Wedding nerves help!

butlerjustine

Does anyone have an tips on overcoming wedding nerves?

I’m getting married in less than 3 weeks and I’m starting to feel very nervous as reality has hit that the event will be here in no time at all. I know there will be nerves on the day which will pass once I get in the church but I don’t want to have butterflies in my tummy for the next 3 weeks.

I’m a confident enough person in normal circumstances but the concept of in one day I’ll be walking up the aisle with everyone looking at me, giving a speech and doing a 1st dance is becoming more and more scary. Even when I’m not even thinking about it I’ve nerves in my stomach and not sure how to keep them at bay.

whiskeyman

Turn those nerves into excitement and focus your thoughts on all the positives of the day, and you'll start to really look forward to it.
Seeing all your close friends and family... making the commitment with the one you love... a huge party...
If it's nerves over bits and pieces left to do, be sure to makes lists and check things off as they get done.
It's also great to review those lists as a sense of achievement of all you've done to get here.
And dont forget, everyone wants the best for you and wants you to enjoy yourself, so don't overly worry about the speech, dance etc...
Enjoy looking forward to it all! It's going to be one of the best days of your life!

ABajaninCork

I was too busy to feel any nerves!! Moved over here three days before I got married...

The night before? Took a sleeping tablet. Trust me - I went out like a light!

Whiskeyman's right. Make lists. Check and double check your arrangements. Has the venue been informed of the final numbers yet?
Music for first dance?
Practice your speech into a mirror! :eek:
Have you had your final dress fitting? Is the dress cleaned and ready to go?
Shoes and accessories - Have you sorted them yet?
Perfume for the day - Have you chosen one yet?
Handbag if you're carrying one - Is that sorted?

Finally - the night before. Lay out EVERYTHING you need for the day. From make-up, perfume, underwear, shoes, back down. Believe me, it'll save an awful lot of stress on the day. Remember to wear a hoody/button-up top/dressing gown when getting made up and hair done. You don't want to ruin the look! If you still feel stressed? A couple of drops of Bach's Rescue Remedy works wonders!

And BREATHE! You'll have a brilliant day. Lots of luck!

Gatica

Vitamin B (obviously if your doc/pharmacist says it's ok for you) is supposed to be good for stress and peppermint or camomile herbal teas in the evening are a good way to wind down... Reading interesting books in bed, so you can go down like a light without having your brain racing away as you try to switch off...
Find a brain-numbing hobby, especially one that can be useful to the wedding, I found making table cards/place-cards a great time-consuming activity... it's monotonous enough that you can watch telly in the background but also takes enough concentration that you can't think of other stressful things in your life.
I've also taken up knitting and crochet... LOL!

An Bhanríon

I posted about this a few weeks ago... (don't know how to do the link thing but it was posted 19th of November!) ... and survived my wedding day... (in fact it truly was the best day of my life).

You have been given some very good advice above. The main thing to remember, though, is that everybody at the wedding is on your side. Nobody is trying to trip you up. They all want you to have a great day. This was the one thing I had kind of forgotten before my wedding. It's well over now but I am still getting that fuzzy feeling of everybody being so happy for me that I was getting married.

I ended up having a really tough couple of days coming up to my wedding. Even the morning of the wedding was a bit stressful. This was due to an unavoidable family situation that I had to deal with. I was really worried this would overshadow the day. I remember I practiced my speech (in front of the mirror!) the day before my wedding and ended up in tears. HOWEVER, on the day itself I rocked up to the church and from the minute I stepped out of that car everything was as close to perfect as life can be. Other people stepped in to deal with our 'family issue' so I was able to have a good day. Even my speech, which the day before I thought I would have to cut short, worked brilliantly. Our first dance, we messed up here and there, but we just laughed and kept going because we were having such a good day. Messing up dance steps doesn't matter when you're on top of the world.

The main thing is when the day comes, never mind the details. You have put lots of work into the day. So sit back and enjoy. If the ceremony booklets are late, who cares. If the flowers aren't exactly the way you wanted them, who cares. You are getting married to the person you love...

Have a blast!

pooch90

ABajaninCork wrote: »

Finally - the night before. Lay out EVERYTHING you need for the day. From make-up, perfume, underwear, shoes, back down. Believe me, it'll save an awful lot of stress on the day. !

And things for the morning after, I forgot make up remover pads and my hairbrush!

December2012

As well as the practical things listed above, exercise can really help. Some yoga or Pilates can also help you learn relaxing tools too.