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  • 12-12-2014 6:43pm
    #1
    marybyrne1994
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4 ✭


    Hey everyone,
    This is my first post and I dont even know if its in the right category but anyway I'm really in need of some help.

    I've been going out with a guy for two years. He's my first love and he's fantastic. Anyway about two months ago I got very drunk ( I know it's no excuse) and I cheated on him. I cheated on him once with someone I know from college. Later on that night, I ran into a gay male friend on mine and he kissed me for a few seconds. I felt despicable. The thing is, I told him about the fella from college, because I thought he would break up with me over that anyway and there was no need to hurt him more than I had to. But I still wanted to give him the opportunity to walk away. He was mad but he forgave me. And it's been rough but a certain amount of time has gone by and we're kinda back on track again.
    But now I'm wracked with guilt over the other kiss. I felt ok for a few weeks but now I cant eat or sleep and I'm feeling horrific again. At the time, i justified it by saying oh he's 100% gay it doesnt matter. But I really want to tell my boyfriend about it because I feel he deserves better. But then at the same time, I feel its unfair to bring the whole thing up again. So should I tell him and deal with the consequences? Or deal with it myself and move forward.

    Any help is appreciated. And to clarify, I know what I've done is horrible. I just want to know what to do.


Comments

  • #2
    PLL
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 893 ✭✭✭PLL


    The first guy you cheated with was that just a kiss or something more??
    Although I wouldn't condone lying in a relationship, I think the fact you were honest about your cheating with the guy from college you should just let the kiss with the gay friend go. It will make you look like you will continue to cheat and judging by the post, you realise you have made an awful mistake and you are very sorry for it.


  • #3
    marybyrne1994
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4 ✭marybyrne1994


    Yes it was just a kiss, no longer than a few seconds. He told me never to mention it to him again but I keep breaking down crying, which I dont think is fair. So I really want to make a definitive decision, either tell him straight out or leave it locked away for good. Thank you for not being judgemental, I was expecting to be slated on this thread.


  • #4
    spurious
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Education Moderators Posts: 27,316 CMod ✭✭✭✭spurious


    Moved to Relationship Issues in Personal Issues.
    Personal Issues charter applies.


  • #5
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Duplicate thread, other one here, please use the other thread for active advice:
    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2057343640

    Closing this one now.
    Thanks.


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