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Stuck in a rut

  • 03-12-2014 10:03am
    #1
    Lucy91
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15 ✭Lucy91


    Hi everyoneone, guess I am looking for some insight on my situation...
    I have been in a relationship with my partner for over 4 years now. We are both in our late 20s. We fell in love pretty soon into our relationship. However, I know I have not treated my partner very well in the four years. I love him and I suppose I am always afraide of losing him as to be honest I couldn't believe my luck when we got together. For me,he is perfect; kind hearted, fun, intelligent and outgoing. As I am always afraide of losing him I tend to nag at him and as a result of my nagging we argue a lot. Mental illness also runs in my family and my partner is aware of this and claims that this is why I am always nagging. To be honest some days I feel totally fine then other days might be a bad day and I feel down about life. In my bad days I put my frustration out on my partner which I know I shouldn't. With this in mind though I have never been diagnosed with a mental illness and I am currentl doing a PhD and have good close friends.My partner has recently started a new job which he loves and has made new friends. I am honestly very happy for him! We only see each other at weekends now and when we do spend time together we argue a lot which to be honest my nagging and insecurity tends to be the root of it. When my partner and I do get along everything is great and he always tells me he loves me . In essence it is only when I nag at him or accuse him of being distant do we argue. My partner claims that he is not happy and told me in our last argument that he no longer loves me even though the same day he said he did love me. He said he is now going to consider if he wants to end the realtionship or not and will let me know in due course. I am afraide I may have lost him for good and I know I am to blame. I feel completely hopeless!


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  • #2
    Rachel Stocky Tannery
    Posts: 0 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Rachel Stocky Tannery


    OP it isn't clear: have you sought counselling/other medical advice? If not, you should - this should be a priority both for yourself AND your relationship. Even if he does decide to leave you need to make sure you're doing well for your own self and to avoid anything like this happening again.


  • #3
    shuffle65
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 204 ✭✭shuffle65


    bluewolf wrote: »
    OP it isn't clear: have you sought counselling/other medical advice? If not, you should - this should be a priority both for yourself AND your relationship. Even if he does decide to leave you need to make sure you're doing well for your own self and to avoid anything like this happening again.

    Agree wholeheartedly...


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