is the "right" one.

anncoates

dynamited wrote: »

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It gets better than they start sleeping through hun xoxo hugz