never teach your partner to drive

Joshua5

I tried to teach my ex wife to drive about ten years ago. We are now separated preparing for divorce. My current lady I gave lessons to and I'm thinking we now need a break after realising she is a gimp during the lessons after four loving years together. Isn't teaching someone to drive a relationship breaker or it is just me...

looksee

What's a gimp? You do seem to be the common denominator here.

Joshua5

looksee wrote: »

What's a gimp? You do seem to be the common denominator here.

I just don't have the patience for them... Do people not feel the same. It changes how you see someone when they are so crap at something.

ProudDUB

Joshua5 wrote: »

I just don't have the patience for them... Do people not feel the same. It changes how you see someone when they are so crap at something.

No. A lot of people are perfectly capable of being patient with people who are learning how to do a given task, be it driving or anything else. Some people are just natural born teachers. Some aren't. From your posts, it sounds like you aren't. It doesn't have anything to do with being anyones partner.

SureYWouldntYa

Joshua5 wrote: »

I just don't have the patience for them... Do people not feel the same. It changes how you see someone when they are so crap at something.

Some people just don't take up things as fast as others

Saying and thinking things like is more why you've lost different partners, nothing to do with driving

Nunu

My partner thought me to drive 5 years ago. She did a great job, but maybe she thought I was a gimp at the time?!

kerry4sam

Joshua5 wrote: »

I tried to teach my ex wife to drive about ten years ago. We are now separated preparing for divorce. My current lady I gave lessons to and I'm thinking we now need a break after realising she is a gimp during the lessons after four loving years together. Isn't teaching someone to drive a relationship breaker or it is just me...

Did you tell her to her face you think she is a gimp? I'm sorry but that just made me chuckle. It's great when you have someone who knows you teach you to drive, from my own experience and knowing the patience my now Late Loving Dad actually had. It is not for everyone though, as not everyone has that patience & I know my own has been tested a few times when I've assisted others, but you just need empathy and try understand they are only learning imo.

Would you prefer to perhaps buy her a few lessons instead of assisting her first-hand yourself?
Just a suggestion that could assist matters,
kerry4sam

Craftylee

A) never teach a friend/family to drive, it always ends in arguments and puts the learner off driving for good
Sounds like you were a bit abusive towards them - not what you need when you're learning something new. It's stressful enough as a learner
C) If I put you in a plane and expected you to fly it within an hour and you couldn't, does that make you a "gimp"?

Just buy her lessons and let a trained instructor do it

Alanstrainor

I think this is more suited to After Hours, you can post there if you like.